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To think that no racist ever admits they are a racist

283 replies

Sweetiedarling7 · 08/02/2026 11:20

“I’m not a racist but…”
I hear this so often. Does any racist ever come out and say they are a racist?
I don’t think so.

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VictorianScreenTime · 08/02/2026 11:39

I heard once that anything preceding the word “but” doesn’t count. Not infallible but fairly accurate I must say!

Givemeausernamepls · 08/02/2026 11:37

No they do. Many years ago, my new neighbour came over to introduce himself by telling us they were so pleased to see we’d moved in. I thought it was cos we were a young couple about to embark on a family etc. no it was because we were white. (And I won’t repeat what he said.)

we Nick named them Mr and Mrs Hitler…

dairydebris · 08/02/2026 11:35

I have a question. If you say something racist through ignorance, ie you didn't realise it was racist, are you actually a racist?

B1anche · 08/02/2026 11:35

Underthinker · 08/02/2026 11:33

"I'm not racist but.." is usually said by people talking about subjects that are adjacent to race issues, e.g. immigration that often attract accusations of racism.

The person saying it might be racist or might not.

...but they probably are.

Underthinker · 08/02/2026 11:33

"I'm not racist but.." is usually said by people talking about subjects that are adjacent to race issues, e.g. immigration that often attract accusations of racism.

The person saying it might be racist or might not.

Flamingojune · 08/02/2026 11:25

Same with misogyny

IsThisLifeNow · 08/02/2026 11:24

The 'but' part completely compounds the opposite of the statement that follows!

Wildchild60s · 08/02/2026 11:22

I agree with you. See also "I'm not being sexist, but..." "I'm not being homophobic, but..." or even "I'm not being rude but...".