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Time for Women with Talent to Take Back Older Female Roles in Pantos

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:31

Panto Dames have been a thing since 1806 when a certain Mr Simmons decided to play Mother Goose as a Witch (how original) rather than as a caring grandmother figure. Nowadays panto dames are mainly played by gay men in drag.

I think it's time for talented actresses to take back elder female roles from the tired tropes played by men since the Victorian era.

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TofuTuesday · 08/02/2026 22:17

@GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday Craig Revel Harwood played Miss Hannigan, which I was referencing

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:16

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:14

Exactly

The role of "dame" is a comic role, there to be mocked and laughed at

The good fairy, mostly played by a woman, however is a heroic figure

Aha, I'd forgotten the good fairy. That's good. It's not as if the only available female characters in the stories are negative/passive princesses.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:16

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 22:09

I haven’t dismissed them. You have put those words in my mouth. I said when I think of theatre I think of straight drama. That doesn’t mean I am snobby about musicals, because I am not. Some are genius. They still don’t represent women properly for the reasons I have set out. Thee is no good reason why less than 9% of musicals in the UK are written by women. I think the figure on Broadway is slightly higher at 13%. That’s dire.

Linking theatre with plays as "but that's what I mean when I say theatre" is dismissing musicals

If you mean plays, say plays not theatre

Musicals showcase a wide variety of female leads, more women are producing and directing as well as stage managing and all those important backstage roles (trust me, I know several)

And lots of musicals are written by the same 2 or 3 men let's be real

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:15

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 22:14

Panto season is the single reason why local theatres can stay open. The money raised from those performances covers the losses made the rest of the year.

Imo that's the single biggest reason we should keep them.

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:15

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:12

You said that they should cast young men that girls would want to look at

What is that but saying "cast sex objects"

And pantos, Disney movies and lots of family entertainment (because pantos are family not children's entertainment) have adult jokes and humour because they are aimed at both adults and children

Most children do not question the cast or find it unbelievable or takes them out of the story or whatever. They're too busy singing along to the popular songs included, shouting out "he's behind you" and whatever catchphrase the comic has, being dazzled by the costumes and the lights and the dancing, laughing at the jokes and screaming at the villains

Good post. On that, the interactive element is another thing which highlights how unreal it is. This ties into the wider swapping/unreal elements with dames etc

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 22:14

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 18:39

Theatre is in a dire situation and its attitudes towards women and working class people is shocking. Women are massively underrepresented on main stages and interesting female characters are few and far between. Pantomime dames are the last of women’s problems in theatre. If you really care about women start a campaign that women should write women’s stories. Same applies to TV.

Panto season is the single reason why local theatres can stay open. The money raised from those performances covers the losses made the rest of the year.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:14

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:07

Tbf as I'm bi I don't have that kind of issue with principal boys, but as I said to pp, I know most women do. However, mostly they cast young male acting/singing idols anyway, for that reason.

At least women get a chance for a heroic main part that way. Panto dames could become strong parts for older women, but at the moment they don't really function that way since they're ridiculous figures and often negative (ugly sisters for one). Princess love interest roles are the main female role otherwise.

Exactly

The role of "dame" is a comic role, there to be mocked and laughed at

The good fairy, mostly played by a woman, however is a heroic figure

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:12

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:05

Not to ogle - it's part of the original story - I never said Prince Charming had to wear tights and a cod piece - no thank you. I prefer more modest clothing for children's entertainment.

As a child I was really disappointed to see Prince Charming played by a grown woman. It takes away from the story and is simply unbelievable. Anyway this practice has all but died out. Time for men in frocks to go the same way.

You said that they should cast young men that girls would want to look at

What is that but saying "cast sex objects"

And pantos, Disney movies and lots of family entertainment (because pantos are family not children's entertainment) have adult jokes and humour because they are aimed at both adults and children

Most children do not question the cast or find it unbelievable or takes them out of the story or whatever. They're too busy singing along to the popular songs included, shouting out "he's behind you" and whatever catchphrase the comic has, being dazzled by the costumes and the lights and the dancing, laughing at the jokes and screaming at the villains

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:12

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:05

Not to ogle - it's part of the original story - I never said Prince Charming had to wear tights and a cod piece - no thank you. I prefer more modest clothing for children's entertainment.

As a child I was really disappointed to see Prince Charming played by a grown woman. It takes away from the story and is simply unbelievable. Anyway this practice has all but died out. Time for men in frocks to go the same way.

I think the problem with that is that panto's meant to be unreal & unbelievable. The dame is the biggest example of that.

I don't think dames are positive though. Adjusting it to be played by a woman could keep the over-the-top humour side. I suppose however some might question whether it remains a panto if the dame tradition goes.

The easiest option might be to abandon pantos but otoh they are a big Xmas thing for many people. I don't think it has to be all-or-nothing. Maybe to start with, dame roles could be more positive (I know some are) rather than Ugly Sister type stuff?

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 22:09

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:58

Dismissing Musicals as you have is a harmful practice because, like it or not, musicals are the current "popular" form of entertainment

Women are also coming stronger and stronger on to the scene, having more of a say and being seen and visible, making their mark

I haven’t dismissed them. You have put those words in my mouth. I said when I think of theatre I think of straight drama. That doesn’t mean I am snobby about musicals, because I am not. Some are genius. They still don’t represent women properly for the reasons I have set out. Thee is no good reason why less than 9% of musicals in the UK are written by women. I think the figure on Broadway is slightly higher at 13%. That’s dire.

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:08

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:03

Re this : Victorian principal boys usually wore tights and short tunics or breeches in a storybook/pageboy style — showing legs, yes, but not burlesque-style or “barely covered.” It was standard theatrical costume, closer to ballet or operetta than anything sleazy. If the tradition had been seen as indecent, it’s unlikely Princess Elizabeth would have been allowed to take part at all.
I agree there was a male gaze element but I don't think Victorian pantos as a whole were as sleazy as you say. The dame tradition is definitely sexist imo but otoh Victorians had burlesque and other more risqué forms or entertainment for prurient men to go to- family pantos would presumably not have been their main outlet.

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Showing your ankle in Victorian times was considered outrageous behaviour so having a young woman with her legs and thighs on full view must have been quite the treat for the average Victorian man going to see a panto.

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Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:07

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:53

Why have women play prince charming at all?
I'm sure young girls would much prefer a good looking boy in the role.

Tbf as I'm bi I don't have that kind of issue with principal boys, but as I said to pp, I know most women do. However, mostly they cast young male acting/singing idols anyway, for that reason.

At least women get a chance for a heroic main part that way. Panto dames could become strong parts for older women, but at the moment they don't really function that way since they're ridiculous figures and often negative (ugly sisters for one). Princess love interest roles are the main female role otherwise.

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:06

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:51

Well then, maybe the solution is to change the costume to something more like that?

Did 20th century principal boys still have to wear tights and revealing tunics?

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The practice of the principal boy being a woman has all but died out, probably because it no longer serves its original purpose.

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SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:05

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:00

So it's ok for them to cast a "good looking young man" that the women can ogle?

Hippocrasy

Not to ogle - it's part of the original story - I never said Prince Charming had to wear tights and a cod piece - no thank you. I prefer more modest clothing for children's entertainment.

As a child I was really disappointed to see Prince Charming played by a grown woman. It takes away from the story and is simply unbelievable. Anyway this practice has all but died out. Time for men in frocks to go the same way.

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fishtank12345 · 08/02/2026 22:05

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 15:40

Panto dames only exist since the Victorian era which was not known for being female friendly. The roles taken by men were originally for older women.
Not nice!

Time to take them back and give older far more talented actresses their roles back!

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Agree, why men, its silly...

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:04

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:01

There are plenty of older actresses who would jump at the chance but are excluded from playing these roles reserved for men only - even though the character is female.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3925808/Having-male-panto-dame-sexist-claims-Caroline-Quentin-Christopher-Biggins-says-Oh-no-isn-t.html

Panto Dame characters are not "female" though

As mentioned several times, the humour often comes from the fact the entire audience knows its a man

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 22:03

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:47

Queen Elizabeth wore a Rococo aristocratic man's suit and wig - not a Robin Hood style tunic with tights which is what the actresses wore during the Victorian era. Nice try though.

Re this : Victorian principal boys usually wore tights and short tunics or breeches in a storybook/pageboy style — showing legs, yes, but not burlesque-style or “barely covered.” It was standard theatrical costume, closer to ballet or operetta than anything sleazy. If the tradition had been seen as indecent, it’s unlikely Princess Elizabeth would have been allowed to take part at all.
I agree there was a male gaze element but I don't think Victorian pantos as a whole were as sleazy as you say. The dame tradition is definitely sexist imo but otoh Victorians had burlesque and other more risqué forms or entertainment for prurient men to go to- family pantos would presumably not have been their main outlet.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:02

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:52

200 years is a drop in the ocean.
Blackface started around the same time but no-one's saying that tradition should be preserved...

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But it's not the same as blackface and throwing that around as an equivalency isn't helping

(On a side note, yellow face is still a thing in Panto, with Aladdin, and Ballet, with The Nutcracker, that is only just being moved away from and only then slowly)

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 22:01

taxi4ballet · 08/02/2026 18:40

Have you actually asked any female musical theatre performers whether they would want to play the dame in panto? Surely they are the ones who would be pushing for it if they thought it was unfair that only men get to play that role.

I also think that perhaps Equity, the Actors' Union might be pursuing it as well, if their female members wanted it.

There are plenty of older actresses who would jump at the chance but are excluded from playing these roles reserved for men only - even though the character is female.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3925808/Having-male-panto-dame-sexist-claims-Caroline-Quentin-Christopher-Biggins-says-Oh-no-isn-t.html

Is having a male panto dame is sexist? Oh no it isn't!

Actress Caroline Quentin has called the tradition of the pantomime dame inherently ‘sexist’ and ‘unflattering to women’ but actor Christopher Biggens believes it's a role nest played by a man.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3925808/Having-male-panto-dame-sexist-claims-Caroline-Quentin-Christopher-Biggins-says-Oh-no-isn-t.html

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 22:00

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:53

Why have women play prince charming at all?
I'm sure young girls would much prefer a good looking boy in the role.

So it's ok for them to cast a "good looking young man" that the women can ogle?

Hippocrasy

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:58

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:49

The fact I prefer straight drama to musicals is not remotely harmful. I tell you what is harmful though, men dominating musical theatre in virtually every respect-composing, writing the book, directing, producing… I wish people would admit this is a huge issue. Don’t get me started on working class creatives…

Dismissing Musicals as you have is a harmful practice because, like it or not, musicals are the current "popular" form of entertainment

Women are also coming stronger and stronger on to the scene, having more of a say and being seen and visible, making their mark

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:56

Lobbygobbler · 08/02/2026 21:46

Why is saying that musicals are not my thing ‘snobbery?’ It’s a personal preference. I don’t for one minute look unfavourably on them.

You have dismissed then as being a valid form of theatre where female lead is thriving

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:55

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:39

I don't have an issue with either of these as they are presented as an all male show. I wouldn't bother going though as I prefer the original Swan Lake to a gimmick.

Matthew Bourne's Swan Lake isn't a gimmick

It's a beautiful interpretation intended to subvert expectations, as are most of his work

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 08/02/2026 21:53

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:51

Well then, maybe the solution is to change the costume to something more like that?

Did 20th century principal boys still have to wear tights and revealing tunics?

Edited

Why have women play prince charming at all?
I'm sure young girls would much prefer a good looking boy in the role.

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 08/02/2026 21:53

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 21:32

There is a long way to go, I agree. There has been progress re big hits by women like Waitress, Six, Hadestown, Fun Home, but I agree the situation overall is very unfair.

Is it equally bad re straight plays?

Straight plays aren't popular and are mostly based off old stories because people like "classics" - but a fair few of those are Agatha Christie plays

Smaller, local theatres are more likely to host newer plays and put calls out specifically for under represented voices