I was snobby, apparently

This is a classic - two wrongs don't make a right. Both of you were rude but you only control yourself so in your case i'd apologise.

You seemed to have the perfect holiday for your family, your DSIS is probably jealous. You were right to tell her whether she thinks it's snobby or snobby, next time she can keep her appreciation of your holiday to herself.

I'm with you OP. We never did kids clubs or went to large hotels when our girls were young and they loved our holidays. Your sister was very rude and critical about your holiday so I probably would have responded in the same way if I had been in your shoes.

Yes.

The person being ridiculed isn’t supposed to fight back unless done ‘nicely’ and just take it and/or be the bigger person.

You be rude especially about someone’s child, don’t expect them not to say something back you don’t like.

OP’s mother also reads like she doesn’t consider her own grandchild either.

Well I'm a snob too then, as your sisters holiday sounds like my idea of absolute hell!
I understand that all inclusive is less trouble when you have kids, but they aren't actually experiencing anything other than endless cheap food and pop!
I once compared holidays online, when I was booking a holiday. Two week all inclusive and two weeks booking flights, apartment and hire car separately. Even eating out every day, the second option was at least a grand cheaper than AI! It's ridiculous and not cost effective at all!
But like someone said upthread, horses for courses and it wouldn't do for us all to like the same holiday!

She is jealous, but unfortunately your remark gave her ammunition. I'd not discuss holiday pics in future.

Why ask and then argue every point saying that you are in da t, being unreasonable?

FWIT I think you both sound a bit bitchy towards each other.

What you should have said in hindsight

“please stop saying our holiday was boring. We all thoroughly enjoyed it, your holiday wasn’t our cup of tea but I wasn’t rude about it whilst looking at your photos, please stop comparing”

How to move past it

”I’m sorry if I offended you, I found it hard to keep justifying that we did infact enjoy our holiday. I wasn’t rude about your photos despite it not being our cup of tea, so i would expect the same courtesy and for you to not compare. Let’s move on, I’ve apologised for hurting your feelings, I won’t discuss this again”

Job done - if they all carry it on then you stone wall it, don’t respond to any digs or sly comments, don’t discuss the holidays, always change tact and ignore it. Boundaries

I think it was a fair enough reaction tbh! The other party was being rude and judgemental so the OP eventually snapped in response!

Serves her right frankly.

Honestly your sisters holiday is my idea of hell. Unfortunately she kept goading you so you snapped, that doesn’t make you a snob, they barely left the resort so they could have literally been anywhere warm in the world… again an all inclusive holiday is my idea of hell and I would have told her so too

Not unreasonable at all, i have a 9yr old daughter and she loves our road trip, walking holidays as much as our beachy ones, she’s never bored. She’s also desperate to go to Pompeii and Vesuvius.
She was very rude about your holiday.

A holiday is for fun. The point is to have an enjoyable week or two. You both enjoyed yourselves. Nobody wins. For what it's worth I think I would have enjoyed your holiday more and most children would have enjoyed her holiday more.

she was asking for it really! People holiday differently, you went ahead and gave your child the cultural experience. Haha she was asking for it and sounds like the jealous one that’s probably all she could afford in a holiday

Thanks!

And where did I say she had to turn the other cheek? She absolutely deserved a sharp response, and I offered one that wouldn't have got OP into as much trouble.

From what I've just read, the sister was being rude first. Why is it some rude people get carte blanche to say whatever crap comes out of their head and yet act the victim when they get any pushback. I see this all the time.

Glad the OP said her holiday looked like butlins! Serves her right. I think it's pretty funny but the rest of the family should just stay out of it imo..

Your sister sounds a nightmare! Who is she to comment on your holiday a nd if your child was bored?
She needs to learn some manners and your mother to stay out of it. Frankly if a relative said the same to me I would probably have responded in the way you did.

however and I am making some assumptions here, you are expanding your horizons and trying new things that perhaps your family thinks are outside of your “class”. I say this as some one from a very working class family some of whom expressed similar attitudes to me. Frankly you will have to ignore the jibes and try not to rise to it. Your sister was trying to provoke you and succeeded. The high moral ground on your part, a smile “oh we all had such a good time thank you” and a refusal to engage would have pissed your sister off no end and when you reflected back and realised that you had handled it in a classy manner would have given you great satisfaction
I must admit it took me awhile to learn that tactic

i would hate a Butlins style holiday as well…..

No it isn’t okay for her to be rude about your holiday and no of course you don’t have to say your holiday was boring but you do sound snobby.

not Your problem that your sister is a bit chavvy.

No way are you being unreasonable. Your holiday sounds fab. She was rude, and, probably, exhibiting a bit of inverse snobbery.

I wouldn't be so sure that you know other people couldn't afford to buy a Range Rover and thatt's the only possible reason they haven't got one. You would be surprised at what things people keep private when it comes to money. Maybe people who say that just prioritise their money elsewhere and are fed up of you going on about your car, and secretly thing that it's a huge waste of money. Maybe they are more environmentally aware. Or just prefer a smaller car. Maybe they just think they're naff and a bit of a cliche. There are MANY people who don't see owning a Range Rover as an example of something to achieve.

@Rayners Now - this comment has come back on me ten fold - she told the entire (large) family what it id said and now I’m thought of as snobby and jealous as well as “trying to be something I’m not”. In a conversation this morning with my mum she brought it up again and asked why id said that - I told her (again!) what she’d said about my holiday photos to which she replied “well I’m not been funny but it did look a bit boring for a child”.

and your reply to that should be “and again… nobody asked you your opinion”

she’s clearly got issues with you. Jealous etc and projecting

now you know what she’s about, have your guard up.

let her think what she likes, her holiday sounds like the seven levels of hell.

Do you really see learning as a negative boring thing? Especially when it’s on site learning?
I don’t understand this viewpoint. Learning is just something that happens when you see or experience something new. Learning isn’t a bad thing.

What you said was snobby and horrible but your sister kind of asked for it. Shame you get on so badly and have so little love and respect for each other

Fuck it, she asked for it. Goading you into snapping tho, makes you the bad guy.

in future tell her to keep her opinions to herself.

Oh arent you perfect.

Why muat the person bein g insulted mutliple times turn the other cheek?