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Ryanair wtaf???

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MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 14:35

I’ve never traveled with Ryanair before so had only heard of their awfulness.

Trying to book a flight for my disabled dc (not a mobility disability) and myself and the system will only let me select certain seats for the disabled passenger.

It’s giving me an option of two seats to choose from on the whole plane which isn’t very full at all. Moreover, neither seat has an available seat next to it, so it’s effectively trying to get me to book seats several rows apart (at the closest) for me and a non verbal tween.

Just wtaf?

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Octavia64 · 08/02/2026 22:37

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:27

On the actual flight? None, bar a bit of understanding.

In the airport, using assistance lanes and a bit of flexibility around boarding.

As I have reiterated on this thread, some airports require you to have assistance registered on the boarding pass to access that support. UK airports usually just go with the sunflower lanyard but others need to see the booking. We are going to an airport I haven’t been to before so I don’t know and I would have rather had assistance registered.

I have genuinely never heard of having to book assistance when you book the flight, nor have I ever flown to or from an airport where it is in the boarding pass, either printed or as an online QR code.

out of interest (as I am physically disabled) would you mind sharing which airport it is (so I can avoid it?)

fwiw I just book normal seats and then ring the airline about a week in advance. They always fuck up some aspect of it anyway so I confirm the details with the special assistance desk when I arrive (who always have the ability to move your seat on a plane).

Hillarious · 08/02/2026 22:37

Travelled with my FIL on RA. Booked the flights, chose our seats, paid and then booked assistance at Stansted and the airport in Spain afterwards. As others have said, the best approach to avoiding queuing is to hang back and board last. This wasn’t possible with the airport assistance but you did then get to bypass the queues at each end of the flight. If you’ve paid to take a bag on board they’ll still find room for it.

Goatsarebest · 08/02/2026 22:33

I fly with them 40 odd times a year and while they do disembark front and rear I have never seen them not do front. So the front row will get you off quickest. It also always opens before rear.

Fends · 08/02/2026 22:23

Which airport are you talking about that denies you assistance because you haven’t selected it with the airline?

Never heard of such a thing. They’re completely separate operations. You’re being difficult

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 22:13

Jade3450 · 08/02/2026 21:56

My point is that you don’t really need assistance.

You need to try to get on and off the flight without your child having a meltdown. That’s not the same thing. Many parents, autism or not, are in the same position.

I don’t understand why you think you need the assistance lane.

It feels like this is actually less about RA and more about you seeking some recognition of your child’s difficulties.

As a parent of an autistic child I do get that - life is shit sometimes. But it doesn’t owe you anything in return for your child having autism. Does it suck to have a child who can’t manage lots of stuff? Yes.
Could you be making things harder for yourself by having this chip on your shoulder? Also yes.

A chip on my shoulder because I just want to be able to book a couple of seats on a plane and choose and pay for them?

What in your world is normal about RA giving me the choice of 2 seats that don’t even fit their own policy of not having an under 12 sit unaccompanied, before even bringing his disability into the mix? That’s entirely what this thread is about.

You have made a lot of assumptions about who does and doesn’t need assistance here. In my local airport the assistance lane caters for people with disabilities and people with young children, usually pram age. Essentially, anyone who might struggle in a massively busy space. I am, by using this lane, managing my dc not having a meltdown. When abroad, again, having assistance just means for us, using the quiter lane. That’s it.

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MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 22:00

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 21:35

Which airport are you flying to? Not sure if Ryanair will offer any flexibility around boarding. Usually the turnaround time is very short so not many options available. Being allowed first through might just mean waiting in a designated area.

Yeah, I know that. Assistance around boarding is always variable.

The point of this thread was how difficult they made it to actually book the flight to begin with. Once assistance was selected, I only had a choice of two seats on the whole plane for my dc. Neither of which was possible by their own policies, let alone our own needs.

The only way I could book our tickets was to not select assistance. The seat next to one of the ones available for assistance passengers was not available to book when assistance was selected, but was free to book once assistance was not selected (and therefore it could be charged for).

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Jade3450 · 08/02/2026 21:56

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:15

Yeah, you’re right.. that’s what we need. But as I have mentioned numerous times in this thread, some airports only let you use the assistance lanes when you have declared that you need assistance and it’s registered in the booking.

When you check the box for assistance in the RA booking, it massively restricts which seats you can access to the point that it’s not tenable to book them (in this case). I have not experienced it with other airlines.

Maybe the difficulties we face when travelling are the same as a single parent travelling with young children, maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sometimes we can access quiet rooms, sensory rooms in airports which can be helpful. My point is rather that RA are making it difficult for people with disabilities to fly and book tickets, which is what has happened to us today.

My point is that you don’t really need assistance.

You need to try to get on and off the flight without your child having a meltdown. That’s not the same thing. Many parents, autism or not, are in the same position.

I don’t understand why you think you need the assistance lane.

It feels like this is actually less about RA and more about you seeking some recognition of your child’s difficulties.

As a parent of an autistic child I do get that - life is shit sometimes. But it doesn’t owe you anything in return for your child having autism. Does it suck to have a child who can’t manage lots of stuff? Yes.
Could you be making things harder for yourself by having this chip on your shoulder? Also yes.

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 21:35

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:27

On the actual flight? None, bar a bit of understanding.

In the airport, using assistance lanes and a bit of flexibility around boarding.

As I have reiterated on this thread, some airports require you to have assistance registered on the boarding pass to access that support. UK airports usually just go with the sunflower lanyard but others need to see the booking. We are going to an airport I haven’t been to before so I don’t know and I would have rather had assistance registered.

Which airport are you flying to? Not sure if Ryanair will offer any flexibility around boarding. Usually the turnaround time is very short so not many options available. Being allowed first through might just mean waiting in a designated area.

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:27

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 21:15

What assistance do you require on the flight?

On the actual flight? None, bar a bit of understanding.

In the airport, using assistance lanes and a bit of flexibility around boarding.

As I have reiterated on this thread, some airports require you to have assistance registered on the boarding pass to access that support. UK airports usually just go with the sunflower lanyard but others need to see the booking. We are going to an airport I haven’t been to before so I don’t know and I would have rather had assistance registered.

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MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:21

Fends · 08/02/2026 21:12

They’re not “massively shitting on you” 🤣 fucks sake, just don’t take up a seat meant for those with a physical disability and you’ll be fine. Some people really do themselves no favours

I’m not. If you register as assistance… any assistance, and their booking process confirms the nature of the disability, you are allocated a choice of seats to choose from on the plane marked with the wheelchair logo.

This has nothing to do with trying to book mobility disabled seats. It has everything to do with RA allocating certain seats for anyone who declares any disability even if they are not suitable (even according to their own policies).

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Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 21:15

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:06

Those were the two seats offered despite him being registered as being under 12. I think once you check the assistance box it just defaults to massively shitting on you.

What assistance do you require on the flight?

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:15

Jade3450 · 08/02/2026 21:00

OP. Is the only reason you need assistance so you can access the assistance lane so you don’t have to queue? I can’t think what other assistance you would need for a child with autism if he has no mobility issues.

It seems to me you need to:

a) sit together
b) not have to queue

And that’s it.

In which case, just book two seats together and board at the last minute.

I don’t understand why you think your son has more right to not queue than say, a woman on her own with two children under 3, who could be equally disruptive.

Yeah, you’re right.. that’s what we need. But as I have mentioned numerous times in this thread, some airports only let you use the assistance lanes when you have declared that you need assistance and it’s registered in the booking.

When you check the box for assistance in the RA booking, it massively restricts which seats you can access to the point that it’s not tenable to book them (in this case). I have not experienced it with other airlines.

Maybe the difficulties we face when travelling are the same as a single parent travelling with young children, maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sometimes we can access quiet rooms, sensory rooms in airports which can be helpful. My point is rather that RA are making it difficult for people with disabilities to fly and book tickets, which is what has happened to us today.

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Fends · 08/02/2026 21:12

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:06

Those were the two seats offered despite him being registered as being under 12. I think once you check the assistance box it just defaults to massively shitting on you.

They’re not “massively shitting on you” 🤣 fucks sake, just don’t take up a seat meant for those with a physical disability and you’ll be fine. Some people really do themselves no favours

Fends · 08/02/2026 21:11

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 16:44

I am not trying to book a ‘disabled seat’ for a mobility disabled person. What I did was select ‘assistance’ like I always do and then selected ‘cognitive disability’ as this 1. Usually alerts the staff that a person requiring some assistance will be travelling (they usually ask when we want to board) and 2. Some airports check that assistance is on the booking (it’s usually on the boarding pass) before allowing access to assistance lanes.

What I didn’t realise is that Ryanair are even more monumentally shit than their reputation and make booking as a disabled person unnecessarily complicated.

So yes, I will not be declaring the disability and will be buying seats up front. But that doesn’t mean it’s ok to be this shit around disability.

This is you. Not them. You’re trying to select the seats that need the lift….you don’t need it ffs

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 21:06

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 20:51

A child under 12 can't sit alone on a Ryanair flight anyway regardless of disability.

Those were the two seats offered despite him being registered as being under 12. I think once you check the assistance box it just defaults to massively shitting on you.

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Jade3450 · 08/02/2026 21:00

OP. Is the only reason you need assistance so you can access the assistance lane so you don’t have to queue? I can’t think what other assistance you would need for a child with autism if he has no mobility issues.

It seems to me you need to:

a) sit together
b) not have to queue

And that’s it.

In which case, just book two seats together and board at the last minute.

I don’t understand why you think your son has more right to not queue than say, a woman on her own with two children under 3, who could be equally disruptive.

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 20:51

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 19:49

I couldn’t pick any two blue seats. I could only pick one of the ones labelled for a disabled passenger for the passenger who was listed as needing assistance.

  1. this was useless as a cognitively disabled child could not sit alone
  2. Ryanair use the wheelchair symbol to show which seats assistance passengers are allowed to choose from - it has nothing to do with needing a wheelchair seat. Their own booking process had already checked that we did not need a wheelchair.

A child under 12 can't sit alone on a Ryanair flight anyway regardless of disability.

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 20:48

Octavia64 · 08/02/2026 20:27

I am physically disabled. I fly a fair bit. Ryanair are no better and no worse in terms of assistance at the airport.

i don’t bother with their seat selection at all I just let their system do it’s thing and then get their agents to fix it at the airport.

to be honest many airlines give me a different seat than the one of the booking once I actually rock up at the airport - this is not a Ryanair only issue.

i often fly on my own but also have flown with my kids (now young adults but have flown with them as teens).

the airline have always fixed the seats at the airport - usually they are aware by that point whether it will be front loading or back loading and they put all the disabled passengers together at the front or at the back.

op, I realise that you are booking for someone without mobility difficulties but in my experience any assistance request of any kind gets you the disabled passenger tag.

Firstly, I’m glad you have been well taken care of by the airlines you have travelled on and that you don’t feel like you have been precluded from travel.

I think that my big frustration is that the system , at least in this instance, is totally stacked against travelers with my dc’s disability.

I can’t go to the airport, have long conversations with people to explain what the problem is and then sit around waiting for/hoping for them to fix it. I need to go, check in, walk around the terminal ad infinitum with dc, making sure he doesn’t (try to) get on a different plane in his enthusiasm for getting on a plane.

I just want to be able to book tickets without hassles or hurdles, and have his disability recognised and catered for accordingly. We actually don’t need that much assistance outside of the quieter lanes and a bit of flexibility around boarding depending on whether he’s desperate to board or ok to get on later.

The fact that I checked the assistance box during booking meant that the seats I could select for him were totally untenable (and probably against RA’s own policies for a cognitively impaired person travelling unaccompanied). In fact, selecting assistance during booking made the whole thing ridiculous and, if this was our first time travelling with a disabled dc, I might just give up and never do it again (which I suspect is what RA would prefer).

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Octavia64 · 08/02/2026 20:27

I am physically disabled. I fly a fair bit. Ryanair are no better and no worse in terms of assistance at the airport.

i don’t bother with their seat selection at all I just let their system do it’s thing and then get their agents to fix it at the airport.

to be honest many airlines give me a different seat than the one of the booking once I actually rock up at the airport - this is not a Ryanair only issue.

i often fly on my own but also have flown with my kids (now young adults but have flown with them as teens).

the airline have always fixed the seats at the airport - usually they are aware by that point whether it will be front loading or back loading and they put all the disabled passengers together at the front or at the back.

op, I realise that you are booking for someone without mobility difficulties but in my experience any assistance request of any kind gets you the disabled passenger tag.

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 19:49

Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 19:35

You can pick any two blue seats. You don't need a seat for a wheelchair user.

I couldn’t pick any two blue seats. I could only pick one of the ones labelled for a disabled passenger for the passenger who was listed as needing assistance.

  1. this was useless as a cognitively disabled child could not sit alone
  2. Ryanair use the wheelchair symbol to show which seats assistance passengers are allowed to choose from - it has nothing to do with needing a wheelchair seat. Their own booking process had already checked that we did not need a wheelchair.
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Mumsntfan1 · 08/02/2026 19:35

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 16:14

These are the options

You can pick any two blue seats. You don't need a seat for a wheelchair user.

SwedishEdith · 08/02/2026 19:28

There was a virtually blind passenger travelling alone last time I flew Ryanair. The staff were falling over themselves trying to offer him assistance but it was him who was insisting he didn't need it.

ColadhSamh · 08/02/2026 18:52

A family member uses Ryanair regularly and uses special assistance. They are fantastic. She is always treated with courtesy and respect by ground and cabin staff. On the occasions she has contacted special assistance via the website the staff have been efficient and helpful.
I love Ryanair. Yes its frustrating sometimes with delays or cancellations but you cannot expect 5 star service when you are paying peanuts.
Pre Ryanair people were paying a fortune for air travel. The airline has enabled so many more to travel regularly and avail of reasonably priced flights.

MangosteenSoda · 08/02/2026 18:37

SevenYellowHammers · 08/02/2026 18:19

Don’t do it OP. Honestly, I’m as tough as they come and proper hard and I don’t do RA. The only good thing I can say is that they make Easy Jet seem like business class!

Arrgh. I’ve already booked the accommodation and it was really hard to find something that suited so am loathe to cancel.

I’ve bitten the bullet and booked taking on advice from this thread about the best way to go about it.

I’m never going with them again though! So Brindisi, Carcassonne and a few other hit list destinations are now off my list as only RA flies there from my home airport.

To add insult to injury, once I put the booking through without special assistance being checked, I could see that seat 31C is indeed available to buy, just not when it might be free according to disability legislation.

Massive fuckers.

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SevenYellowHammers · 08/02/2026 18:19

Don’t do it OP. Honestly, I’m as tough as they come and proper hard and I don’t do RA. The only good thing I can say is that they make Easy Jet seem like business class!

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