Father in law making rude comments in pregnancy

Can you try 'it's not funny, and I don't want a child to grow up hearing those sorts of comments'?

I'm not a shining example of anything with my parents, but I do occasionally find it works on my dad to frame this sort of thing in terms of grandchildren. My SIL is excellent at it and will immediately go in with 'my children should not be hearing this sort of thing'.

og course you go in hard. You have had enough and if he doesn't demonstrate better manners that's the last they will see of you, your husband and of course the new baby.

Quite!

Yes, take a hard stance, which you should have done a long time ago! You say “ Phillip, I’ve had enough of your horrible remarks, please do not comment any more”.

The thing is if you come back with a Churchill type retort he'll probably love it, because this appears to be his sort of sense of humour.

As a PP said, we're all different but the fact is it bothers you so you need to shut him down.

Actually, this just makes Churchill sound more like the FIL than someone to emulate.

It wouldn't bother me but obviously everyone has different types of sense of humours and different sensitives. So if it upsets you, you or your husband needs to say something

My AIBU is do I go in hard this time on boundaries and just say enough is enough, I'm not tolerating being around him until his rudeness stops.

Well yes of course you should.

And it's nothing to do with your MIL or anyone else.

Tell him straight and let him know you're serious.

Yes, I think it's reasonable to avoid him. I do think your DH should tell his dad in stronger terms than 'it's appropriate'.

Something more like 'lay off my wife or you won't be seeing your grandkids, you misogynistic old prick'.

Rude, and tiresome. I'd find his weak spot and then be coming back at him with something like "Yeah, but at least my fatness is only temporary".

Winston Churchill apparently turned up in the Chamber slightly the worse for wear one day and a woman said "Mr Churchill, you're drunk!", to which he replied something along the lines of "Yes, but in the morning I'll be sober, whereas you'll still be ugly." Channel Winston Churchill!

Not unreasonable but pull him up sharp when he says it..."I'm not fat John, I'm heavily pregnant. It's very insensitive to make these so-called jokes, so please don't do it again".

That’s completely unacceptable. Where is your DH in all of this?

If my mother greeted my husband in this way, she wouldn’t be welcome in our home. This is a horrible example FIL is setting for your children, I can’t see how or why he thinks this is funny.

Awful of him. What does your husband have to say?

Presumably this man isn't interested in his grandkids if he's so insulting to the woman who's growing them in her body?

I'm sure you could think of a couple of comments about his appearance.

And nor should the OP!

Well you (and everyone here) know/knows the answer to that 'AIBU'.

But what I'm wondering is why you haven't firmly told him before.

Do you 'laugh it off' along with everyone else?

Your husband shouldn’t be allowing this.

He should be telling his dad in no uncertain terms to stop commenting on your body.