I was snobby, apparently

Yeah I get that. To be honest I probably would've ended up hating a kids club as well! It's definitely not for every child.

She thought she could deride and criticise your holiday and she got some dished back. Yes, the money element will have stung her but she did imply you were a selfish parent dragging a miserable child on a tedious holiday so that’s rude of her to begin with. So YANBU. .

Does any of this matter? Sounds faintly ridiculous to me from both sides.

Is DSis generally happy give it but not able to take it?

She had a bit of a bitchy dig and you dug back.

If she gets to speak her mind, so do you.

Sounds like your sister was provoking you OP, is she a competitive type of person? Was she trying to compete with you over holidays? She should mind her own business, you weren't asking for her opinion.

Keep booking your fab holidays OP and your sister can go to Beni. You’re happy, and she can make out she’s happy, when really she’s pissed off. And don’t let your family pile on with her, set them straight.

I think you could have not snapped, but your sister was goading you. I think she was quite snobby tbh

You weren't wrong and if your DS keeps banging on about it then you've hit a nerve 😆

Sounded to me like your sister was jealous and decided to say nasty things about your holiday. I don’t think you sounded snobby and I would do your type of holiday every time.

You had the same holiday as us last year In Italy visiting Pompeii and climbing mt Vesuvius, Amalfi coast, Capri etc. It’s hardly a boring holiday when it’s filled with history and culture. My children have grown up exploring places and tbh you couldn’t pay us to go on your sisters type of holiday but it’s each to their own and as long as each family enjoy their holiday it doesn’t matter how it’s done. You retaliated because your sister was rude about yours but I’d just suck it up and apologise and book yourself another action packed holiday.

Why is it when someone doesn’t agree they go to asking if someone is being purposely obtuse instead of considering that they don’t view things in the same way?

I don’t see Butlins as low class or disliking it makes someone snooty, it’s just another standard AI resort place to me that you could easily find in other countries and plenty come out quite pricy. Same with cruises.

OP’s comment was ‘it looked like Butlins’ yet she is somehow on the same level as her sister who straight up called OP’s pictures boring and went as far as saying things about OP’s daughter and parenting.

Ignore the fact that this so-called aunt doesn’t know her own niece and doesn’t take into consideration that said niece doesn’t like the things her cousins do and would really struggle with the environment due to her autism.

Says more about you if you think sister and OP are on the same level.

Truth be told, it probably was better! 😂😂

I don’t think you were at all snobby, your sister clearly doesn’t like your type of holiday and that’s fine but she’s wrong to have a go at you because of it and and she goaded you into saying something you probably wouldn’t normally say so deserved all she got!

That's really not the point is it? The OP was perfectly polite about the AI holiday at first, despite it not being her sort of thing. The sister kicked it all off by being so incredibly rude later about the OP's holiday. And for the family to then gang up on OP is pathetic. I don't think the point is to judge the content of the insults but rather the provocation.

Id have done the same, she was being overly judgy and annoying. Are the family always more precious with her?

Sounds like she was spoiling for a fight! And from what you've said, hers might as well have been Butlins but hotter 🤣 that's just a fact.
Heaven forbid children get to see and experience some culture!

I think you will find the sister was the rude one. By constantly picking fault with the ops holiday. Personally I think it was more than reasonable for the op to snipe back.

Are you being purposefully obtuse? You know exactly how the OP meant that Butlins comments. We all know.

The sister was also a twerp. Neither of them come out of it well.

…and plenty of people don’t love Butlins, and consider it shit. OP is the only one of the two that was acknowledging, and respecting, the fact that different people enjoy different things. That particular concept had apparently managed to evade her sister, assuming of course that she has ever attempted to grasp it.

Incidentally, knowing that doesn’t mean you’re obliged to pretend that you personally like something when you don’t.

It’s amusing that it’s supposedly fine for OP’s sister to wax lyrical about how shit she finds OP’s choice of holiday to be, yet OP making one comment responding in kind is a heinous offense.

And her sister was doing what?

How is OP’s one, single comment somehow worse than everything her sister said when she called OP’s picture boring from the very beginning and pushed OP to show her more
holiday photos only to continue to call her holiday boring and telling her her child looked bored and couldn’t have had fun when OP’s daughter is autistic and OP had exactly the type of holiday her daughter enjoyed?

Also, how is saying like Butlins snooty unless you think it is actually low class?

Are AIl- inclusive all low class? How is enjoying learning and history classist? Learning is free.

OP explained what she meant and what her daughter enjoyed and still some posters want to act like she was somehow worse with a single comment than her sister was who kept slagging off her holiday from the beginning and cried victim when OP made a pretty benign comment after sitting through it.

Don’t slag off someone’s holiday and parenting and you won’t get back a comment you don’t like.

The Butlins comment was incredibly snobby and short sighted.

On our family holidays we pootle around places, we visit castles, museums and galleries, we eat at little indie restaurants. We've not been on an inclusive resort holiday because my husband hates sunbathing and I get cabin fever if we don't go exploring.

HOWEVER.... we also go to Butlins! And we have a hoot. There's so much for our teens and our friends' younger children to do. It's cheap and relaxed, the entertainment's great and we've really enjoyed those trips too.

Different people like different types of holidays. It's OK that you don't want to go to a swimming pool holiday and it's OK that she doesn't want to go on a city break holiday. I can see how she provoked you but I can also see that my holiday photos of cobbled streets don't scream "fun" but the kayaking we did on holiday did scream "fun".

All that said, you were very snobby and judgemental in your comment. You were being classist and snooty and looking down your nose from your high horse thinking that you were better for having a more culturally enriching holiday.

Im more of a sunshine ☀️ Spanish holiday gal because I love the sea swim fun and eating out, we go each year at some point, however yes your sister has no right to dictate what you should find boring or otherwise, it sounds like a good holiday, I’d find it interesting and was taken to similar places as a child, but Butlins might have been a bit too far 🙈 but honestly saying “your holiday is boring” was incredibly rude! She was pushing it! It’s not her holiday or choice! How does she know what your daughter likes or not? Don’t let it fester if it’s worrying you a lot but I see her point, totally see yours too though!

Good job you’re on the thread, absolutely no one else has noticed the OP’s use of ‘been’, or pointed it out, in the 48 hours since she posted it 🙄.

It does sound snobby.
However, I also think she got what she deserved and Id rather go on holiday with you anytime.
My kids would've loved your holiday when they were little. They also very much enjoyed the 2 holidays we had when we stayed in a complex but we had had enough after a couple of days and ended up not using the facilities.
Its just different tastes, but im with you and she provoked your reaction imo

Yabu to keep saying “been” when you mean “being.”

Apart from that yes your post does come across as a bit snobby but your sister deserved it