I was snobby, apparently

But it all started with the sister openly judging OP’s holidays. Why is that fine but when OP does the same suddenly it is rude?
Looking down on someone for visiting something historic is the same as looking down on them for eating burgers and chips, isn’t it?

I do think it was a bit snobby. But your sister is being OTT.

It’s a storm in a teacup. You should both feel very privileged to be able to take your kids on holiday. And that you have each other.

Suggest you apologise for judging her holiday in response to her judging (and criticising) yours. Would be a boring world if we all liked the same things. She likes holidays that are fun in the sun. You like exploring places and their history. Nothing wrong with either.

I think your sister sounds rather childish, you are different people who like different things and have different priorities regarding what you want to see in photos, from your holidays. Italy is beautiful 🤩 I went to Amalfi a few years ago. The views are awesome and so I have a lot of natural beauty photos. So it depends on what you personally appreciate. If the rest of the family are being petty toward you about what she has said about you then they too are being childish.

Team OP 🙌

The sister was rude to op going on about how boring her holiday must have been. She had it coming.

Doesn't sound like the Op commented on her dear sister's boring package holiday until she was provoked by the rude sis.

OP, next time tell her to get lost don't show your photos to her. Your sister sounds like a nightmare.

But the sister was rude about hers first! Every has a different idea of what kind of holiday they like, we often think ours are better because they are what we enjoy. Was it the Butlins reference that hit a nerve?

doesnt seem like either of you are very nice to each other

I'm sorry OP but your sister sounds thick - not because of her choice of holidays but because of her comments. I don't think you should have said what you did but I agree with the sentiment.

But her sister was being very rude to @Rayners!

It doesn’t matter if each sister thinks their holiday is best. They are allowed to think that in private! But the point is OP was careful not to say it to her sister and be polite…. Until her sister did not show her the same courtesy.

Unfair of your mum to take sides OP.

You’re allowed to think your holiday sounds better than someone else’s though. That’s why you choose to do your holiday and not theirs. The OP’s sister thought her holiday sounded better than the OP’s, too, that’s why she kept telling the OP hers sounded boring.

Yep another one who thinks you sound snobby. Even the way you’ve described her holiday on here and the way you’ve described yours - it’s obvious you’re judgmental about it and think yours was better.

Good on you OP! Your sister got back what she gave out. People calling you snobby are the kind of people who allow themselves to be disrespected for sport.

We all have our preferences, your sister obviously does.

I say this as someone who did AI in the Canary Islands recently - your sister deserved that comment! She started it and you finished it. Play stupid games win stupid prizes and all that 🤣

Next time she brings it up say “look, you were being the judgey one. I was pointing out that your idea of a holiday is different to ours. One is not better or less boring than the other. Leave it now for gods sake”

Your sister started this she’s the one in the wrong. You were polite about her holiday until she provoked you. And for the record I also have a DD who’s all inclusive package holiday is her idea of hell. She was 2 days in and wanting to go home. She was bored, wanted to be able to cook our own food, the entertainment was too overwhelming, too hot and too many people. She wanted to go look around a castle like we do on a UK holiday. So not all kids want the same things.

You're both out of order. You sound a bit snobby, she sounds like an inverted snob

lol. I love this OP

Completely agree with you. People think they can act and say whatever they want and your reaction has to be flawless in return. Your comment was in direct response to hers and as such was perfectly reasonable.

OP did not say or imply that she thought that her holiday was 'better' than her sister's holiday and was absolutely provoked into the Butlins comparison by the judgmental attitude and comments made by her sister after viewing her photos! 🙄
It is clear to me that sadly the sister has some sort of chip on her shoulder regarding the obvious different lifestyle, leisure activities and apparent general outlook on life between her and the OP... the fact that she felt the need to 'rally' the family to her 'side' says far more about herself, her insecurities and possible inferiority complex than anything else! ☹️😪

Oh, God, going to Spain and taking photos in the hotel, children eating, hubby drinking. What a waste of what Spain has to offer. Of course, taking pictures of cobbled streets and churches means you understand and appreciate history, art, culture, and that's what you're teaching your child. You are not a snob, she'd a ignorant person who could have stayed at home if she wanted a holiday made of burgers and beer at a nice hotel!!

I am baffled by some of these comments! So it is fine for the sister to make rude and disparaging remarks about OP's holiday, but the second OP retorts with one in return, she is a snob? Her holiday sounds like Brits abroad on crack and quite frankly a waste of an air fare. Butlins with no regard for their carbon footprint.

YNBU but you’re clearly different to your family and their aspirations I’m afraid so need to adjust what you say