I was snobby, apparently

I would rather poke needles into my eyelids than go to Butlins again - or any kind of place like that abroad. Kids will adapt to what they know.

If your family are the type to prefer DS's holiday to yours then I can see why they're ganging up on you.

Sorry they're all being horrible x

You were, but rightly so.

This is insane 😂. You know some kids actively enjoy learning? Since when is learning a bad thing??

But it was the sister commenting on the OPs holiday, not the other way around! If somebody told me my holiday looked boring a wouldn’t give over I’d probably snap and tell them their holiday looked like Butlin’s too (and I like Butlin’s!!). Honestly the behaviour of some people is baffling. What was the OP supposed to say?

She wasn’t dropping it, you snapped, an inside thought became a verbal response. It sounds like she’s competing with you for some reason, and is disappointed you didn’t concede and agree hers was better. In future, don’t feel under pressure to share more of your personal photos. They’re yours, and you get to decide who you share them with.

I love Butlins 🤣. A warm Butlins would be great. I love how tacky and cheesy it all is!

However, I’d love your holiday too.

Your holiday sounds great to me and even as a small child I'd have loved it. Children are interested in a lot more than 'childish' things.

As for your daughter staring at the volcano, good for her. I like to think the memory will stay with her.

One of my best holiday memories was when I was 13 and we went to Dubrovnik. One day we went on a trip where there was a donkey ride up into the hills and lunch at an isolated restaurant. After lunch I wandered off to explore and ended up spending an hour or so sitting on the edge of the uninhabited valley which was dry from summer drought and I just sat there watching and listening. All I could hear was the hum of insects and the bells on foraging goats and it was absolutely wonderful. That was over 50 years ago but I've never forgotten the peace, the heat, the smell of wild herbs and the sound of the goats.

I loved ‘learning’ holidays as a child, and would have much preferred your holiday. Seeing history and learning was the fun.

Children are no more all the same than adults are.

Your sister sounds like she has a chip on her shoulder, and as a result goaded you until she got a reaction. Now she’s whining. Just ignore.

I am with you OP! Her holiday did sound like generic Butlins and your holiday sounded amazing, she’s likely the jealous one. It drives me mad when people who have kids think the only place they can holiday is an all inclusive complex with other kids… there’s so much more to show them around the world! You do you and maybe just don’t compare holiday photos again!!

@Rayners No of course not snobby. She will say the same if yours have a more varied diet, play a musical instrument or dare to go to university. Please don’t listen. What you did was great and my dc enjoyed holidays like this too. You are not alone.

To answer your question, which appeared to be, was the holiday suitable for a child, you could ask your daughter?

What? Learning is what children do, all day, every day. It’s what they are supposed to be doing. She wasn’t frogmarching the kid around with a clipboard and worksheets 😂

Not LEARNING?!?!?!?? on holiday?

That’s child abuse! Just wait for the visit from social services 🙄

But the sister did exactly the same to OP!!

Firstly, does it really matter. Does your sister think your abit straight laced? Hence she thinks your holiday is boring?
Your both been unkind to each other, both like different things and thats ok.
FWIW, her holiday is not my thing. Butlins is not my thing. Italy is beautiful 😍

Your choice of holiday sounds similar to mine. My sisters would prefer the type your sister likes. Neither is wrong, just personal preference.

I think you may have sounded snobby but your sister what unkind to you and I think you wouldn’t have said anything itheo

Sounds like a bit of holiday judging on both your parts but your family would prefer your sister's holiday to yours. Maybe best not to discuss anymore, can't remember asking to see anyone's holiday pics - they are usually pretty dull.

TBF it did sound snobby. Not just about flashing cash, feeling or flexing superiority that in essence you had more cultured break (entirely your prerogative) enough.

She shouldn’t of derided yours either.

I think she felt insecure that you thought her holidays were tacky and you confirmed that fear.
She pushed it and you ended up snapping.

Just one of those things.

If your family make you feel uncomfortable about this, then that’s on them too.

Sod them.

A bit snobby and if it was said to a mate I would think differently but she’s your sister at the end of the day I’m sure over your lives you’ve said worse things to each other - I know I’ve said some rouge stuff to my sister.

Getting the whole family involved is ridiculous, but then again my sister still tattle tails to dad at 35. She’s always been a grass.

Out of context, the Butlins comment was snobby, but you were understandably biting back against your sister’s nasty inverse snobbery about your holiday. If she doesn’t like it she should probably learn to keep her own opinions to herself.

Is there a tradition in your family of everyone tiptoeing around your gobby sister? And is your mother also prone to running down things she considers to be airs and graces? Tbh I would probably just laugh at them and leave them to stew. They’re being ridiculous.

btw we went to Butlins 4 years in a row when our kids were small. There was a certain amount of teeth-gritting for DH and I, but it was absolutely perfect for an autistic child and one with ADHD. We could give them a bit of freedom in the park, plenty of different activities for DS2 to flit between and DS1 knew what to expect so he could actually relax and enjoy himself. So I am a Butlins fan, and I still think your comment served your sister right.

"Dd must have been bored?"

You should have said, "Far from being bored, she went out of her mind in the Sistine Chapel, we couldn't stop her screaming at the ceiling!"

What? The sister was extremely dube first and started the whole thing. Op is fine.

Nah I'm with you, I wouldn't say anything usually but your way of travelling IS far better and more interesting, going on holidays where you don't leave a hotel complex is boring AF. That's a private opinion but if you slagged my holiday off I'd be more honest too 😂😂😂