Regret causing a scene in Aldi

Fowl tickled me, maybe op was buying a mumsnet chicken to feed 5000 🐓

But OP retaliated and swore at him which is wrong

His last comment sounds like a parting joke

I disagree, swearing at anybody, especially in front of your child, is not acceptable and is making you look worse than a rude man. A calm response would have been fine. (Also, people expect quick service in Aldi and are likely to get annoyed.) I’d be seriously regretting it.

If it helps OP, I had an altercation with a man in a supermarket today too. I pulled into the car park and parked next to a big car just as said owner of the big car was walking toward it. I guess my parking in a legitimate space next to his car, inconvenienced him slightly and meant he had to walk approximately 5 steps further to the right instead of across the previously empty space. He threw his hands in the air and muttered something about me being an inconsiderate bitch. He then made a big song and theatrical dance trying to squeeze his very considerable weight into his driver’s side (even though I was parked quite squarely between the white lines) and then reversed out in the huff.

Me thinks that had I been with my 6.4 hulk of a man, he’d have not dared. Same with you really! Some blokes will try it on just because they can.

Not her fault the item was wrongly priced. If she hadn't changed it, the assistant would have had to. Everyone has had to do a quick dash to change something at one point - bruised veg or leaking milk. It happens. People who get angry about it need to work on their priorities.

Don't regret that at all, OP, you stood up to a raging arsehole. Do you think he would have been arguing like that with 6'4 bodybuilder?

I definitely wouldn't have done this infront of my child. What if your DD now thinks its a good idea?

"don’t fucking speak to me like that again, or at any woman.”

So did he swear at you first, point at you etc or just loudly complain you had jump the queue? Your op is not clear whether you objected to his complaining, the " shouting" part or was he verbally abusive for you to respond in kind?

Agreed. And there was no need for OP to swear at him.

Please don't. Men like that expect women to be docile so they can throw their weight around. If we all make life uncomfortable for them, they are less inclined to bully others. Good for you. You should be proud.

What a pillock trying to threaten you with a rematch next week.

I once raised my voice to a massive man - well over 6ft and very heavy, who was bullying a tiny - under 5ft - shop assistant who was alone on her shift at a late night WH Smith in a railway station. He had stolen a few Mars bars because he couldn't be bothered to wait at the till and she had run after him to get him to pay. He was shouting at her so I shouted at him and mocked him for bullying a tiny woman and for getting so angry when he was clearly in the wrong and should pay up, like a proper grown up. Once it was two against one, he paid very begrudgingly for his chocolate and sloped off. The shop assistant looked a bit shaken that I had stepped in, but I am so jeffing sick of tyrannical men thinking they can control us because they are bigger.

You annoyed him and he annoyed you.

But I’m going against the grain here.

You lowered yourself with your pointing and swearing and lost the moral high ground.
There’s much more effective ways to speak to people and put them in their place than that.

Your response taught him nothing.

I love you!

Good for you @Liiz92 I challenged a couple who were doing the “ You stand in the q with two items while I finish filling up this trolley,” trick. I refused to move so they could get the trolley past me to unload. They rather ungraciously added their two items to their trolley.🙂 The check out assistant gave me a smile and a wink. The couple muttered.

Good on you, you showed your dd to stand up for herself against arseholes. HE started it.

Good for you. I always have it out with entitled men in public if I can. They won't learn any other way. I also try to go to the defence of others if they look like they need it.

Swearing in front of your child is neither here nor there, I think. Importantly, they learnt that they should stand up for themselves.

I would have been silently annoyed that you went away from the till and left your shopping there, but wouldn’t have said anything.
I would have ignored the man who ‘shouted’ at me and expected the staff to deal with him.
I would not have gone over to him whilst he was in the queue and swore at him in front of my child.
You were both behaving poorly.

How bizarre to try and arrange a meet up for 4pm next Sunday. It should have been at high noon surely?!

It almost sounds like it might have been a joke?

You didn’t cause the scene, he did. And you were absolutely right to call him out on it. The only thing that complicates it is that your dd was with you and it could have turned nasty. But in an ideal world you shouldn’t have to be scared of standing up for yourself against an arse hole of a man.

So in that 2 minutes no other self scan came empty for him to use. I think you can stand up for yourself without getting in someones face pointing your finger and swearing at him. If someone stuck there finger in my face id be breaking it.

What a twat he was.

You could have said “don’t speak to me like that”. But you you using fowl language and bemoaning how someone else speaks in front of your child is somewhat hypocritical and makes you look a bit stupid.

He sounds like an arse but so were you.

Well done for standing up to him. I don't blame you for swearing as I'm a swearer myself.

You don’t say how old your child is but regardless, swearing at a stranger is setting an awful example. A better lesson would have been to demonstrate charm in the face of provocation. It’s not exactly classy to use the F word in public. Your child will learn from you.