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To think that no racist ever admits they are a racist

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Sweetiedarling7 · 08/02/2026 11:20

“I’m not a racist but…”
I hear this so often. Does any racist ever come out and say they are a racist?
I don’t think so.

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1dayatatime · 10/02/2026 15:52

AngryBird6122 · 10/02/2026 13:01

Agreed - I have been to JP several times and have experienced racism. They are quite open with it and dare I say, proud?!

But I've experienced it here in the UK too! From Indian, Chinese and (gasp) black people (yes, it happens, don't BS me that it doesn't) My DH is not white and his family wouldn't have anything to do with me and most of the reason was my race. I'm sure many, many other people can say the same.

Very naïve to think only white people can be racist.

Everyone is a bit racist IMO.

I don't believe that racism is absent from the UK (or will ever be from any country) but relatively it's one of the least racist countries in the world.

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GregoryFluff · 10/02/2026 13:26

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My maternal family are Romani. We are gypsies. We don't give a fuck about being called gypsies. The people that do not want to be called gypsies are Irish Travellers
We do not want to be confused because 'we' believe we are cleaner, treat our animals better, get a bad name because of them thieves etc, etc and vice versa
Ironically, racism. And very overt with it on both sides
But you don't need to clutch your pearls for us. Why do you think Fury calls himself a gypsy?
It's a thing that the middle classes have invented to be cross of on 'our' behalf

Gotmyoldshoeson · 10/02/2026 13:24

Dragonflytamer · 10/02/2026 13:16

I think a lot of people have unconscious race bias. You just have to look at who people choose to marry. If no one had any bias the number of people marring someone from different race would be representative of the distribution in the country. But it isn't people are far more likely to marry someone from their own race - that applies across pretty much all race groups.

That's not evidence of a race bias. There will be religious or cultural reasons influencing marriage choices, people mixing largely with people from their own community meaning they mainly meet potential partners within their own community, then most people want to marry someone with similar views and attitudes and culture to them so are more likely to marry someone from their own background. You'd expect people to marry more within their own cultural background, even if there were no racism.

But yes, racism will be the reason for some of those choices, but not others.

Gotmyoldshoeson · 10/02/2026 13:17

AngryBird6122 · 10/02/2026 13:01

Agreed - I have been to JP several times and have experienced racism. They are quite open with it and dare I say, proud?!

But I've experienced it here in the UK too! From Indian, Chinese and (gasp) black people (yes, it happens, don't BS me that it doesn't) My DH is not white and his family wouldn't have anything to do with me and most of the reason was my race. I'm sure many, many other people can say the same.

Very naïve to think only white people can be racist.

Everyone is a bit racist IMO.

I read an interesting book, with different chapters by different Muslim women, and it was a real eye opener about racism from South Asians to Black Muslims and from Black people with heritage from certain countries in Africa towards black people with heritage from other countries in Africa.

Racism is a universal.

Dragonflytamer · 10/02/2026 13:16

I think a lot of people have unconscious race bias. You just have to look at who people choose to marry. If no one had any bias the number of people marring someone from different race would be representative of the distribution in the country. But it isn't people are far more likely to marry someone from their own race - that applies across pretty much all race groups.

AngryBird6122 · 10/02/2026 13:01

Thechaseison71 · 09/02/2026 08:22

And this also applies to white people feeling that way. . Contrary to popular belief it's not only white people that are the perpetrators of racism

Anyone who has been to the far east can often verify that

Edited

Agreed - I have been to JP several times and have experienced racism. They are quite open with it and dare I say, proud?!

But I've experienced it here in the UK too! From Indian, Chinese and (gasp) black people (yes, it happens, don't BS me that it doesn't) My DH is not white and his family wouldn't have anything to do with me and most of the reason was my race. I'm sure many, many other people can say the same.

Very naïve to think only white people can be racist.

Everyone is a bit racist IMO.

BillieWiper · 10/02/2026 12:39

5MinuteArgument · 10/02/2026 10:24

That would be none then, really, or very few. The numbers coming into the country have put a strain on housing, water, sewage, transport, waste collection, health service, schools, the welfare bill and our natural environment.

You wouldn't be able to go and settle in Australia unless you had specific skills that they needed.

Yeah I do understand that.

daffodilandtulip · 10/02/2026 12:38

My parents would say I’m not racist because as you know, I’m friends with (token African lady in the town) but … and then go on to say the most vile things.

BillieWiper · 10/02/2026 12:36

5128gap · 10/02/2026 08:00

The problem with that is, if we take asylum at its purest intent, its aim is to protect the vulnerable, not gather people into the country who are going to be useful.
Not to say people who come here seeking asylum are not going to be useful, many start new lives and make valuable contributions. However, depending on what they're fleeing, you will have people who are victims of violence and torture, women who have been raped, seen their children die, people who have disabilities, trauma and other MH problems due to their history. Realistically it may be a long time, if ever, before they are able to work and they will need a lot of services along the way.
A blanket work requirement would exclude these people, who arguably need asylum the most. Which some people might say, well, that's a shame, but not our problem. Which is a different line on immigration altogether, as if we're only going to admit the robust, healthy, work ready, useful people, that's not offering asylum, it's something completely different.
And people don't like that either, because they claim to be frightened of 'fighting fit' young men.

Yeah, some very good points there. It is really difficult.

5MinuteArgument · 10/02/2026 10:24

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 23:03

I don't know. Possibly. I really just want whoever wants to live here to be able to, as long as there are enough public services to support the extra people. Same as if I wanted to live in another country.

I think they should work and not be able to get benefits until they've paid a certain amount of NI etc. and obviously I think ideally they shouldn't let in people convicted of certain crimes.

That would be none then, really, or very few. The numbers coming into the country have put a strain on housing, water, sewage, transport, waste collection, health service, schools, the welfare bill and our natural environment.

You wouldn't be able to go and settle in Australia unless you had specific skills that they needed.

5128gap · 10/02/2026 10:23

Something else I've noticed, is that people can be very quick to believe or assume other people are saying they're racist, even when they've said no such thing.
On many threads I've made a comment and been turned on by posters saying "You 'lefties' think that everyone who doesn't agree with you are racists" and so forth, when there has been nothing in what I've actually written to suggest any such thing.

Yet still people read a left leaning or anti racism comment and reframe it as personal attack. Which they then use to prop up their argument that 'lefties' are going round accusing people of racism all the time.
Point being, if people want a 'discussion' there's responsibility on both sides to leave bias at the door and focus on what other people are actually saying rather than write their words for them based on stereotypes and dislike of 'the left'.

LakieLady · 10/02/2026 09:15

I do think cultural difference is often more divisive than skin colour.

It wasn't "cultural difference" that got my friend of Indian heritage beaten up a few years ago. He's from the third generation of his family that is UK born and educated and more steeped in British culture than I am.

I'm pretty sure that he was attacked for having brown skin, as evidenced by the fact that the scum who broke a couple of his ribs and kicked him in the face called him a "fucking P-word" and to "fuck off home".

LakieLady · 10/02/2026 08:46

Ilovelurchers · 08/02/2026 12:10

"something wrong with you" ?

What's wrong with me?

Because there are many, many things in our society that concern me gravely - the monsters that hold.global power, grotesque inequalities between rich and poor, children growing up into abject poverty, the sexual exploitation of women and girls, etc etc - and this frankly just isn't one of them. Couldn't care less.

Spot on.

My only concern about illegal immigrants is that their illegal status makes them more likely to be exploited.

5128gap · 10/02/2026 08:00

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 23:03

I don't know. Possibly. I really just want whoever wants to live here to be able to, as long as there are enough public services to support the extra people. Same as if I wanted to live in another country.

I think they should work and not be able to get benefits until they've paid a certain amount of NI etc. and obviously I think ideally they shouldn't let in people convicted of certain crimes.

The problem with that is, if we take asylum at its purest intent, its aim is to protect the vulnerable, not gather people into the country who are going to be useful.
Not to say people who come here seeking asylum are not going to be useful, many start new lives and make valuable contributions. However, depending on what they're fleeing, you will have people who are victims of violence and torture, women who have been raped, seen their children die, people who have disabilities, trauma and other MH problems due to their history. Realistically it may be a long time, if ever, before they are able to work and they will need a lot of services along the way.
A blanket work requirement would exclude these people, who arguably need asylum the most. Which some people might say, well, that's a shame, but not our problem. Which is a different line on immigration altogether, as if we're only going to admit the robust, healthy, work ready, useful people, that's not offering asylum, it's something completely different.
And people don't like that either, because they claim to be frightened of 'fighting fit' young men.

BillieWiper · 09/02/2026 23:03

Clavinova · 09/02/2026 18:49

As far as I am aware, the Ukraine refugee scheme only offered temporary sanctuary on time-limited visas, with the expectation that most refugees would return home when safe to do so - or at least that was how the scheme was presented to the British public.

Ukrainians needed a sponsor based in the UK, proof of ID/passport/biometric data and the majority of refugees were women and children, elderly men and families. The time-limited visas were not designed to offer permanent residence in the UK and time spent under the scheme does not count towards indefinite leave to remain. I think I remember reading last year that over 90,000 Ukrainians had already left the UK.

Is that the sort of scheme you would like to offer other refugees and asylum seekers across the board, i.e. proof of ID required, sponsorship and temporary sanctuary? Do you think Syrian refugees, for example, should return to Syria in due course?

I don't know. Possibly. I really just want whoever wants to live here to be able to, as long as there are enough public services to support the extra people. Same as if I wanted to live in another country.

I think they should work and not be able to get benefits until they've paid a certain amount of NI etc. and obviously I think ideally they shouldn't let in people convicted of certain crimes.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 09/02/2026 19:21

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 18:47

You are absolutely right that the percentage of white people stating that there is "a great deal of racism" in the Uk is much lower than say black or brown people. The survey showed that 9 out of 10 black people believe that there is a great deal of racism in the UK.

So what the research really tells us is that white people tend to be blissfully unaware of racism or that black people are imagining it.

I know which of those options I think is most likely!

Wellthisisdifficult · 09/02/2026 19:12

Clavinova · 09/02/2026 18:49

As far as I am aware, the Ukraine refugee scheme only offered temporary sanctuary on time-limited visas, with the expectation that most refugees would return home when safe to do so - or at least that was how the scheme was presented to the British public.

Ukrainians needed a sponsor based in the UK, proof of ID/passport/biometric data and the majority of refugees were women and children, elderly men and families. The time-limited visas were not designed to offer permanent residence in the UK and time spent under the scheme does not count towards indefinite leave to remain. I think I remember reading last year that over 90,000 Ukrainians had already left the UK.

Is that the sort of scheme you would like to offer other refugees and asylum seekers across the board, i.e. proof of ID required, sponsorship and temporary sanctuary? Do you think Syrian refugees, for example, should return to Syria in due course?

Not forgetting most were women and children as the men of fighting age actually generally stayed

i do think asylum should be temporary and reviewed. Eg is someone claimed asylum claiming they were gay, then later had relationships with opposite sex people they should be deported as the basis on which they claimed asylum is no longer relevant etc

Clavinova · 09/02/2026 18:49

BillieWiper · 08/02/2026 15:42

But the same concern wasn't raised when loads of Ukrainians came over. In fact people were welcoming them into their homes. Lots of British men seemed to use the scheme as a backdoor dating service?! Taking advantage of young women in need of shelter.

So when white people come fleeing war it's ok. When brown ones come fleeing war they're near enough blamed for the collapse of British society.

As far as I am aware, the Ukraine refugee scheme only offered temporary sanctuary on time-limited visas, with the expectation that most refugees would return home when safe to do so - or at least that was how the scheme was presented to the British public.

Ukrainians needed a sponsor based in the UK, proof of ID/passport/biometric data and the majority of refugees were women and children, elderly men and families. The time-limited visas were not designed to offer permanent residence in the UK and time spent under the scheme does not count towards indefinite leave to remain. I think I remember reading last year that over 90,000 Ukrainians had already left the UK.

Is that the sort of scheme you would like to offer other refugees and asylum seekers across the board, i.e. proof of ID required, sponsorship and temporary sanctuary? Do you think Syrian refugees, for example, should return to Syria in due course?

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 18:47

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 09/02/2026 17:45

It would be interesting to see a breakdown of the stats by ethnicity.

E.g. 37% of people in the UK believe that there is a great deal of racism. But what percentage of white people believe that vs what percentage of black or brown people?

You are absolutely right that the percentage of white people stating that there is "a great deal of racism" in the Uk is much lower than say black or brown people. The survey showed that 9 out of 10 black people believe that there is a great deal of racism in the UK.

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 18:44

Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 17:42

How did they measure that in the World Population review? I must admit I find that hard to believe. I know that there is casual racism in some EU countries that you simply do not get here. I also find it hard to believe that Denmark is the most racist country in the world ( assuming 1st is the most racist which you seem to imply it is, if you are saying we are very racist at 16th). And Denmark being most racist when China is only 75th when China literally has concentration camps that they have herded Uighar muslims into, sounds definitely suspect as to how valid the racism measures were in that review.

My understanding is that Britain has the highest proportion of mixed heritage people in the world, which does not seem to be in congruence with British people generally being wildly racist.

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Sorry I didn't explain the stats very clearly- 1st is least racist and 100th is most racist.

Here is the link to the survey which shows the methodology which it freely admits is difficult to measure.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/least-racist-countries

Least Racist Countries 2026

Detailed data on the least racist countries around the world ranked by racial equality rankings through the years.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/least-racist-countries

5128gap · 09/02/2026 18:43

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:27

An interesting post that suggests to even question levels of racism in a country is in itself racist as it is viewed as minimisation or denial.

So you wanted objective evidence:
A Sept 2025 survey showed that 37% of people in the UK believed that there is a great deal of racism in the UK, rising to 48% of 18-27 year olds.

Whereas the World Population Review of ranking of racist countries places the UK 16th out of a 100 (by comparison Denmark is 1st and China is 75th).

So the perception that the UK is a racist country is at odds with the evidence of its ranking of racism by country.

Do you deem pointing this out to be racist?

Firstly, "Actual racism is less prevalent than assumed" is not a question, is it? Its an opinion stated as though it were fact. So serves as a poor example to prove your point.
Secondly I don't think the study you cited is particularly helpful, because there's no definition of what constitutes 'a great deal' of racism.
For example, I consider surveys findings amongst people from minority ethnic backgrounds that 70% have experienced racism, 33% have been victims of racially motivated assault and 75% of WOC have been discriminated against at work as indicative of 'a great deal' of racism. You may not.

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 09/02/2026 18:34

Wellthisisdifficult · 08/02/2026 16:13

Everyone is in a box now days, some boxes it’s fine to kick, others you can’t even look at. It’s the church of Wokism - just as hypocritical and mindlessly followed by those who can’t think for themselves as any religion

Yes, I couldn't agree more! 💯

Gotmyoldshoeson · 09/02/2026 18:32

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 09/02/2026 17:45

It would be interesting to see a breakdown of the stats by ethnicity.

E.g. 37% of people in the UK believe that there is a great deal of racism. But what percentage of white people believe that vs what percentage of black or brown people?

Its also not an objective measure of racism. Its a measure of perception, but without knowing what that perception is based on - personal experience of racism, or reading/ watching material on racism, or something else - we can't say how far it reflects actual incidents of racism. Perceptions that there is a great deal of racism may, for example, increase after something like the George Lloyd murder, even though that is a USA issue. It may have made people in the UK think and feel that there is more racism, even though actually incidents of racism have not increased in the UK.

Its a useful measure to build a picture of the UK and racism, and its useful to track that measure over time ( or countries) but its not an objective measure or actual racism as such, but a subjective perception.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 09/02/2026 17:45

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:27

An interesting post that suggests to even question levels of racism in a country is in itself racist as it is viewed as minimisation or denial.

So you wanted objective evidence:
A Sept 2025 survey showed that 37% of people in the UK believed that there is a great deal of racism in the UK, rising to 48% of 18-27 year olds.

Whereas the World Population Review of ranking of racist countries places the UK 16th out of a 100 (by comparison Denmark is 1st and China is 75th).

So the perception that the UK is a racist country is at odds with the evidence of its ranking of racism by country.

Do you deem pointing this out to be racist?

It would be interesting to see a breakdown of the stats by ethnicity.

E.g. 37% of people in the UK believe that there is a great deal of racism. But what percentage of white people believe that vs what percentage of black or brown people?

explanationplease · 09/02/2026 17:42

1dayatatime · 09/02/2026 17:33

Firstly I completely agree with you that there are good and bad people of all races, sexes, ages and whatever background. As I stated where the additional people come from and even whether it is from migration or increased birth rate is irrelevant. What is relevant is the numbers of people and whether they are net beneficiaries or net contributors.

My point is that if you have 122 people using infrastructure and services that was designed for 100 people then stuff isn't going to work as well. If you increase the population by 22% then there will be more impact on the environment. If you have 22% more people that are net beneficiaries of Government spending and taxation then you are economically poorer.

Yes but you’ll also have more tax revenue, and more skill capacity, and less strain on population figures. All western countries are wanting more people born not fewer, including the right-especially the right. The only reason for the racism is to set people against each other, so they ignore the people storing up all the money.

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