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To think that no racist ever admits they are a racist

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Sweetiedarling7 · 08/02/2026 11:20

“I’m not a racist but…”
I hear this so often. Does any racist ever come out and say they are a racist?
I don’t think so.

OP posts:
Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 17:42

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:27

An interesting post that suggests to even question levels of racism in a country is in itself racist as it is viewed as minimisation or denial.

So you wanted objective evidence:
A Sept 2025 survey showed that 37% of people in the UK believed that there is a great deal of racism in the UK, rising to 48% of 18-27 year olds.

Whereas the World Population Review of ranking of racist countries places the UK 16th out of a 100 (by comparison Denmark is 1st and China is 75th).

So the perception that the UK is a racist country is at odds with the evidence of its ranking of racism by country.

Do you deem pointing this out to be racist?

How did they measure that in the World Population review? I must admit I find that hard to believe. I know that there is casual racism in some EU countries that you simply do not get here. I also find it hard to believe that Denmark is the most racist country in the world ( assuming 1st is the most racist which you seem to imply it is, if you are saying we are very racist at 16th). And Denmark being most racist when China is only 75th when China literally has concentration camps that they have herded Uighar muslims into, sounds definitely suspect as to how valid the racism measures were in that review.

My understanding is that Britain has the highest proportion of mixed heritage people in the world, which does not seem to be in congruence with British people generally being wildly racist.

explanationplease · 09/02/2026 17:39

I see that the OP posted and ran. Sigh.

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:33

dairydebris · 09/02/2026 17:10

I'll put my head above too and say I don't believe immigration is the problem. There are good and bad people of all races / nationalities. I believe its wealth inequality that is the root of the problem.

Firstly I completely agree with you that there are good and bad people of all races, sexes, ages and whatever background. As I stated where the additional people come from and even whether it is from migration or increased birth rate is irrelevant. What is relevant is the numbers of people and whether they are net beneficiaries or net contributors.

My point is that if you have 122 people using infrastructure and services that was designed for 100 people then stuff isn't going to work as well. If you increase the population by 22% then there will be more impact on the environment. If you have 22% more people that are net beneficiaries of Government spending and taxation then you are economically poorer.

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 17:32

dairydebris · 09/02/2026 17:10

I'll put my head above too and say I don't believe immigration is the problem. There are good and bad people of all races / nationalities. I believe its wealth inequality that is the root of the problem.

I think that shows a lack of understanding of the wide array of issues immigration can cause. I’m well off, highly educated but can see massive issues with immigration. The more different the cultures, the more problems it causes. For societies to function well, there is a need for common understanding of how the world works, of norms, values and aims. They need shared stories, myths. Different cultures vary in this regard. Having varying cultures living in close proximity fragments society. The more differences the more fragmented. Multiculturalism is a failed experiment, a failed experiment that has and continue to have severe adverse consequences for society.

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:27

5128gap · 09/02/2026 12:59

The comment 'actual racism is less prevalent than assumed' has no validity unless it is made as a result of a study that objectively evidences:

  1. The assumed prevalence of racism
  2. The actual prevalance of racism
  3. That 1 is greater than 2.
As far as im aware, there is no such study. Therefore anyone making this statement is basing it on nothing but their own belief that 'racism isn't as bad as its made out to be'. Racism minimisation, or denial if you will. I struggle to see what motive a person would have to minimise racism that isn't...racist?

An interesting post that suggests to even question levels of racism in a country is in itself racist as it is viewed as minimisation or denial.

So you wanted objective evidence:
A Sept 2025 survey showed that 37% of people in the UK believed that there is a great deal of racism in the UK, rising to 48% of 18-27 year olds.

Whereas the World Population Review of ranking of racist countries places the UK 16th out of a 100 (by comparison Denmark is 1st and China is 75th).

So the perception that the UK is a racist country is at odds with the evidence of its ranking of racism by country.

Do you deem pointing this out to be racist?

dairydebris · 09/02/2026 17:10

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 16:14

OK - I'll put my head above the parapet and state that there is something wrong with people that aren't concerned that a 22% increase in UK population since 1990 largely driven by immigration has created a problem in the UK.

Note: it doesn't matter if it's legal or illegal and it doesn't matter where the migrants come from - all that matters is numbers and whether they are net tax contributors or net tax beneficiaries.

I'll put my head above too and say I don't believe immigration is the problem. There are good and bad people of all races / nationalities. I believe its wealth inequality that is the root of the problem.

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 16:57

5128gap · 09/02/2026 15:45

I've answered that already in my second paragraph. Perhaps you're failing to understand what I said? I'll try again.
Disadvantaged people do not have enough resources to enjoy the life they would like. This means they are more likely to be concerned about where the resources they need are, and how they could get more of them than advantaged people.
Sometimes this leads them to question things like wealth inequality and lean to the left. However sometimes they can come to believe that the scarcity of resources isn't because the wealthy have them, its because other groups (immigrants) are taking them away from them. Then they may move to the right.
Where education comes in is two fold.
Firstly the better the persons education the greater the liklihood they can elevate themselves to a better life, where scarcity of resources impacts them less.
Secondly, their education is likely to have honed their critical thinking skills, so they are more likely to take a wider view of a situation. For example, to question whether getting rid of immigrants is really going to be life changing, particularly when the price to pay for a party who promises this is a further reduction in resources they may need, such as health and welfare provision.

Perhaps if you were better educated you would be able to understand that poor people are disproportionately affected (atm) by immigration. You seem to think that their views are mistaken bigoted beliefs rather than actual experiences. Interestingly enough, these experiences are now seeping into more middle class areas, the difference being is that those people can sell up and move away from the problems.

We lived in a fairly affluent area, my son came home from school to say no one was speaking English in one of his classes. PE classes were being changed because kids hadn’t got the energy in Ramadan, shops were changing, pubs were closing, it was getting more violent. We moved, we could afford to. I know many who couldn’t, they are stuck in an awful, dangerous area where white people are being pushed out, make no mistake, it’s been happening over several years now. So it’s not a perspective, it’s not a mistake. It’s happening. The only difference having a good job makes is being potentially able to move away. It’s called the white flight. Do you find it concerning white people are effectively being forced to up sticks and move away?

Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 16:35

5128gap · 09/02/2026 15:45

I've answered that already in my second paragraph. Perhaps you're failing to understand what I said? I'll try again.
Disadvantaged people do not have enough resources to enjoy the life they would like. This means they are more likely to be concerned about where the resources they need are, and how they could get more of them than advantaged people.
Sometimes this leads them to question things like wealth inequality and lean to the left. However sometimes they can come to believe that the scarcity of resources isn't because the wealthy have them, its because other groups (immigrants) are taking them away from them. Then they may move to the right.
Where education comes in is two fold.
Firstly the better the persons education the greater the liklihood they can elevate themselves to a better life, where scarcity of resources impacts them less.
Secondly, their education is likely to have honed their critical thinking skills, so they are more likely to take a wider view of a situation. For example, to question whether getting rid of immigrants is really going to be life changing, particularly when the price to pay for a party who promises this is a further reduction in resources they may need, such as health and welfare provision.

Maybe education could help you to understand that deprived communities are genuinely more likely to be negatively affected by immigration than wealthy ones. They are more likely to have high levels of immigrants who cannot speak English moved into them, this means high numbers of children who cannot speak English in schools, affecting the ability of the teachers to teach ( in schools already more challenged due to the demographics of the area). This was the experience of my middle class polish neighbour when she went to work in a school in a deprived area. Her assessment? The teachers can't teach due to all the Polish kids who cannot speak English.

They are also more likely to be affected by competition for scarce resources like housing, particularly social housing, when immigrants move into the area.

They are more likely to be affected by immigrants undercutting wages by being prepared to work for less.

In wealthy areas, the immigrants are middle class fluent English speakers, with professional jobs.. The only affect from new immigrants is the opening of more ethnic delis and restaurants. And a satisfied sense of how inclusive you are by accepting your new immigrant neighbours.

Lets not pretend that poorer communities in Britain have the same experience of immigrants moving into the area as middle class areas do.

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 16:14

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 14:51

No but the poster I said sounded racist didn't say anything like that. She said there was something wrong with people who weren't 'concerned about illegal immigrants'.

OK - I'll put my head above the parapet and state that there is something wrong with people that aren't concerned that a 22% increase in UK population since 1990 largely driven by immigration has created a problem in the UK.

Note: it doesn't matter if it's legal or illegal and it doesn't matter where the migrants come from - all that matters is numbers and whether they are net tax contributors or net tax beneficiaries.

5128gap · 09/02/2026 15:45

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 15:25

The correlation might well be there, but you’re failing to understand or even consider why, why do you think that correlation exists?

I've answered that already in my second paragraph. Perhaps you're failing to understand what I said? I'll try again.
Disadvantaged people do not have enough resources to enjoy the life they would like. This means they are more likely to be concerned about where the resources they need are, and how they could get more of them than advantaged people.
Sometimes this leads them to question things like wealth inequality and lean to the left. However sometimes they can come to believe that the scarcity of resources isn't because the wealthy have them, its because other groups (immigrants) are taking them away from them. Then they may move to the right.
Where education comes in is two fold.
Firstly the better the persons education the greater the liklihood they can elevate themselves to a better life, where scarcity of resources impacts them less.
Secondly, their education is likely to have honed their critical thinking skills, so they are more likely to take a wider view of a situation. For example, to question whether getting rid of immigrants is really going to be life changing, particularly when the price to pay for a party who promises this is a further reduction in resources they may need, such as health and welfare provision.

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 15:44

Underthinker · 09/02/2026 14:44

That's disingenuous.
Having concerns about immigration doesn't entail having a personal dislike for potential immigrants, any more than objecting to a housing development in your village requires a hatred of the people who might move there.

I reckon a lot of the concerns around a housing development in a village would be about the people who might live there. Whether they admit it openly to the planning process or not. Above and beyond concerns that there are enough services to support the newcomers, and that building work is noisy and disruptive.

That one post we keep referring back to sounded racist to me and I've explained why seemingly multiple times.

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 15:25

5128gap · 09/02/2026 08:52

The correlation between education and liberalism isn't bigotry, its a fact supported by emperical evidence. The patronising slant you gave that, by suggesting that clever and educated people can see the left wing light is your work, not mine.
The correlation I am making is that the more advantaged a person is (and high education is an advantage) the better their lives are likely to be. The less need they will have to fight over scarce resources with other groups, the less impacted they will be by social problems, the less likely they are to be personally angry with the world, look for a scapegoat and punch down.
The point being that disadvantage needs addressing at its root so that people have no need for the discontent that leads some to these behaviours.

Edited

The correlation might well be there, but you’re failing to understand or even consider why, why do you think that correlation exists?

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 15:21

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 13:47

Ok fair enough. I'm not racist against them either, I hope!

My point about people saying 'racism is overused' is that most people who say that have never actually experienced racism. It would be like a man saying 'misogyny is overused'. It's like well if it doesn't affect you in a negative way then you may not think it exists or minimise it. Doesn't mean it isn't a major issue for those suffering from it.

You actually denied their very existence though

Annie919 · 09/02/2026 14:56

IAmTheLogLady · 08/02/2026 13:56

No feeling of superiority here whatsoever.
Infact I usually despise the sort of person who corrects grammar.
I suppose I'm just so fed up with openly racist people hiding behind immigration issues that I resorted to belittling them.
I don't actually like that I did that, it felt a bit like eating a dirty McDonald's tbh.
I am in lots of pain after a horrible ski accident and have a horrible racist misogynistic neighbour who is really really getting to me.
I am so fed up with the lack of compassion lots of people can have and how easy they find it to blame immigration for everything.
I shouldn't have done it, but it comes from a place of frustration rather than superiority.
I say all this as someone who has concerns about immigration and the sort of people who come here un vetted. I just don't think this justifies racism.

Nope. The poster was correct. You really do think you're superior.

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 14:51

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 13:11

@BillieWiper

So OK - in your view does the following statement sound racist to you :

Since 1990 the UK population has increased from 57 million to 70 million by 2025 (an increase of 22%.

This has led to an increase in pressure on existing infrastructure (roads, water, education, healthcare, housing , environment etc etc ) and the economy.

The increase has been driven primarily by high net migration and, to a lesser extent, natural change (births minus deaths) and increased longevity.

Whether the migration is legal or illegal is irrelevant, the skin colour / ethnicity of the migrants is also irrelevant. What is relevant is the net migration numbers and whether those (including their families) migrating to the UK are net tax contributors or net beneficiaries.

No but the poster I said sounded racist didn't say anything like that. She said there was something wrong with people who weren't 'concerned about illegal immigrants'.

Underthinker · 09/02/2026 14:44

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 13:10

'have concerns' about an entire group of people you never met en masse just because they're from a different country or race sounds like to me she's not fond of them. Sorry I forgot the exact words she used.

That's disingenuous.
Having concerns about immigration doesn't entail having a personal dislike for potential immigrants, any more than objecting to a housing development in your village requires a hatred of the people who might move there.

5128gap · 09/02/2026 14:00

HelpMeUnpickThis · 09/02/2026 02:45

Your posts are myopic and off topic.

Also, “how dare you?”. How dare I what? Express my opinion? Not bow down to your deflection? That is not how it works here.

What I have posted is “not that deep”
because it does not affect you and you have no empathy for other people’s experiences; even if we type it out till kingdom come on this thread.

Other posters have validated my comments / experiences but you refuse to acknowledge that.

I do not care AT ALL about your heritage. I have my own heritage, life experience, family experience, professional experience etc which is heavily coloured with racism. I don’t need your sign off to speak my truth.

This topic is about racism and despite your numerous posts you have not addressed ONE single point that I have made about the experiences of black/brown people. Not one.

I listed some discussion points and you immediately dismissed it as a rant. So condescending.

You wrote a whole paragraph about how I dont know you (well duh - why would I know you? This is an anonymous internet forum).

Typical revert to victim mode.

I made a very direct point to you which is that:

Black / brown people have been disadvantaged for centuries. White males should get into universities based on their qualifications and merit. Just like I did, just like all minorities have to. Why is this news to you?

I ask you again: why were you quiet when black/brown people were being excluded from opportunities they were qualified for and a lot of times were OVER qualified for?

Why can’t you have a sensible discussion about this?

It is only NOW that you have a voice about this - because it is because it is NOW affecting white males.

You did not give a jot when it was black/brown people who were being marginalised.

You have NOTHING to say about how black/brown men fought and died in pointless wars on behalf of the Colonialist Empire.

You had nothing to say when it was mainly black/brown people being pushed to live in horribly disadvantaged areas, never encouraged to aspire to higher level jobs, exposed to crime for survival, not given any assistance to break this horrific cycle.

It is only NOW that you care to post, because it is now affecting your ilk.

White males should get out and do the jobs and make the sacrifices that black/brown people have been making for years.

Your posts suggest that you inherently believe that diversity initiatives - to LEVEL the “playing field” marginalise white males, and they deserve their “position” above others.

This is because you inherently believe that white males or white people are more deserving of life-enhancing privilege and opportunities than black/brown people.

That makes you a racist.

If I was wrong, you would have engaged in this discussion in an entirely different way.

No one is lucky in this current environment. No one at all.

They've also had nothing to say about the centuries old disadvantage of white working class people until they realised their circumstances could be weaponised to support a racist agenda.
Until the last few years, I've not heard a peep of concern for white people living in poverty in horrible neighbourhoods from 'the right'.
If young men couldn't find work then until very recently it was their own fault for not trying hard enough. If young mums were raising their children in sub standard accomodation in dangerous neighbourhoods, then they should have 'taken responsibility' and made better choices.
Now all of a sudden poor white people have had a rebrand and become the victims of immigration policy, and its of paramount importance that we 'listen to them'.
Makes a change I suppose from blaming them and crossing the road to avoid them, but the hypocrisy sickens me nonetheless.

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 13:47

Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 13:34

There is a thread that has been running for many years on Mumsnet of witches talking to other witches 😊 I think it was started by a Mnetter who asked 'Any other witches on here.' And it turns out there were LOADS. I know a couple of witches too and have done in the past too.

Its nature based religion.

Ok fair enough. I'm not racist against them either, I hope!

My point about people saying 'racism is overused' is that most people who say that have never actually experienced racism. It would be like a man saying 'misogyny is overused'. It's like well if it doesn't affect you in a negative way then you may not think it exists or minimise it. Doesn't mean it isn't a major issue for those suffering from it.

Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 13:34

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 11:43

I don't think witches exist do they? And don't see what they've got to do with racism?

There is a thread that has been running for many years on Mumsnet of witches talking to other witches 😊 I think it was started by a Mnetter who asked 'Any other witches on here.' And it turns out there were LOADS. I know a couple of witches too and have done in the past too.

Its nature based religion.

Lurkingandlearning · 09/02/2026 13:22

Your post reminded me of things I have seen on TV about whole communities in US that are made up entirely of gun toting racists. I may have misremembered but I’m sure that even in that situation where they have segregated themselves and would shoot to keep it that way, they don’t admit they are racist. They use words like patriot etc but refuse to use that word

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 13:11

@BillieWiper

So OK - in your view does the following statement sound racist to you :

Since 1990 the UK population has increased from 57 million to 70 million by 2025 (an increase of 22%.

This has led to an increase in pressure on existing infrastructure (roads, water, education, healthcare, housing , environment etc etc ) and the economy.

The increase has been driven primarily by high net migration and, to a lesser extent, natural change (births minus deaths) and increased longevity.

Whether the migration is legal or illegal is irrelevant, the skin colour / ethnicity of the migrants is also irrelevant. What is relevant is the net migration numbers and whether those (including their families) migrating to the UK are net tax contributors or net beneficiaries.

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 13:10

Underthinker · 09/02/2026 12:26

That poster said "have concerns" and you changed that to "despise". Why was that?

'have concerns' about an entire group of people you never met en masse just because they're from a different country or race sounds like to me she's not fond of them. Sorry I forgot the exact words she used.

Vivi0 · 09/02/2026 13:09

HelpMeUnpickThis · 09/02/2026 02:45

Your posts are myopic and off topic.

Also, “how dare you?”. How dare I what? Express my opinion? Not bow down to your deflection? That is not how it works here.

What I have posted is “not that deep”
because it does not affect you and you have no empathy for other people’s experiences; even if we type it out till kingdom come on this thread.

Other posters have validated my comments / experiences but you refuse to acknowledge that.

I do not care AT ALL about your heritage. I have my own heritage, life experience, family experience, professional experience etc which is heavily coloured with racism. I don’t need your sign off to speak my truth.

This topic is about racism and despite your numerous posts you have not addressed ONE single point that I have made about the experiences of black/brown people. Not one.

I listed some discussion points and you immediately dismissed it as a rant. So condescending.

You wrote a whole paragraph about how I dont know you (well duh - why would I know you? This is an anonymous internet forum).

Typical revert to victim mode.

I made a very direct point to you which is that:

Black / brown people have been disadvantaged for centuries. White males should get into universities based on their qualifications and merit. Just like I did, just like all minorities have to. Why is this news to you?

I ask you again: why were you quiet when black/brown people were being excluded from opportunities they were qualified for and a lot of times were OVER qualified for?

Why can’t you have a sensible discussion about this?

It is only NOW that you have a voice about this - because it is because it is NOW affecting white males.

You did not give a jot when it was black/brown people who were being marginalised.

You have NOTHING to say about how black/brown men fought and died in pointless wars on behalf of the Colonialist Empire.

You had nothing to say when it was mainly black/brown people being pushed to live in horribly disadvantaged areas, never encouraged to aspire to higher level jobs, exposed to crime for survival, not given any assistance to break this horrific cycle.

It is only NOW that you care to post, because it is now affecting your ilk.

White males should get out and do the jobs and make the sacrifices that black/brown people have been making for years.

Your posts suggest that you inherently believe that diversity initiatives - to LEVEL the “playing field” marginalise white males, and they deserve their “position” above others.

This is because you inherently believe that white males or white people are more deserving of life-enhancing privilege and opportunities than black/brown people.

That makes you a racist.

If I was wrong, you would have engaged in this discussion in an entirely different way.

No one is lucky in this current environment. No one at all.

That makes you a racist.

FFS.

If I was wrong, you would have engaged in this discussion in an entirely different way.

I’m not engaging with you at all, because it’s not a discussion. It’s a rant by you accusing me of things I never said or did. Making assumptions about me due to my skin colour. Telling me what I think about things I’ve not even made comment on and calling me a racist.

I can’t be bothered with it.

5128gap · 09/02/2026 12:59

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 12:39

That your comment that anyone stating that the word racist / racism is being overused or that actual racism is less prevalent than assumed is something that a racist would say is clearly incorrect.

In your view to even question the level of racism in society is in itself evidence of racism.

It's a medieval mindset where anyone questioning the level of witchcraft in society is in itself suggestive of evidence of witchcraft by that person.

The comment 'actual racism is less prevalent than assumed' has no validity unless it is made as a result of a study that objectively evidences:

  1. The assumed prevalence of racism
  2. The actual prevalance of racism
  3. That 1 is greater than 2.
As far as im aware, there is no such study. Therefore anyone making this statement is basing it on nothing but their own belief that 'racism isn't as bad as its made out to be'. Racism minimisation, or denial if you will. I struggle to see what motive a person would have to minimise racism that isn't...racist?
BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 12:58

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 12:39

That your comment that anyone stating that the word racist / racism is being overused or that actual racism is less prevalent than assumed is something that a racist would say is clearly incorrect.

In your view to even question the level of racism in society is in itself evidence of racism.

It's a medieval mindset where anyone questioning the level of witchcraft in society is in itself suggestive of evidence of witchcraft by that person.

No I just think that poster sounded racist and I've said my reasons why.

That statement coupled with 'there must be something wrong with you' if you don't hate/fear/feel prejudice against 'illegal' migrants sounds racist to me.

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