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Regret causing a scene in Aldi

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Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 16:51

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

OP posts:
JacknDiane · 08/02/2026 18:28

Good on you @Liiz92

slashlover · 08/02/2026 18:28

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/02/2026 18:05

He deserved it and more. I would be afraid to be a 6ft woman because I’d probably punch him, if I knew I’d win the fight.

Of course you would. 🤣🤣🤣

MassiveWordSalad · 08/02/2026 18:27

shuggles · 08/02/2026 18:06

@MassiveWordSalad Have you never seen misogyny in action? It happens a lot. A man is feeling pissed off, sees a woman doing something he disagrees with, and berates her, knowing his masculine physical presence will intimidate her. Often the woman will get upset, give a shaky apology and maybe even cry, making the bully feel all big and manly and righteous.

You've never seen a man speaking aggressively to another man?

Are you serious?

It doesn’t make them feel as big and manly if they try it on somebody of their own sex who is bigger and could easily punch them in the face.

Again, this is nonsense "playground" thinking.

I left school a long time ago. Someone's size and build has absolutely no bearing on how I speak to them, and this would be the same for all other men. That's because I know they can't punch me in the face.

I've gotten into plenty of arguments with men larger than me, and men smaller than me have had no issue speaking to me aggressively either. It's because 99% of men understand that we can't actually do anything to each other, because physical contact crosses a red line. It is highly unusual for any man to resort to physical violence. I'm not sure why you think that's normal. How strange.

Of course I’ve seen men speaking aggressively to other men. Of course I don’t expect that men arguing with anyone will lead to fisticuffs. I have seen men use their physical size and masculinity to intimidate and bully women on too many occasions to count. Women and girls are socialised to be nice and kind, so are easy targets if you want to make yourself feel big - if you’re a bullying misogynist. They’re not likely to send a 6’4” bodybuilder off close to tears and questioning his actions in this situation, so they don’t bother.

Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 18:25

Thank you so much, everyone, for all your comments. I have appreciated reading them all and am grateful even for the harsh comments, as they reminded me that I can handle similar situations better next time. There are certainly better ways to respond when someone is rude. I have learned from this.

Thankfully, it’s not the Aldi I usually go to, so I will never go there again.

Overall, it was an awful experience. There was also a man who had stolen bottles of alcohol. As I got to th checkout till, the cashier was loudly telling the security guard that the man walking toward the door hadn’t paid, and the guard stopped him and made him return the items he had stolen.

OP posts:
Moonnstarz · 08/02/2026 18:24

Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 18:12

I think the only thing I shouldn’t have done was react the way I did and go back to confront the man. What I don’t regret is going to the aisle to swap my item, as the sales assistant said it was fine to do so.

I get that she said it was fine, but you were saying it would be quicker. You would have already called them over to cancel the item that scanned at a price you weren't expecting so when you did that it would have made more sense to me to say to them that it had a different price on the shelf, so could someone please check this.

Wondering if actually you made a mistake and this drama is more that you forgot an item rather than this whole palaver of changing something and maybe you just felt that sounds better than saying that.

Tonissister · 08/02/2026 18:24

ZoomerBoomer · 08/02/2026 17:17

Fowl tickled me, maybe op was buying a mumsnet chicken to feed 5000 🐓

Yeah, OP was all 'clucking this' and 'clucking that.' Disgusting.

BrendaThePoodle · 08/02/2026 18:22

I suggest you show up at the proposed time with a cross bow and broken lambrini bottle. See if he’s pistols at dawn then.

Katemax82 · 08/02/2026 18:21

Not every member of staff like to deal with twats

Steeleydan · 08/02/2026 18:20

ForeverTheOptomist · 08/02/2026 18:12

.... PS - What's a pearl clutcher?

A snobby Mrs perfect type!

Rasperry · 08/02/2026 18:19

ForeverTheOptomist · 08/02/2026 18:06

Your language is foul. Do you use this sort of vocabulary in front of your children.

I've posted, saying that using this sort of stuff undermines any argument. If you swear at people like this you are just going to look uneducated, stupid, and not worthy of any consideration.

Pearl clutching bollocks, and how does a poster swearing on MN mean she swears in front of her kids 😂😂

Steeleydan · 08/02/2026 18:18

Breadcat24 · 08/02/2026 16:54

Well swearing at him didn't cover you in glory "in front of your child" did it?
Why not just ask the staff member to deal with him

The staff do nothing and say nothing re a customer abusing another customer, I had the same in morrisons I had a customer shouting and swearing at me in the que, I had actually said or done nothing, the cashier asked the woman to stand back so I could get to pay. The woman was very intimidating, looked high on drugs as though she would pull a knife out. Checkout woman did nothing,didn't call security or anything

HeisseWeisseSchokolade · 08/02/2026 18:18

You behaved totally reasonably. Both in going to replace the item and in calling that arsehole out on his outrageously rude and threatening behaviour. Next time come to that store with your husband and watch the rude kunt fade into the background.

ChaToilLeam · 08/02/2026 18:15

Good for you getting this man telt. You are a QUEEN.

So what if you swore.

BeanQuisine · 08/02/2026 18:13

"If someone stuck there finger in my face id be breaking it."

Don't be silly, she was just pointing, leaving a gap. It's not as if she picked her nose and smeared the bogie on his cardigan. 😅

ForeverTheOptomist · 08/02/2026 18:12

.... PS - What's a pearl clutcher?

Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 18:12

Moonnstarz · 08/02/2026 18:02

This doesn't make sense though. It took you a couple of minutes to go and find an alternative item when you could have simply asked them to get a price check. At our Aldi they have headsets or someone at an actual till does and they just ask through that for someone on the shop floor to go and check. That would have made more sense and likely to have taken a similar amount of time. Saying you would get a different product is likely to be more time consuming. Aldi is also the kind of shop where it is fast paced.

Or your daughter is 9, you could have sent her back to find an alternative and continued to pay for your shopping, waited to one side, and then joined the queue again once she returned. Or if she didn't know the item, again you could have paid for the shopping, she could have waited at the end of the shop and then you could have gone back to get the different product.

Anyway you both sound a bit silly, him for having a go at you and you for swearing and ranting at him.

I think the only thing I shouldn’t have done was react the way I did and go back to confront the man. What I don’t regret is going to the aisle to swap my item, as the sales assistant said it was fine to do so.

OP posts:
MargeryBargery · 08/02/2026 18:11

KStockHERO · 08/02/2026 18:01

You sound fabulous, OP.

Well fucking done.

Ignore all the pearl-clutchers saying you shouldn't have sworn in front of a child. It's good for children to see women standing up to men. Fucking cunts.

Edited

100 % agree with this.

Love to see women having the courage to stand up to these cowardly men.
There's no way he would have shouted at a bloke the same size as him . No way.
They do it because they know we've been socialized to be " nice" , agreeable and non confrontational.
Fuck them.

And DD needs to see a good model of a woman who doesn't just put up with mysoginistic shit because it's not " nice" to stand up for yourself.

Luckyingame · 08/02/2026 18:11

rubyslippers · 08/02/2026 16:52

Good for you!!
he’s was terribly rude. I bet you standing up for yourself took him by surprise

This.
Don't worry, let it go.
Well done, by the way, I just read another thread where a man insulted a pregnant daughter in law.
Bastards are just not getting away with it anymore.

ImPamDoove · 08/02/2026 18:09

KStockHERO · 08/02/2026 18:01

You sound fabulous, OP.

Well fucking done.

Ignore all the pearl-clutchers saying you shouldn't have sworn in front of a child. It's good for children to see women standing up to men. Fucking cunts.

Edited

This delightful poster will probably be there to back you up at 4 next Sunday, OP. 😂

ForeverTheOptomist · 08/02/2026 18:06

KStockHERO · 08/02/2026 18:01

You sound fabulous, OP.

Well fucking done.

Ignore all the pearl-clutchers saying you shouldn't have sworn in front of a child. It's good for children to see women standing up to men. Fucking cunts.

Edited

Your language is foul. Do you use this sort of vocabulary in front of your children.

I've posted, saying that using this sort of stuff undermines any argument. If you swear at people like this you are just going to look uneducated, stupid, and not worthy of any consideration.

shuggles · 08/02/2026 18:06

@MassiveWordSalad Have you never seen misogyny in action? It happens a lot. A man is feeling pissed off, sees a woman doing something he disagrees with, and berates her, knowing his masculine physical presence will intimidate her. Often the woman will get upset, give a shaky apology and maybe even cry, making the bully feel all big and manly and righteous.

You've never seen a man speaking aggressively to another man?

Are you serious?

It doesn’t make them feel as big and manly if they try it on somebody of their own sex who is bigger and could easily punch them in the face.

Again, this is nonsense "playground" thinking.

I left school a long time ago. Someone's size and build has absolutely no bearing on how I speak to them, and this would be the same for all other men. That's because I know they can't punch me in the face.

I've gotten into plenty of arguments with men larger than me, and men smaller than me have had no issue speaking to me aggressively either. It's because 99% of men understand that we can't actually do anything to each other, because physical contact crosses a red line. It is highly unusual for any man to resort to physical violence. I'm not sure why you think that's normal. How strange.

MassiveWordSalad · 08/02/2026 18:05

Walkden · 08/02/2026 17:59

"Have you never seen misogyny in action? It happens a lot. A man is feeling pissed off, sees a woman doing something he disagrees with, and berates her,"

This is your misandry showing. We don't know that this man is a misogynist. For all we know, he rants at men who hold people up at checkouts.

You've just assumed he wouldn't do the same to a man and is instead berating only women because he is a man, then extrapolated based on that stereotypical assumption.

There's plenty of men who get into petty arguments with other men in aldi, and are more likely to do that than berates a woman.

Edited

Misandry 🤣

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/02/2026 18:05

He deserved it and more. I would be afraid to be a 6ft woman because I’d probably punch him, if I knew I’d win the fight.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 08/02/2026 18:05

What do you wish you'd said instead OP? I think it's great to stand up for yourself but I do think that the message can get lost if you get aggressive (finger pointing, swearing etc)

EleanorReally · 08/02/2026 18:03

i think you were unnecessary
did you think he would lay down and take it?