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Time for Women with Talent to Take Back Older Female Roles in Pantos

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

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LittleJustice · 08/02/2026 18:20

Emma8888 · 08/02/2026 17:49

Heaven forfend! By the OPs logic the only actors in a Shakespeare play should be male. After all, that’s how William wrote the plays!

I think you've got that wrong there are plenty of decent female roles in Shakespeare's plays it was just that women weren't allowed to actually act on stage and so they had to be played by young boys.

I have to say that pantomimes are lowest common denominator entertainment and maybe audiences will vote with their feet but perhaps not I guess there's plenty of people who like that kind of stuff.

I can't stand drag either but again seems fairly popular, but then I hate strippers and again a lot of people go to see that male or female.

Bixo · 08/02/2026 18:16

OP, there are plenty of other theatrical productions you can go to. You can check the cast lists in advance, if you want to make sure that male actors play men and female actors play women.

If you don't like panto, then just don't go to panto. Have you considered that option?

You could just leave panto for all the people who do enjoy it, rather than trying to change it to fit your tastes. Or you could put on a production of your own?

ErrolTheDragon · 08/02/2026 18:06

You might enjoy ‘Into the Woods’ OP - obviously not a panto for the kiddies but very funny without cross dressing.

pantomine ‘Dames’ are grotesques - I’m not sure if older women actors would want the parts. They’re often played by quite masculine actors - they’re not really that much like drag queens.

I’m curious if anyone had been to one of Julian Clary’s pantos - afaik he doesn’t play the ‘dame’ but instead some sort of fabulously clothed ‘spirit of something’ inventions - not sure how the dynamics of that works?

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 18:00

A large bloke dressed in a pantomime Dame costume is inherently funny. A woman dressed as a pantomime Dame isn't. The whole point of panto is its sheer ludicrousness.

Gender role reversal in comedy has been around since the Mummers plays in the Middle Ages. It is part of our theatrical history and tradition.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 08/02/2026 17:52

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:47

It's not ridiculous.
You've been brought up with this norm and find it "normal".
It's not.
And it's not funny.

The script can be written differently with a lot more imagination for a female playing the role.

Panto Dames are based on a tired old misogynistic trope of women.
They allow the audience to laugh at (often older) female figures.

Where are the equivalent older male figures we all get to laugh at in pantos?

There aren't any because panto dames are misogynistic sexist tropes.
Just like the women in Benny Hill sketches.

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Your opinions are not universal. Stop telling people what they’re allowed to find funny.

You sound pompous and patronising. .

Emma8888 · 08/02/2026 17:49

PeriMerry · 08/02/2026 17:30

I don't think panto is for you OP!

Maybe try a bit of Shakespeare? or not

Heaven forfend! By the OPs logic the only actors in a Shakespeare play should be male. After all, that’s how William wrote the plays!

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:47

CesarSoubreyon · 08/02/2026 17:37

What a ridiculous OP.

I'm currently in a Panto and the comedy of the dame is that 'she' is a man. The script doesn't work if it's played by a woman, it's the whole point.

And our dame is a straight man!

It's not ridiculous.
You've been brought up with this norm and find it "normal".
It's not.
And it's not funny.

The script can be written differently with a lot more imagination for a female playing the role.

Panto Dames are based on a tired old misogynistic trope of women.
They allow the audience to laugh at (often older) female figures.

Where are the equivalent older male figures we all get to laugh at in pantos?

There aren't any because panto dames are misogynistic sexist tropes.
Just like the women in Benny Hill sketches.

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StrangerTwings · 08/02/2026 17:45

I don't mind the traditional 'dames' but for the last few years our local panto has also introduced a drag race style character. Really inappropriate for a family show. In the lineup of all the 'stars' of the show on the promotional material there was 1 actual woman and the rest were men or men dressed as women. So from that pov yes it's time for actual women to be given women's parts. Also they were flogging their tickets at half price over Xmas so doesn't appear hugely popular....

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/02/2026 17:45

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:41

Panto male roles played by women were created for the male gaze - that's not equality - stop pretending it is. That's why the women are all in tights and very short tunics.

What do you think about ballet? Men in tight tights.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 08/02/2026 17:45

How would you retain the essence of a traditional pantomime if you made the changes you’re suggesting?

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:41

JustOnePersonNotAnOctopus · 08/02/2026 17:25

Panto dames should be played by men, panto lead male roles (Peter pan, Whittington etc) should be played by women. The princess love interest should also be played by a woman, the Buttons character should be played by a man. It is key to the humour and style.

Panto male roles played by women were created for the male gaze - that's not equality - stop pretending it is. That's why the women are all in tights and very short tunics.

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CesarSoubreyon · 08/02/2026 17:37

What a ridiculous OP.

I'm currently in a Panto and the comedy of the dame is that 'she' is a man. The script doesn't work if it's played by a woman, it's the whole point.

And our dame is a straight man!

Bertiebiscuit · 08/02/2026 17:37

Men dressing up as women, regardless of the reason, have always given me the ick and always will. Same as "blackface". Mocking disadvantaged people is not funny

DdraigGoch · 08/02/2026 17:35

JustOnePersonNotAnOctopus · 08/02/2026 17:25

Panto dames should be played by men, panto lead male roles (Peter pan, Whittington etc) should be played by women. The princess love interest should also be played by a woman, the Buttons character should be played by a man. It is key to the humour and style.

When will Richard Hammond be appearing as Buttons? That's what I want to know!

Wtafmakeitstop · 08/02/2026 17:34

Maybe a suitable role for Olivia Colman?

Vgbeat · 08/02/2026 17:34

Nope, leave panto dames alone. Girls tend to play parts such as Peter Pan and Dick Whittington. Love a panto, wokeness can leave them alone

tripleginandtonic · 08/02/2026 17:33

Yabu, women playing the main man's part and nean pmaying the dame is part of the panto tradition.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 08/02/2026 17:32

What are your thoughts, OP, on Glenda Jackson having played King Lear? Michelle Terry playing Richard III?

Bixo · 08/02/2026 17:31

A lot of pantomime dame humour (in the pantos that I've seen) is based around the dame acting in a coquettish way around the male characters, and sometimes male members of the audience. Wearing over-the-top outfits, being flirtatious, assuming the role of an attractive woman.

The incongruity and ridiculousness is in the fact that the actor is a man, dressed up outlandishly, and therefore presumed to be unattractive to the straight male characters. The panto dame is a figure of fun because of "her" delusions.

If the role was played by an older woman, then it would either lose a lot of this traditional source of humour, or risk being pretty humiliating to the actor.

A large part of the point of the panto dame is that a man (usually a big burly man) is not a woman.

PeriMerry · 08/02/2026 17:30

I don't think panto is for you OP!

Maybe try a bit of Shakespeare? or not

Rachie1973 · 08/02/2026 17:29

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:40

Panto dames only exist since the Victorian era which was not known for being female friendly. The roles taken by men were originally for older women.
Not nice!

Time to take them back and give older far more talented actresses their roles back!

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I’m not sure I can see Emma Thompson or Judi Dench lining up for these roles.

LittleJustice · 08/02/2026 17:27

I am a complete agreement with you OP and also think that the principle male lead should be played by a man. Or else where's the eye candy for the mums? Feels like we miss out on every level in a traditional pantomime tbh, which presumably was the point.

JustOnePersonNotAnOctopus · 08/02/2026 17:25

Panto dames should be played by men, panto lead male roles (Peter pan, Whittington etc) should be played by women. The princess love interest should also be played by a woman, the Buttons character should be played by a man. It is key to the humour and style.

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:22

ComtesseDeSpair · 08/02/2026 16:51

What pantomime tradition are you referring to where roles were designed and written for talented older female actresses? Pantomime has always been low-brow comedy - it derives from harlequinade, which principally about male clowns and clownesque figures doing slapstick and chaos. The more modern tradition of dressing men as women and women as men was the successor of that clowning.

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Mother Goose was a fairy tale character first published by Charles Perrault in France in 1697 based on much much older oral folk tales. She represents a kind, nurturing grandmother figure which was transformed into a witch by a Mr Simmons in 1806 at a time when misogyny was the norm in society.

It worked because men (and women) could openly mock and laugh at older women once they were portrayed by men as nasty, nagging old hags...

As a comparison, Al Jolson also became incredibly successful by putting on black face to appeal to rampant racism prevalent in the US during the 1920s and 1930s. It wouldn't work today because society has moved on.

The "principal boy" roles were played by women to give Victorian men a sexual frisson while "just watching a children's panto" which is why the young women wore tights and very short tunics. It was for the male gaze, nothing else.

The ugly sisters are supposed to be women not men but again they are played by men as hideous caricatures of women.

Where are all the roles for older women playing hideous caricatures of men?
They don't exist.

It would be far more interesting to see traditional female roles from folk tales played by women in this day and age.

We should move on from dated misogynistic tropes of women played by men.
They're tired and out of sync with society.

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ginasevern · 08/02/2026 17:11

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 16:29

The principal boy was played by a woman for the titillation of Victorian men at a time when women had to cover every part of their body except their face.

"Allowing" a slim young good-looking woman to prance around the stage in a pair of tights with a tunic barely covering her backside must have been quite the pleasure ride for the male half of the audience. It was a gimmick to get bums on seats, that's all and for all the wrong reasons.

All true. It was a chance for salivating men to see otherwise concealed women's legs and thighs. And it sold a hell of a lot of tickets on that basis.