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Regret causing a scene in Aldi

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Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 16:51

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

OP posts:
Daytimetellyqueen · 08/02/2026 23:06

mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/02/2026 16:53

Yabu to regret it

that’s what men like that count on, intimidating women. He’s a twat who I’d bet money wouldn’t say boo to another man

well done xx

This was my thinking too - well done Op!

philandgrant2 · 08/02/2026 23:04

Blueskiesandrainbows · 08/02/2026 23:00

Has everyone gone crazy on here, a woman wanders off from her shopping holding up a busy till in search of an item, a chap complains, justifiably so.
She shows herself up by swearing in front of her child and everyone thinks she’s wonder woman.
This world is becoming a very sad place if that it the sort of woman we call a hero and consider good role model.

Edited

Why are you changing the narrative? She didn’t saunter off, she cleared it with the shop assistant. The man accused her of jumping the queue which wasn’t the case at all so his reaction wasn’t ’justifiable’ because he was incorrect.

The swearing may not be your cup of tea but I think people are generally praising the op for standing up for herself against a man who was being rude to her. Do you think we should just keep our heads down and tolerate random men shouting at us in public?

Over40Overdating · 08/02/2026 23:03

everything on Mumsnet have to come down to how terrible men are and women can do no wrong?

Are you new here / to earth @Growlybear83 ? As you’ll see from the vast majority of threads, women are regularly and deservedly handed their arses for bad behaviour on here. They are also pilloried for differentiating themselves from doormats when it comes to standing up to piggish men. That’s what this situation was about.

It could just as easily have been a woman who was pissed off at the OP disappearing back into the shop and leaving her shopping at the checkout.

Except in this instance it wasn’t. And it’s far more regular an occurrence for a man to be the one shouting and screaming in entitlement when it comes to a woman daring to inconvenience him.

It would have really annoyed me if I’d been waiting, and I would probably have said something to the OP.

Would you have screamed and shouted and demanded the till be cleared for you and then followed OP out trying to intimidate her? If so, you’re every bit as big an arsehole and would deserve and mouthful right back too. You are a fan of equality when it comes to twatishness, afterall.

Blueskiesandrainbows · 08/02/2026 23:00

zanahoria · 08/02/2026 19:45

You may have gone a bit over the top but so what?

You are my hero

Has everyone gone crazy on here, a woman wanders off from her shopping holding up a busy till in search of an item, a chap complains, justifiably so.
She shows herself up by swearing in front of her child and everyone thinks she’s wonder woman.
This world is becoming a very sad place if that it the sort of woman we call a hero and consider good role model.

AzureDog · 08/02/2026 22:56

You go girl I would have done the same as you

Arraminta · 08/02/2026 22:39

Hmm, resorting to swearing doesn't cover you in glory, especially in front of your DD.

The correct response is to smile and politely say 'I think you've confused me with someone who actually cares about your opinion?' And then you saunter off and do not re-engage.

TiredMum2026 · 08/02/2026 22:37

Well I think you were brilliant! He is clearly a twat who thinks he can talk to women like shit. Of anything you showed your daughter not to take crap in my opinion

shuggles · 08/02/2026 22:30

@MindYourUsage They're trying to say that he probably wouldnt have acted that way to a 6'4" bodybuilder because there's a chance that said bodybuilder could sucessfully punch him into next week.

Yes, I know she was saying that.

As I explained in my previous comments, no one in the real world actually thinks like that.

scoobysnaxx · 08/02/2026 22:28

Sorry good for you OP. I would’ve done the same. Don’t feel bad! Some people just need a telling off and putting in their place!

MindYourUsage · 08/02/2026 22:27

shuggles · 08/02/2026 17:28

Comments like this always pop up on these threads, but I always find them very strange and don't understand what they're trying to say.

I'm not sure how height or hobbies are relevant. Yes, obviously he would have raged at a 6'4'' bodybuilder. Why would that have changed anything?

They're trying to say that he probably wouldnt have acted that way to a 6'4" bodybuilder because there's a chance that said bodybuilder could sucessfully punch him into next week.

Much less likely for a woman to do that.

Hope that clears that up for you....

Emma6cat · 08/02/2026 22:26

grumpy old man syndrome. Used to work in a supermarket, and they are the worst. I refused to serve them if they were rude.

Luxlumos · 08/02/2026 22:25

Let it go @Liiz92

What’s done is done.

It’s very likely you’d be turning this over in your head and wishing you’d said something if you’d said nothing at all. It’s just a normal reaction to being accosted in public.

Some people will tick you off and some will congratulate you. There’s no one right way. You reacted in a moment. You’re here to tell the tale and some day it might even be a hilarious story.

Be nice to yourself - get a hot cup of tea and curl up with something gripping on Netflix to take your mind off it, and fgs stop flagellating yourself with MN!
Flowers

ITMA2000 · 08/02/2026 22:23

Aldi is a budget shop like Home Bargains or B&M. They don't have loads of manned tills, they just jump on them when there is a queue. So OP was probably causing a needless hold up over a few pence as there are no other tills available. A bit like the shoppers who suddenly realize they have to pay, and have to search their bags for a purse, and then remember they have a phone app so have to get their phone out and find the app then realize it is the wrong app so they have to search for cash again and then find some coupons which they think may be in date but for a different store. They are entitled to all this drama of course, but some of us are ready to pay as soon as the stuff is being bleeped through as we have other things to do and we get a bit exasperated.

MrsPenelopeBridgerton · 08/02/2026 22:22

He shouldn’t have shouted but you’re very entitled to hold up a queue like that. I bet you weren’t ’two minutes’ either.

RollOnSunshine · 08/02/2026 22:20

"Only 2 minutes"?!?!??!

Imagine if every customer randomly walked off to swap items whilst leaving their shopping at the scanner.

Muppet.

nosleepforme · 08/02/2026 22:19

Yeah you were wrong! How embarrassing

Autumngirl5 · 08/02/2026 22:16

You both behaved badly. In that situation I would have ignored him and walked out with my head held high.

Booboobagins · 08/02/2026 22:13

Honestly what are swear words? Anglo Saxon words the French banned, so why do people get so hung up on them???
But they have such an effect don't they
Well done @Liiz92 he was OOO and you were right to call him out. Using old language is also fine in my books....
l
Ime, Adi attracts this type of behaviour, I never see it in M&S though...

Cornishclio · 08/02/2026 22:00

Well I would t have pointed at him or swore as that just escalates a volatile situation but you weren’t wrong in challenging him for shouting at you when you had already checked with the staff member. Presumably there wasn’t just one self checkout. Sometimes it is best to turn the other cheek but sometimes these idiots need calling out. If it is was just a few minutes he was being ridiculous. Swearing and shouting in front of DD is not a good idea.

SnowyRock · 08/02/2026 21:56

People like that want a confrontation. Don't give them the satisfaction.
Act like theyre not even there, turn away and if he carried on speaking to you then talk over him speaking to the cashier or your daughter as if hes speaking to someone else. The result is he will end up feeling frustrated or stupid, instead of getting the satisfaction of a reaction and seeing hes bothered you.

Helpwithdivorce · 08/02/2026 21:52

Misses the point of the thread entirely. But when you scan the stickered items at self check out they always scan at full price. You just have to press the 30% or 50% button and then the supervisor comes and takes it off at the end

Blueskiesandrainbows · 08/02/2026 21:43

Very bad judgement OP, you swore in front of your child … it’s cheap, common, and degrades you, not him.
You really showed yourself up there!

Brainstorm23 · 08/02/2026 21:16

Idleplum · 08/02/2026 17:00

You could have said “don’t speak to me like that”. But you you using fowl language and bemoaning how someone else speaks in front of your child is somewhat hypocritical and makes you look a bit stupid.

He sounds like an arse but so were you.

Yes she should have chickened out and let him away with behaving badly.

Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 21:05

MissAustenMadeAQuilt · 08/02/2026 20:47

This could all have been avoided if you had uttered a general "so sorry about this" in the direction of the people waiting behind you.

I imagine he was annoyed at having to wait at your convenience and the fact that you couldn't even bother your arse to acknowledge that you were making people wait.

Then you strolled back, still didn't acknowledge that you had made people wait and, in response to your lack of manners, said something.

He didn't swear and I say, good on him.

What a twat you made of yourself and, by the way I agree with other PP, that you no more did your Joan of Arc speech about other women than you have been to a charm school. Both highly unlikely.

Have you missed the part where I said I apologised to him?
Where did I say I ‘strolled back to the till’?
There were 6 self-checkout tills in total, along with one staffed till with just a single person being served.
I was using only 1 till and had scanned all my items except the one that was incorrectly priced.
And I honestly don’t understand what this means: ‘PP, that you no more did your Joan of Arc speech about other women than you have been to a charm school. Both highly unlikely.’

OP posts:
Zov · 08/02/2026 20:58

Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 20:57

Thank you, everyone. I can’t reply to each of you individually, but I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. As I’ve already said, I’ve learned from this experience and won’t let my emotions get the better of me next time.

😘