To be so embarrassed?

I hear you 💖 it’s absolutely debilitating when this happens. I’d a period once that lasted 11 weeks, and I spent the whole summer in black trousers, didn’t swim once, destroyed clothes, and had to get a new swivel chair ordered at work 😭 The mirena was a godsend for me - completely cured the symptoms, and I had my second mirena removed a few months ago at the age of 54. (Ablation was not an option due to funny shaped uterus.)

If I was a customer there, I would have just felt sorry for you and offered to help you. Please don’t be embarrassed.

I feel
for you, I had exactly the same, years of flooding, and trying tranexamic acid that gave me migraines and constant iron tablets or infusions. Finally had an ablation which worked for about 2 years until I started getting horrendous pain which turned out to be bleeding but due to the ablation had no escape and therefore was congealing inside me. I became so unwell i had a hysterectomy, and have never looked back, but I'm still angry i suffered for so long. To make matters worse my gynaecologist was female and im sure thought I was exaggerating, she would raise her eyebrows when i told her the extent of the bleeding , i only had the hysterectomy agreed when I swapped to a male gynaecologist after I made a complaint about her.

Make a formal complaint to the hospital op. It is so important that you have your biopsy.

the admin team in my gynae department accidentally discharged me despite me pointing out very clearly they were making a mistake.

At that point I’d had 2 biopsies. 1st endo hyperplasia without atypia, 2nd negative. In my hosp they’re meant to discharge after 2 negative biopsies. After a year of chasing I finally made a complaint and was then swiftly given an appointment. That biopsy confirmed hyperplasia with atypia at which point I was told I needed a hysterectomy urgently (previously when I’d asked I’d been told no). Had the op 3 months later and the tests on what was removed confirmed cancer!

I'm so sorry, GP. I finally got a diagnosis of hyperplasia at the age of 64.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Agree with everyone else saying head to the gp because it is not ok to suffer like this.
in the meantime was going to suggest, period pads with period pants (I use Love Luna period pants from Sainsburys TU range) and then I use reusable bamboo night time / maternity pads from cheekywipes and they hold a lot more blood than regular disposable sanitary towels. You could then triple up with a tampon too. I’m so sorry, being a woman sucks a lot of the time. X

You need better treatment. See your doctors.

Agree push to see a gynaecologist. I had this. I was consistently fobbed off to the point that I ended up in a&e needing a blood transfusion. Prior to that had been consistently told “some women have heavy periods, take iron”. I bled through chairs at work, had to carry inco sheets around with me etc as the whooshes were uncontrollable even when sat down.

a&e patched me up and arranged an appt with gynae. Turned out I had adenomyosis and endometrial hyperplasia . Mirena coil helped but the endo hyperplasia progressed (had to have regular endo biopsies at hospital) to endo cancer and so I’ve now had a total hysterectomy at 46.

the state of womens health is scandalous.

Ive been through this & its awful so you have my sympathy OP! I had a hysterectomy at 36 its been genuinely life changing but did have to go privately.

I've just processed the OP's username. If I'm right, she's probably too young for a hysterectomy or ablation if she would like to have family.

I really do think she needs to go see her GP and to stress that her quality if life is impaired. She should have an urgent referral to an appropriate consultant.

Really feel for you. I was the same and it only stopped when I had a hysterectomy. Would that be an option for you?

Huge sympathies. I've been there and so have many others. It's not your fault.

Some suggestions:

• Go back to your gynaecologist and tell them this keeps happening and that you need to be given additional help
• Ask about contraceptive and surgical choices (ablation really helped me - from struggling every month to maybe only 3-4 really bad periods a year)
• Use a period tracker app & record everything from flow, pain, leaks, number of painkillers etc (it can be used to demonstrate how bad things are to the medical professionals)
• take transexsmic acid (I find taking it 2 days before period starts & for the full period really helps)
• get some heavy flow period plans (I find the Primark Heavy Flow 3 back some of the best)
• Wear them and double up santiary pads (one lenght ways & the other sideways across the back for heavily days and a heavy flow tampon - I know it's three times what most people need but it does work - while you are waiting for other solutions)
• Only buy trousers that are dark in colour and have heavy material (where possible, I know not easy in Summer). Yes, if you leak, it will stain the trousers but it's another layer and it keeps it from staining seating and furniture if the trousers have soakage.

It's really unfair and savage how many women are suffering like this with so little investment & research in this area Very wrong but I hope you find a solution that works for you.

Am dealing with similar at the moment, I work in the community and always sit on the floor as I am scared of sitting on people’s furniture in case of leaks.

Please call your GP, even if they have done everything eg waiting lists and referrals- if you keep calling they will get a picture of how persistent this problem is for you. Hugs!

This brings back memories, none of them pleasant. I once had a heavy period which lasted 16 weeks. If I stood up, the blood ran out of me. I,too, was a teacher and once had to leave the class walking backwards to the door because of flooding. Mines was perimenopause exacerbated by an underactive thyroid. Once I had a mirena coil fitted, it all stopped. My sympathy

Oh no, you're spot on. Men would never have to put up with that kind of shit at all. Someone said on here a few weeks ago that if men suffered the debilitating cramps some women do, there's have been a pill or something created to stop it. She wasn't wrong

I had heavy bleeds towards the end of perimenopause in spite of HRT.

The worst was the day I was having to run from my classroom to the loo (shared with pupils...) at the end of each lesson. At the very end of the school day, I realised that I hadn't even lasted the 50 minutes of the final lesson. Fortunately, my suede skirt was thick and a very dark navy.

Cleaned up, used yet another night time pad, drove home, ran indoors, saw to myself and then had to clean up the car seat.

I compared notes with another woman at work who'd had the same problem to the extent that she had to stay off work. In the end, she had an ablation and that sorted it permanently for her. (In my case, I was fortunate - I think it was the last 'hurrah' of my endo.)

Depending on your age and family circumstances an ablation might be a solution at some point OP?

Go to your GP this week. This is no way to live.
if they can’t help demand an NHS referral to specialist gynae.
are you wearing period underwear to prevent leaks ? I love wuka and modi bodi - -they do a super heavy flow pant.

A family member has this and she stopped using pads for the same reason, she wears period pants at all times as there basically knickers and tena pants for when it's very bad and the difference once she did she became more confident again and stopped worrying about going out etc

I was in a nice restaurant and the same thing happened. I stained an upholstered chair 😭 Restaurant was lovely though. Really embarrassing but that’s life. Periods were the bane of my life (that wasn’t the only incident). Thank god I don’t have them anymore. (Full hysterectomy).

Bless you OP sorry you're going through this x