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Time for Women with Talent to Take Back Older Female Roles in Pantos

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

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DreamingOfGeneHunt · 08/02/2026 21:22

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 08/02/2026 16:35

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose.... I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

That 1806 was part of the Victorian era would have been a surprise to Her Late Majesty as she wasn't born until 1819 and didn't ascend the throne until 1837.

I was going to say the same thing!

Pantomime dames are the best bit.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:19

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 18:39

Theatre is in a dire situation and its attitudes towards women and working class people is shocking. Women are massively underrepresented on main stages and interesting female characters are few and far between. Pantomime dames are the last of women’s problems in theatre. If you really care about women start a campaign that women should write women’s stories. Same applies to TV.

Six, Mean Girls, Legally Blonde are all touring right now and are heavily female led casts

Ricecrispiesatsix · 08/02/2026 21:18

Rachie1973 · 08/02/2026 17:29

I’m not sure I can see Emma Thompson or Judi Dench lining up for these roles.

Well Emma Thompson played Miss Trunchball in the film of Matilda, in the stage version it’s a man in drag.

I liked that they gave the part to a woman. Interesting/strong female parts are hard to come by, it seems a shame to give the few there are to men.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:18

Jokes about the dame quite often call out the fact they are a man too

"Oh he'll have a surprise when I get him home"
"I'm coming out of the closet"
Etc

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:17

Martymcfly24 · 08/02/2026 21:11

Slightly off topic but I have never seen a dame played by a gay man. I didn't realize it was even a thing.

Paul o'Grady I think? John Inman, Ian McKellen are others.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:16

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 08/02/2026 16:53

And while we're about it, let's have a real horse or a real cow, none of these two actors in a costume, one as the head and front legs, and one as the arse and rear legs. Plenty of real livestock would be glad of the work.

Why don't we? 🤣

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:16

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 18:31

Oh yes, don't go to see Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo either.

Or Matthew Bourne's Swan Lake (absolutely beautiful btw)

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:13

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 17:47

It's not ridiculous.
You've been brought up with this norm and find it "normal".
It's not.
And it's not funny.

The script can be written differently with a lot more imagination for a female playing the role.

Panto Dames are based on a tired old misogynistic trope of women.
They allow the audience to laugh at (often older) female figures.

Where are the equivalent older male figures we all get to laugh at in pantos?

There aren't any because panto dames are misogynistic sexist tropes.
Just like the women in Benny Hill sketches.

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Baron Hardup
The Council man in Dick Whittington

Any time there's a "king" or "father figure" to the princess in fact (when he hasn't been killed off before the show starts) they will be a humour "doddery old man"

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:13

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 16:50

In my honest view? Yes.
I never liked women playing prince charming - I find it weird.
It was started in Victorian times for the male gaze.
Get a young actor to do that - plenty out there.

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I don't think there's such an issue with principal boys. As I said in pp, there were male gaze issues in Victorian era but it was wider than that.

Operas have breeches roles originally written for castrati which women now do well. Japan has the all-female singing and dancing Takarazuka Revue, which has a huge female fanbase (and at least allows a bit of fairness in a country where Kabuki usually and often Noh theatre exclude women, even though Kabuki was started by a woman...but I digress..) It can be fun, a chance for an actress to have a different sort of part.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Takarazuka_Revue

Imo panto dames are different because they mock women in a grotesque way. Panto principal boys mock men but not so much, and not in grotesque way.

Martymcfly24 · 08/02/2026 21:11

Slightly off topic but I have never seen a dame played by a gay man. I didn't realize it was even a thing.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:10

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 08/02/2026 17:32

What are your thoughts, OP, on Glenda Jackson having played King Lear? Michelle Terry playing Richard III?

Cynthia Evro is currently playing all 23 (mostly male) parts in Dracula and played Jesus last year

There have been female Hamlets

Life of Pi tour had both a female and a male actor for the lead role

Shall we complain about them?

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:09

KimberleyClark · 08/02/2026 16:48

Should men also take back the Prince Charming role which is traditionally played by a woman?

Most principal boys ARE played by men now, it changed because they wanted male idols to draw in the crowds.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:08

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 16:29

The principal boy was played by a woman for the titillation of Victorian men at a time when women had to cover every part of their body except their face.

"Allowing" a slim young good-looking woman to prance around the stage in a pair of tights with a tunic barely covering her backside must have been quite the pleasure ride for the male half of the audience. It was a gimmick to get bums on seats, that's all and for all the wrong reasons.

I know I said this on the other thread but I think it's still relevant. :

I agree re the titillation aspect but the role isn't simply someone to be leered at. Entertainers like Vesta Tilley, Ada Reeve or Nellie Farren were widely known as talented performers, not just pin-ups.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Principalboy

If it were solely a sleazy role to be leered at then the royal Family, certainly concerned with respectability, wouldn't have let Princess Elizabeth be the principal boy when during the war they put on Cinderella.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:03

With a few expectations Witches and Fairies are always played by women
Plus the princess
And occasionally there are still "principal boys" played by women (mostly in smaller, am dram pantos ... and the adult panto I saw where one prince was an effeminate male and the other was a woman playing the "butch" half)
Plus plenty of ensemble roles and side kicks
I've also seen Captain Hook played by a woman!

Which is to say, there's no shortage of roles for women in panto

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:02

5foot5 · 08/02/2026 16:13

Really? I must admit I haven't been to a pantomime for a long, long time.

Best pantomime dame I ever saw was Les Dawson in "Babes in the Wood" at the Palace Theatre, Manchester in 1985. My what a cast that was! Ruth Madoc played Robin Hood and John Nettles, then at the height of his Bergerac fame, played the Sherrif of Nottingham. Oh and John Noakes was playing whatever the comic male part was.

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I think principal boys now are often played by male idols to get more of an audience. A shame imo.

Zov · 08/02/2026 21:02

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

Nah, leave things as they are. A man as a panto dame is hilarious IMO.

I am not keen on drag/drag queens, but a panto dame played by a man is often funny.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:00

SardinesOnButteredToast · 08/02/2026 16:06

But most of the time, it just isn't. Where I live there are always posters for the pantos at four large venues. I always notice there is one female name/face on each poster and between four and seven men. I'm sure this doesn't represent every panto in the history of time, but I've noticed the pattern in all four venues posters for the last decade (since I started noticing).

Yes, principal boys are way less common now. Partly because pantos started to cast young male idols as principal boy to draw in crowds.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 20:59

girljulian · 08/02/2026 15:36

Take them back from what, exactly?

The pantomime dame has always been played by a man. It was originated as such. And pantomimes themselves are descendants of the traditional mummers' play in which all the roles were played by men.

So is Shakespeare, but rightly, women play the female roles now.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 20:58

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

Great idea for a thread! YANBU.

It's interesting it started in Victorian times- ties to wider sexism, maybe?

SabrinaThwaite · 08/02/2026 20:57

Surely the whole idea of the pantomime dame is that everyone knows the actor is a man playing an over the top pastiche version of an older woman.

Even the 5 year olds in the audience can get the joke.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/02/2026 20:50

TofuTuesday · 08/02/2026 20:41

@ErrolTheDragon we go every year and weirdly enough I was just thinking about this as he was the King in 2025 in wonderful costumes and full make up. I’m sure he’s been a more traditional dame at points but I’d have to think back. He was married to Jane MacDonald for 2024 so not then.

i don’t care about dames being played by men but what I hate is interesting roles for women being played by men for laughs. Like Trunchbull or Miss Hannigan.

Or Lady Bracknell… I saw David Suchet’s attempt some years ago, people were saying ‘wasn’t he maahvellous’… honestly no, any number of older women actors would have been vastly better.

TofuTuesday · 08/02/2026 20:41

@ErrolTheDragon we go every year and weirdly enough I was just thinking about this as he was the King in 2025 in wonderful costumes and full make up. I’m sure he’s been a more traditional dame at points but I’d have to think back. He was married to Jane MacDonald for 2024 so not then.

i don’t care about dames being played by men but what I hate is interesting roles for women being played by men for laughs. Like Trunchbull or Miss Hannigan.

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 20:23

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 08/02/2026 18:42

In what way/ways is theatre in a dire situation? I ask that as someone that has worked in theatre for 30 years.

Seriously? I’d be interested to know what kind of theatre you work in. Audiences are down, revenue is critically low, decades of underfunding by the government in the arts, working class creatives working in theatre is diabolically low (about 8%). Theatres are hanging by a thread. I could go on. I’m genuinely astonished you claim to have worked in theatre for 30 years and don’t know this…

over50andfab · 08/02/2026 20:08

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 08/02/2026 17:52

Your opinions are not universal. Stop telling people what they’re allowed to find funny.

You sound pompous and patronising. .

As a cis hetero older woman who is well able to think for herself, as are my adult DDs this sums it up. The poll results are representative of what we feel.

DdraigGoch · 08/02/2026 19:46

ErrolTheDragon · 08/02/2026 18:06

You might enjoy ‘Into the Woods’ OP - obviously not a panto for the kiddies but very funny without cross dressing.

pantomine ‘Dames’ are grotesques - I’m not sure if older women actors would want the parts. They’re often played by quite masculine actors - they’re not really that much like drag queens.

I’m curious if anyone had been to one of Julian Clary’s pantos - afaik he doesn’t play the ‘dame’ but instead some sort of fabulously clothed ‘spirit of something’ inventions - not sure how the dynamics of that works?

I saw him in Cinderella years ago. Played "Dandini", Prince Charming's servant. Outrageously flamboyant, putting his supposed master in the shade.

I can't remember who played the Ugly Sisters, but I've no doubt that OP would not approve.

Edit: Wikipedia foes say that Julian Clary once played the fairy godmother instead.