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To think France's plan to write to every 29 year old reminding them to breed is patronising nonsense??

189 replies

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:12

Nobody alive is forgetting to do this

A lot of people don't want to because in the modern era it's not necessary and a lot less fun than other stuff

Some people DO want to but can't in which case idk give them the missing tools or funds

But nobody is forgetting

Why does this whole topic seem to bamboozle policymakers so hard?

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Bargepole45 · 09/02/2026 10:53

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:50

They always look at taxing because it’s easy.

Also people like that ignore that measures like that can actually encourage irresponsible breeding.

But also it addresses the core issue which is that the current taxation model is built on a specific birth rate. This is what keeps the financial model sustainable. If the birth rate drops then taxes need to increase. Why should people that have had children have to share this tax burden equally? They already have all the childcare costs etc of raising children. They are being penalised twice.

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:50

jasflowers · 09/02/2026 06:14

He said it in a 2023 blog, he wants a "negative child benefit tax" it would affect men and women.

Having children would avoid the tax.

No doubt it will be ignored as "Historical, written when he was a young child"

This is what you vote for when you vote for extremes, like Reform.

They always look at taxing because it’s easy.

Also people like that ignore that measures like that can actually encourage irresponsible breeding.

BigGapMum · 09/02/2026 10:46

This would be really upsetting for those who want children but are unable to conceive.

Bargepole45 · 09/02/2026 10:45

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:37

I think people should be able to do as they wish with their money and time. Not everybody has the time or money to provide care to elderly parents (and not all parents deserve said care).

I find this perspective interesting. What do you think about paying extortionate taxes then?

Basically the way I see it is that society is still structured in a way where ultimately family takes the hit for their vulnerable dependents. It's an inbuilt assumption when it comes to our taxation models and future projections. If all of us can basically walk away from our elderly parents, disabled relatives or children then where does that leave us? Why should I sacrifice my money/time/energy when you don't have to? Can the state though afford to care for all our elderly relative or all of us when we get old without any family support at all? I don't think it can. Not in the way that most people would view as decent and humane.

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:41

LameBorzoi · 08/02/2026 19:45

Birth rates among immigrants drop to national average within generation or so. Birth rates are dropping rapidly worldwide.

Currently, countries like the UK rely on plundering poorer countries for their working age, well educated, amd well off citizens. Like yet another resource to be mined.

You are stripping people of their agency.

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:40

soupyspoon · 08/02/2026 15:22

Is there a French version of MN and if so do they clamor to go 'no contact' with their parents as much as this one?

There is nothing wrong with going no contact with parents. I had great (albeit imperfect) parents but I have friends who have truly awful mothers and fathers where continued contact just seems to destroy their mental health.

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:38

igelkott2026 · 08/02/2026 19:25

It does, just not among the "right" sort of people.

The UK is not even at replacement. It does not have a high birth rate.

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:37

Slyolfox · 08/02/2026 15:11

If I was French I’d probably be shocked to find out in other countries you can disinherit your kids (I know someone who did in favour of their new wife they married really late in life) and you can just wash your hands of the people who raised you.

Of course there are some situations where a family member does something horrific and doesn’t deserve to be bothered with again

I think people should be able to do as they wish with their money and time. Not everybody has the time or money to provide care to elderly parents (and not all parents deserve said care).

JHound · 09/02/2026 10:36

Elsvieta · 08/02/2026 14:21

Were talking about a country where you can't disinherit your kids, and you can be made to financially support your parents. I think it can.

Both those things are bonkers - and I am sure they still heavily restrict men’s ability to access DNA tests to establish paternity.

JHound · 09/02/2026 09:55

ColdAsAWitches · 07/02/2026 22:24

It's part of a National Infertility programme, part of which is free IVF and letting women know about this scheme's availability. But that isn't click-baity enough of a headline

I can’t read The Times but if it’s simply informing people of IVF services that’s fine.

JHound · 09/02/2026 09:53

FastFood · 07/02/2026 22:19

It's to remind women that they can freeze their eggs for free, which is pretty new in France, and I guess raise awarness about the risks of infertility.

Egg freezing really is a waste of money though - the success rates are abysmally low.

Although offering it free to woman is better than them having to pay.

JHound · 09/02/2026 09:49

Designless · 07/02/2026 22:16

https://www.thetimes.com/world/europe/article/french-government-letter-birth-rates-29-year-olds-zjkqmr6bc

Honestly I can only imagine this making a few people decide in the other direction

Thanks for the link.

God some people are stupid. Do they think those of us without children simply “forgot” to have them.

JHound · 09/02/2026 09:48

Do you have a link to this?

OonaStubbs · 09/02/2026 09:47

AI will do most jobs and many of the babies being born today will never work. Which is why we need highly skilled, highly educated people to have more babies because statistically the children of highly skilled, highly educated people are much more likely to go on to become highly skilled and highly educated themselves and they can go on to do highly skilled, highly paid jobs that contribute taxes that keep the country running.

Sskka · 09/02/2026 09:43

Designless · 09/02/2026 08:11

Sigh

We don't need people to breed more because the economy and society have fundamentally changed

It's ok to let go of old ways

I genuinely don’t understand what you think has changed so much for falling birth rates not to be a problem?

Designless · 09/02/2026 08:11

bumblingbovine49 · 09/02/2026 07:06

Well maybe we need to change how.men and society treat women. They are are the sex that carries children for 9 months gives birth to them and are generally the ones primarily responsible for keeping children alive in their infancy ( and beyond). This makes them very vulnerable physically and economically. All of this while being treated appalling with little support or even respect for the role, from the government, other members of society or even in many cases from the fathers.

Yes of course having children is rewarding for many many women, but it is clear that in the context of a human society across the world that treats vulnerable members appalling that reward is obviously not enough for most women to offset the vulnerability, when they have a choice. You just have to look at the birth rates in countries across the globe when birth control becomes widely available

I don't know the answer but I strongly fear that women are in for a tough time as countries face steeply falling birth rates at a time whwn more and more authoritarian governments are coming to power. To be fair this has pretty much always been the case for women in the countries that never donned the veneer of equal rights for women

Equal rights for women only works in a pragmatic sense if we accept that making a choice to be a mother is more than an individual choice, it has broader consequences. It should therefore confer real societal advantage interms of real respect for the importance of the work along with economic support.

That means accepting that individual women who are more fertile may end up having economically better liveon and having more respect on aversge than if they are not . I know many will dislike that idea but I see no difference beteen being advantaged for being female and fertile or being white, male and born into money. Both are accidents of birth.

The alternative is trying to directly control women's fertility by force and coercion, which many govwenmwnts will prefer to try as simpler.

Writing to women to remind them of thier fertility window will be the the least of it,I am afraid

Sigh

We don't need people to breed more because the economy and society have fundamentally changed

It's ok to let go of old ways

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bumblingbovine49 · 09/02/2026 07:06

MigGirl · 07/02/2026 22:33

Actually apparently the number of people who genuinely don't want children hasn't changed much. What has changed is the number of unintentionally childless, mainly due to multiple different reasons.
Cost it takes longer now to become financially independent, not being able to find a suitable partner, women choosing to delay having children due to building a career and yes it does get harder to get pregnant as you get older so some may have wanted children but end up childless due to not being able to. It's way more complicated then just people saying they don't want to. Just like most other social issues there are often complex reasons.

Well maybe we need to change how.men and society treat women. They are are the sex that carries children for 9 months gives birth to them and are generally the ones primarily responsible for keeping children alive in their infancy ( and beyond). This makes them very vulnerable physically and economically. All of this while being treated appalling with little support or even respect for the role, from the government, other members of society or even in many cases from the fathers.

Yes of course having children is rewarding for many many women, but it is clear that in the context of a human society across the world that treats vulnerable members appalling that reward is obviously not enough for most women to offset the vulnerability, when they have a choice. You just have to look at the birth rates in countries across the globe when birth control becomes widely available

I don't know the answer but I strongly fear that women are in for a tough time as countries face steeply falling birth rates at a time whwn more and more authoritarian governments are coming to power. To be fair this has pretty much always been the case for women in the countries that never donned the veneer of equal rights for women

Equal rights for women only works in a pragmatic sense if we accept that making a choice to be a mother is more than an individual choice, it has broader consequences. It should therefore confer real societal advantage interms of real respect for the importance of the work along with economic support.

That means accepting that individual women who are more fertile may end up having economically better liveon and having more respect on aversge than if they are not . I know many will dislike that idea but I see no difference beteen being advantaged for being female and fertile or being white, male and born into money. Both are accidents of birth.

The alternative is trying to directly control women's fertility by force and coercion, which many govwenmwnts will prefer to try as simpler.

Writing to women to remind them of thier fertility window will be the the least of it,I am afraid

jasflowers · 09/02/2026 06:14

GoldbergVariations · 09/02/2026 04:57

Can we have a source for that, please?

He said it in a 2023 blog, he wants a "negative child benefit tax" it would affect men and women.

Having children would avoid the tax.

No doubt it will be ignored as "Historical, written when he was a young child"

This is what you vote for when you vote for extremes, like Reform.

jasflowers · 09/02/2026 06:10

OonaStubbs · 08/02/2026 19:52

The world population needs to drop. The problem is that the wrong sort of people are having kids. We need more intelligent, educated people to have children and fewer of the feckless, uneducated and unemployed.

This the issue with the 'right wing.... they do not realise (nor want too) that poor "uneducated" people can and very often do, produce children that become, so called "intelligent and educated" people?

How about having education systems that help bring people out of poverty and the associated problems?

All the 1000s of people mentioned in the Epstein files? ALL well educated and intelligent.... yeah brilliant people!

I can almost guarantee that 150 to 200years ago this pp ancestors, would have been poor and uneducated.

Bluegreenbird · 09/02/2026 05:00

Anyone else think of the Mouse Paradise experiment? This is how constant population growth starts to slow in wealthy countries. The interesting side effect being the growth being all in poorer countries where women don’t have so many choices so the young people move to fill the gaps.

GoldbergVariations · 09/02/2026 04:57

TheGrimSmile · 08/02/2026 00:06

Well I read today that the Reform candidate for Denton wants to tax women who don't have children. I wish these right-wingers would just fuck off trying to control women's bodies.

Can we have a source for that, please?

BruFord · 09/02/2026 03:48

Firefly1987 · 09/02/2026 00:53

We can't do anything about the people already here so it's a moot point saying oh we're all living longer oh no old people are causing overpopulation. Old people are a result of humans having too many kids 70+ years ago-so it's their fault not the people that are inconsiderate enough to still be hanging around being alive 😆 And breeding more and more people to look after the next generations elderly would never end. So I think that poster is saying what do you think should happen instead?

@Firefly1987 I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a shift towards not trying to extend life in the way we do today, I.e., people refusing treatments, in 50-75 years.

Life will be very hard in countries like Japan where the population is predicted to be 40% over-65’s by 2050 and even harder a few decades later.

LameBorzoi · 09/02/2026 02:06

Firefly1987 · 09/02/2026 00:53

We can't do anything about the people already here so it's a moot point saying oh we're all living longer oh no old people are causing overpopulation. Old people are a result of humans having too many kids 70+ years ago-so it's their fault not the people that are inconsiderate enough to still be hanging around being alive 😆 And breeding more and more people to look after the next generations elderly would never end. So I think that poster is saying what do you think should happen instead?

We don't want an increasing population, but the world's population will start to drop in a few decades. Some drop isn't a bad thing, but a preciptious drop could be very problematic.

Firefly1987 · 09/02/2026 00:53

lazybone1 · 08/02/2026 09:45

I don’t understand what you are asking, it’s such a bizarre style of discussion. What is it you think I’m trying to persuade you to think? 😆

You said a shrinking but older population is a good thing so you persuade me why that’s a good thing & how that works in our economic model?

We can't do anything about the people already here so it's a moot point saying oh we're all living longer oh no old people are causing overpopulation. Old people are a result of humans having too many kids 70+ years ago-so it's their fault not the people that are inconsiderate enough to still be hanging around being alive 😆 And breeding more and more people to look after the next generations elderly would never end. So I think that poster is saying what do you think should happen instead?

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