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Onempretime7788 · 2026-02-08T00:16:41+00:00

I would have thought post 35 was rare

ghostyslovesheets · 08/02/2026 00:54

sittingonabeach · 08/02/2026 00:50

@Boots89 being healthy helps but age is a factor with conception, no matter how healthy you are, and the odds of successful conception start to drop after 35

On average- so some women will struggle to conceive at 25 and others have no issues at 40 - that’s how statistics work. Generally over 35 women see a decline but not all women - quite a few don’t

not sure why there are so many cross people on this thread picking out individual posters looking for an argument

except that it nearly 1am and all that

HazelBite · 08/02/2026 00:54

I have 2 DIL'S in their early 40's one gave birth in December aged 44. However the other is having difficulties conceiving it appears to be very much in the lap of the gods

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:53

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:51

🙃 ok 'Gina'.

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Ok “boots” 😐

Lilyhatesjaz · 08/02/2026 00:53

My great great grandmother had a baby at 50, it was her 10th though.

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:53

sittingonabeach · 08/02/2026 00:50

@Boots89 being healthy helps but age is a factor with conception, no matter how healthy you are, and the odds of successful conception start to drop after 35

I know. I don't need random people on the internet to tell me about pregnancy/getting pregnant.

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:51

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:49

What of all of about ten posts?
Being “healthy”, sure that would obviously help as opposed to being unhealthy.
Having a regular cycle, from experience, no. Not necessarily indicative that you will find it easy to get pregnant.

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🙃 ok 'Gina'.

sittingonabeach · 08/02/2026 00:50

@Boots89 being healthy helps but age is a factor with conception, no matter how healthy you are, and the odds of successful conception start to drop after 35

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:49

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:46

Not sure why you are picking my posts out. I'm preeeettty sure being healthy and having a regular period cycle are good factors for getting pregnant the last time I checked...

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What of all of about ten posts?
Being “healthy”, sure that would obviously help as opposed to being unhealthy.
Having a regular cycle, from experience, no. Not necessarily indicative that you will find it easy to get pregnant.

SandyY2K · 08/02/2026 00:48

VoltaireMittyDream · 08/02/2026 00:27

I dunno, this is MN where everyone knows at least 6 people who got pregnant first try at 57, and age-related fertility decline is just a myth peddled by the patriarchy to keep us down.

It took me 7 years and 6 pregnancies to have a live birth. I started trying at 33. The problem was low egg quality, which is a factor of the ageing process.

People age differently. Some women have good quality eggs into their 40s, but they are statistically the exception.

We hear about those people, so it seems more common than it is. We don’t hear about all the people who try in their 40s and don’t succeed. The pregnancies that don’t happen, or don’t go to term, are not visible.

The only person I know who had a baby in their mid-late 40s used a donor egg.

Your post made me laugh, but I do agree with you.

Only on MN are women having kids with no issues mid 40s and upwards.

Meadowfinch · 08/02/2026 00:48

It's a combination of women having a career and some fun, or to see something of the world before settling down.

And the cost of providing decent housing, or being able to do so on one salary.

I had an international job during my 30s so could hardly be home for school run.

ghostyslovesheets · 08/02/2026 00:47

Sometimeswinning · 08/02/2026 00:43

You and your friend are not a large demographic. You may think you are. But you’re not. I’m assuming you have no other mums to compare with?

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No I know no other mum’s at all I live in a vacuum

or alternatively I know lots of mums and most of us had children in our mid to late 30’s

either way the thread was expressing shock my reply was it’s not shocking to me - so not seeing the issue with my post

Macarena1980 · 08/02/2026 00:46

I got pregnant with my first at 38 and my second at 40, lots of friends were similar ages. Not that unusual… if you’d said 50 maybe I’d be surprised… to say your shocked is a bit ott!

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:46

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:44

There’s no such thing as a “young” any age. You are the age you are. None of the things you mentioned make any difference to fertility including regular cycle.

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Not sure why you are picking my posts out. I'm preeeettty sure being healthy and having a regular period cycle are good factors for getting pregnant the last time I checked...

Hiptothisjive · 08/02/2026 00:45

Okay good. Now I know what it’s like to be living under a rock all this time….

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:44

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:41

I also said healthy and regular periods LOL. I'm not exactly a menopausal women unable to get pregnant.

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There’s no such thing as a “young” any age. You are the age you are. None of the things you mentioned make any difference to fertility including regular cycle.

This2shallpas · 08/02/2026 00:43

More women 40+ are having kids than teens nowadays. It’s not surprising to me.

Sometimeswinning · 08/02/2026 00:43

ghostyslovesheets · 08/02/2026 00:39

My 3rd was born 5 month before I turned 39 and my friend had her one and only, with no intervention, at 45

so yeah no faux shock here

You and your friend are not a large demographic. You may think you are. But you’re not. I’m assuming you have no other mums to compare with?

AllTheChaos · 08/02/2026 00:43

Op obviously doesn’t live in London - anyone pregnant under 35 seems young!

Thatcannotberight · 08/02/2026 00:42

35? 🤣 I didn't have my first until I was 37.

Boots89 · 08/02/2026 00:41

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:35

Looking young and feeling young have fuck all to do with anything.

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I also said healthy and regular periods LOL. I'm not exactly a menopausal women unable to get pregnant.

GinaXExperience · 08/02/2026 00:41

ghostyslovesheets · 08/02/2026 00:39

My 3rd was born 5 month before I turned 39 and my friend had her one and only, with no intervention, at 45

so yeah no faux shock here

So two examples?
or one rather.

ghostyslovesheets · 08/02/2026 00:39

My 3rd was born 5 month before I turned 39 and my friend had her one and only, with no intervention, at 45

so yeah no faux shock here

Meadowfinch · 08/02/2026 00:38

Not in the slightest bit rare.

I had ds (my only) at 45. Bit of a surprise. My dm had babies at 35, 38, 40, 42 and 44 intentionally.

My dsis had dniece at 44, dSIL had dniece2 at 43. My closest friend had her ds at 45.

All without medical intervention.

If you have a busy career first, or take time finding the right partner, babies come later.

DrJump · 08/02/2026 00:37

As a sample size of one 2/3 of my babies were born after I turned 35.

Sometimeswinning · 08/02/2026 00:36

Where are you people living? It’s not normal. It’s fine for your first, much wanted and tried for baby or maybe your 9th in the 1950s. That’s it though. The shock on here is so fake and also a little funny.