I was snobby, apparently

The sister insisted yours was a boring holiday and created drama ,...out of absolutely nowhere. It's on her. She seems wierd.

Had loads of great holidays but took mum and dad with us once years ago. Dad took loads of photos of different views, mountains etc. When the photos were shown round my sister said 'Bloody hell, are there none with people on'. I have to agree, if you take photos of cobbled streets and mountains you may as well just buy a postcard.

Her trip sounded horrific..
Yours sounded amazing.
Be glad you don't HAVE to see her if you don't want to.

Am I being unreasonable? Well, a bit. No Im not you bunch of unreasonable bastards, how very dare you. Ok then, but you did ask. This is time alive on earth none of us are getting back 😀

Your Butlins comment was snobby ...
Your sister was a bit inverted snobby suggesting your child was bored on your chosen holiday.
People enjoy different things but many young children (you dont say how old your DD is but not many under 10 yr olds would enjoy a cultural picturesque cobble stone holiday (although some might)
I think you should both stop judging each others holiday choices.

Cross post.

SIL sounds like her ego is in inverse proportion to her intelligence. I bet she's a drama queen, too.

Looks like you've made an enemy. The silver lining is that you'll be able to tell, from how they react to this manufactured drama, who to gradually fade out.

It was! 🤣

Maybe you did sound a little snobby, but I think you were justified given she’d repeatedly criticised your holiday. Some people love to dish it out but can’t take it back.

you May have come across a bit judgemental but to quote the average 7 year old ‘she started it ‘ - and it was non of her business, our son enjoyed Rome at 8 just as much as he enjoyed Puerto pollensa -!!! It’s the equivalent of mumsnetters who don’t get why some people don’t like AI hotels/complexes and launch straight into the ‘being snobby’ - nope I don’t like them unless it was at ikos level because I like going somewhere different every night, I like choosing particular wines and food being cooked fresh , I find it depressing seeing people stay round a pool all day getting tanked up on free booze etc - maybe snobby yes, but my cash, my choice.

It is a bit snobby to compare holidays and it sounds like you think hers was 'lower class' or 'less culturally enriching'. The latter which may be true but she likes what she likes and you like what you like.

It's not a competition. Those things seem boring to her and her kids but they weren't boring for you and you're the only ones who need to be satisfied with the experience.

Hahaha gold.

She chose a chillax holiday, you chose a cultural one. Both work. The bigger question is why she had her claws out about it. Jealousy? Is everything - including holiday destinations and how to raise the kids - a competition between the two of you?

Wtf? The sister started this by saying OPs holiday was boring.

YANBU. Your sister was rude about your holiday, so she can’t have it both ways. Your holiday sounds great for a child, especially since you know best what your DD likes and chose something that suits your family, just like your sister did.

I probably would have lost my patience with her, too.

Be smug quietly.

Like I am with BIL when he spends thousands on shit holidays so he can be waited on hand and foot. Twat.

She started it
You escalated it
Your mum's a dick for picking sides.

Well, of course it was!

But the SIL outright stated that she thought her Spain holiday was better than the OP's. Does that make SIL a snob? An inverted snob perhaps ( if that isn't a snobby thing to say).

Frankly, the family the OP complaint about sound like they're spoiling for a fight, and the SIL sounds unintelligent but onipionated. OP should tell them all to get over themselves, them employ her intelligencek to work out how ( far) to interact with them, going forward, since there does seem to be a mismatch of outlooks here,

Holiday tastes aside, which seems a complete non-issue to me. I do think pictures without people in them are not as interesting as ones with people in them. People are just naturally interested in other people.

You were snobby but she pushed and pushed until you were. She wanted a rise out of you because she sees you as getting above yourself. Her holiday is my idea of hell, and your holiday sounds ideal.

just let it go, you sound like you enjoy different things to your family and that is fine. Don’t rise to the bait next time and tell your mum not to get involved.

She sounds really irritating and annoying. I think what you said was fair enough. Your holiday sounds amazing. I wonder if she is actually a bit jealous.

I think I would have reacted the exact same as you and you're not being unreasonable. They all sound like arses!

She was being a goady arsehole. Plus this is just inverted snobbery. It’s a tale as old as time, criticising people who like other kinds of things. Thinking your stuff is better is always snobbery doesn’t matter where it comes from.

May be a little inverted snobbery on her part. I'd have much preferred your holiday. Sitting round a pool, doing karaoke and eating burgers on holiday sounds like my idea of hell.

You went to Pompei etc I bet it didn’t cost less.

All of this!