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Regret causing a scene in Aldi

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Liiz92 · 08/02/2026 16:51

I went to Aldi earlier. While I was scanning an item at the self checkout, the price was more expensive than the price on the sticker on the shelf. I asked the assistant if I could quickly go back to swap it. I was away for only about 2 minutes.

When I came back to the till, there was a man arguing with the assistant, saying she had to remove my items so he could use the till. I explained that the items were mine and that I had just gone back to swap something. He started shouting at me, saying I had “jumped the queue” and that I shouldn’t go to the till until I had finished my shopping.

I stayed quiet for a few moments. When he was in the queue, I approached him and pointed my finger, saying, “don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.” He shouted at me in response, telling me not to point my finger or swear at him. I said, “You’ve chosen the wrong person to be rude to,” and went back to DD.

We finished paying at the same time, and he was walking close behind me, looking at me. I said, “I didn’t appreciate you shouting at me in front of my child.” He then said, “I’ll see you here at 4pm next Sunday.” I said I wasn't from the area so no chance and continued walking to my car.

As time has passed, I regret my actions and wish I had just stayed quiet.

OP posts:
HappyMamma2023 · 08/02/2026 16:57

I voted YANBU because I think gou did the right thing standinf uo for yourself. But not swearing in front of DD.

merrymonsters · 08/02/2026 16:56

You were taking up a machine while others were waiting. I can understand he'd find that annoying. It's all done by barcode so how does swapping for another of the same item help?

BluLavender · 08/02/2026 16:56

I think you would have regretted not saying anything! Could you be misunderstanding your feelings of regret as just feeling upset about the situation in general?

Stickytoffeetartt · 08/02/2026 16:56

Sounds like a grumpy old sod. You had the go ahead from the employee so I wouldn't worry. They knew you would be returning. It's not like you just took off mid -scanning without explanation. He shouldn't have spoken to you like that so I'm glad you gave him a taste of his own medicine. Some members of the public are just not nice.

Gotmyoldshoeson · 08/02/2026 16:56

He was a twat.

Having said that two mins is a long time to be holding up a queue to be swapping something.

Personally if there were no staff to swap it, I’d have just left it.

UrbanFan · 08/02/2026 16:55

Well done standing up for yourself.

SunMoonandChocolate · 08/02/2026 16:55

Good for you OP! If only more women had the courage to speak up, instead of letting arrogant arseholes get away with behaving like the big I am!! I say, well done YOU!

Breadcat24 · 08/02/2026 16:54

Well swearing at him didn't cover you in glory "in front of your child" did it?
Why not just ask the staff member to deal with him

mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/02/2026 16:53

Yabu to regret it

that’s what men like that count on, intimidating women. He’s a twat who I’d bet money wouldn’t say boo to another man

well done xx

rubyslippers · 08/02/2026 16:52

Good for you!!
he’s was terribly rude. I bet you standing up for yourself took him by surprise

ShetlandishMum · 08/02/2026 16:52

He is an asshole. You worked wth staff and did nohing wrong.

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