To be surprised at someone being pregnant at 44

Just because you can doesn't mean you should.

You seem quite ignorant.

The pill has only existed for 60 odd years, this was adopted far more swiftly by women than any type of condom-esque sheath ever was by men and was far more reliable.

Women having children beyond the age of 35 in to their 40’s, is the norm historically.

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Haha I do literally know someone who had her first and only baby at 50. 45 is very doable.

It definitely does. You’re right.
You can have regular periods with anovulatory cycles for example. That was my point, and it isn’t uncommon after 35. A gp and then a gynaecologist told me this when I was ttc number 2.
My comments are based on having ttc in late thirties after conceiving in early thirties. I’m not trying to get at anyone. I’m sharing my own experience.

I only want one as well and my dh even had a vasectomy when I was 6 months pregnant. For me the reason to have 1 are housing related (not likely to change as we live in London and dont wish to move) and also health (gestational diabetes which is v likely in a second pregnancy) but even i wavered a little after my first. I dont regret it at all as a second really isn't viable for us at all. But most people who do decide to have children do have 2. It is very hard to say what parenting will feel like if you aren't a parent and therefore hard to say how many you will want.

I am typing this while my 7 month old is sound asleep, he sleeps a good 6 hours and only wakes up v briefly to feed at my boob then falls asleep again. He is a joy. People said it would be years of sleepless nights but that isnt the case (fingers crossed). If you have the finances and a straightforward pregnancy (or are simply better at managing gestational diabetes, i was on insulin), you might just want 2..

I had all of my babies post 35. First at 36, 2nd at 42, 3rd at 45. The average age of mother's where I live is 31-32. So there a significant portion above that.

I'd say as a rule of averages, having regular periods every month as opposed to one or twice a year implies better reproduction health and thus greater chance of conception. Of course it doesn't mean any one person will conceive over any other woman, but you're less likely to have PCOS or similar if you have typical, regular periods vs going a year without one. That makes it hard to get pregnant and never knowing when it light come makes it hard to plan sex

What?

Thank you x

I take public transport in London with my baby and have often struck up conversations with mums who are in my age group (early to mid 30s) who have 1 teenage child and 1 v young baby. Reason is multiple dads so I guess that means a large gap. They often want a third as well..even people who had their kids as teen mums continue to have kids into late 30s so why wouldn't someone want to have a first child in late 30s.

What?

My shrivelled up ovaries and I managed to make 2 whole children after the age of 35.

Talk about defying all the odds.

Might write a book about it since it's so rare. Wonder who will play me in the film?

I’m 36 and we’re planning to start TTC when I’ll have just turned 38. You’ve got time to enjoy your weight loss (and well done on it!)

Edit to add we also only want one, so we won’t have issues around babies being born close together and whatnot.

That's crazy. Do you live in an area where people have their kids v young?

I had mine at 33 and 38, my sister had her last two at 38 and 44. My friends had their babies somewhere between 34 and 40. My school Mom friend had hers at 40 and 42. Plenty of Mom's at school gates in their mid 20s (youngest are 6) for their first child but plenty wh odef conceived late 30s / early 40s.

You haven’t offended me in the least. I don’t know what I’ve said that would imply you did.

I'm 40 my 4 month old is slamming his legs in his cot while he sleeps. Where i live that's not that rare. I did have ivf though. Which was a long wait to start and long process.

I know a fair few mums in their mid 40s having babies
The oldest mum I know was 49, had a very much wanted baby via private IVF

I'm going to sleep now Gina not actually sure what I did to offend but wish you well 🤷‍♀️

I’m 56 and still having periods and have a friend in her 70’s who’s mum had her at 50 @Meadowfinch has a point !

Really most of the first time mums i know in my area (finchley) are below 35. However, no one is below 31. We are mostly around the same age bracket-31 to 34.

When i was giving birth in uclh, most of the women in the post labour ward were in their 40s but I had a c section (after failed induction) and stayed a week due to my son's jaundice. My friend who gave birth at the same hospitam said women who were younger were discharged early so it seemed like everyone was older..

My friend had her last baby at 49. She'd had her first at 24 (with the same partner).

While there is a lot of coverage of women who struggle to have babies in their late 30s and 40s, there is much less coverage of the women who have hyper-fertility and who can get pregnant, to use a friend's phrase "by just sitting on a warm cushion".

My family is one such, it must be something genetic. However, it is no joke needing bomb-proof contraception into one's 50s.

My dad was born when his mum was 44 over 80y ago.
however i wouldnt be waiting around at 36 to ttc. Even with regular periods.

its normal to take a year to conceive.
And obviously increased risk of Downs.
Something like 1/3 pregnancies end in mc.

Random people as in mums who may actually have been through ttc, child bearing, childbirth etc?