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To be so embarrassed?

33 replies

Carlie97 · 08/02/2026 13:11

I have endometriosis and bleeding is out of control. Very heavy that I can have a whoosh moment and flood a super incontinence pad. I've ruined so many bed clothes, clothes and my sofa cushion covers see more of the inside of the washing machine than they're on the actual sofa!

I was eating out today. A real treat and I very much enjoyed the meal. As I stood up, I felt moist but thought perhaps it was a leak of wee or because I had been swimming. As I turned round to close the door on my way out, I noticed at the place where I'd been sitting, a pool of blood on the floor about the size of a round drinks coaster.

I went off to the shop across from the place to get some floor wipes and spray but honestly when I got back I couldn't bear going in and cleaning the mess up. There were lots of people sat there. I've only just stopped bleeding from a two month mega bleed, or so I thought. The woman in the cafe was so lovely too. The bus journey back was horrific as I didn't have a spare pair of bottoms on me.

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NeededANameChangeAnyway · 08/02/2026 15:22

Keep pushing for more help, this is not something you should just quietly deal with! I don't have endometriosis but can't quite believe that women are just expected to carry on as normal with all the horrendous symptoms.

NoKnit · 08/02/2026 15:14

I went through this. The mirena helped for a while but then suddenly it had seemed to come out and I had the masses of bleeding again. Hysterectomy 2024 and never looked back. Push for it, pay privately if it's an option but please don't just live with it.

Hankunamatata · 08/02/2026 15:12

Huge hugs.

NoKnit · 08/02/2026 15:10

You should not be going through this.

You need gynaecologist appointment ASAP and hysterectomy or at very least an ablation. The NHS is failing so badly leaving women in this condition. Surely if men had to deal with it there would be more solutions? I dunno maybe not.

Mullaghanish · 08/02/2026 15:04

Flowette period knickers might help too, with a pad ..

Katemax82 · 08/02/2026 15:02

That's awful. You're not unreasonable to be embarrassed. Sorry you're going through this

ExcellentMother · 08/02/2026 14:49

Sounds so difficult, I was a heavy bleeder and recently had the Iud Mirena inserted, which has stopped my bleeding. Is this an option for you,

GlasgowGal2014 · 08/02/2026 13:14

I'm really sorry that you are going through this. Have you tried tranexamic acid? I used to have really heavy bleeding with frequent flooding but since I started taking this my flow has been much lighter. It's been life changing.