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To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

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Onempretime7788 · 08/02/2026 00:16

I would have thought post 35 was rare

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GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:35

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:29

Why I'm not on deaths door lol. I've just lost 7 stone and enjoying a few nonths of that first! I only want one baby so all will be well. I'm a young 36, look young, feel young, no health issues, very regular periods I'm good!

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Looking young and feeling young have fuck all to do with anything.

FMLGFastMovingLuxuryGoods · 08/02/2026 00:32

You faint the piss OP? Where have you heard it’s rare post 35?

My paternal grandma had my dad at aged 48, in the 50’s.

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 08/02/2026 00:31

My mum had me at 44. I had my only child two weeks short of 38.

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:29

Coffeeandbooks88 · 08/02/2026 00:25

Start now!

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Why I'm not on deaths door lol. I've just lost 7 stone and enjoying a few nonths of that first! I only want one baby so all will be well. I'm a young 36, look young, feel young, no health issues, very regular periods I'm good!

HeadyLamarr · 08/02/2026 00:29

When my great aunt had a baby aged 45, she thought she was going through menopause. She'd had her first at 22.

These days it's not that uncommon (although suboptimal from a health risk point of view).

VoltaireMittyDream · 08/02/2026 00:27

I dunno, this is MN where everyone knows at least 6 people who got pregnant first try at 57, and age-related fertility decline is just a myth peddled by the patriarchy to keep us down.

It took me 7 years and 6 pregnancies to have a live birth. I started trying at 33. The problem was low egg quality, which is a factor of the ageing process.

People age differently. Some women have good quality eggs into their 40s, but they are statistically the exception.

We hear about those people, so it seems more common than it is. We don’t hear about all the people who try in their 40s and don’t succeed. The pregnancies that don’t happen, or don’t go to term, are not visible.

The only person I know who had a baby in their mid-late 40s used a donor egg.

Knackeredmommy · 08/02/2026 00:27

Eh? Are you new to Earth? 44 is not that unusual.

UnctuousUnicorns · 08/02/2026 00:26

Wishingplenty · 08/02/2026 00:19

??? This has to be a joke thread!

Very possibly. I was two weeks short of 39 when I had my third, I'm sure it wasn't anything unusual. The midwife knew of a woman who'd had her children at 44 and 48. I went through the menopause at 44!

Coffeeandbooks88 · 08/02/2026 00:25

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:24

Stop it now 🤣 I'm 36 and will be trying for my first later this year.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 08/02/2026 00:25

Not impossible

Coffeeandbooks88 · 08/02/2026 00:25

Menopause is later than 35 so why does it surprise you?

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:24

Stop it now 🤣 I'm 36 and will be trying for my first later this year.

HannaHat · 08/02/2026 00:22

My friend had her first 18 months ago aged 44. Why would 35 be rare?!

Ohcrap082024 · 08/02/2026 00:22

Are you new to Mumsnet @Onempretime7788?

Wishingplenty · 08/02/2026 00:19

??? This has to be a joke thread!