I was snobby, apparently

Actually you can enjoy both types of holiday. I have done both myself and yours will have no doubt cost a heck of a lot more than your sisters, but it's just that with very young children it is just easier to do an all inclusive. Personally I prefer your holiday, it is a fact that your holiday is more culturally educational and classy. I surprised anyone could question that because it is just a fact. There is a reason why Italy refuse to do all inclusive resorts like Spain. They don't want to and there is a very good reason for that.

Your sister was being a bitch and getting your mum on side with her. It would be this pattern of behaviour that would bother me (if it is a pattern) not a disagreement over holidays. To address your question - well I suppose it was snobby but fair play in response to her bitchy comment about your holiday, and anyway she started it!

So damned what if she's a bit of a snob? She actually isn't, her sister started the whole thing off and got slapped down. Her sister is the jealous one, she needs to be careful of her.

Totally, but also a neurotypical/neurodivergent divide. When the OP said her daughter was staring at the volcano in one photo I thought “autistic” before she even said it. So I’m not surprised she is sensitive about her family picking holes in her holiday plans when it takes so much more thought and organising when taking a disabled kid on holiday. Pretty crushing to then have your sister be horrible about it. She deserves what she got!

Same. I never enjoyed AI type holidays as a kid.

Your sister gave out so has to take it imo! It sounds like your daughter had a great time and your sister obviously doesn’t understand autism if she thinks a packed noisy environment would be more fun

As a kid, I would much prefer OP's type of holiday and still do. It's nothing to do with snobbery, just personal preference.

I think your sister is jealous of your holiday and she’s being pretty pathetic for involving your wider family in this

She clearly enjoys simple person holidays. When people are being stupid it’s best to ignore them rather than get provoked…

It's difficult picking a holiday with kids plural. All inclusive, with entertainment on tap we did a couple of times for our youngest. The two oldest we went self catering and did the sightseeing, they had each other to play with. The youngest born 18 years later was an only child really and enjoyed other little ones to play with.

I don't get that from your post at all OP. You were giving your opinion which was simply a matter of fact. If someone thinks that snobby it says more about them.

If it looks like Butlins it looks like Butlins and that's just a different type of holiday. You havn't made any value judgements.

I think there is a class divide between these two sisters, probably as a result of the men they married.

You're not snobby.

Your sister was being an arse. You bit back once and now you're the bad guy.

I interpreted the Butlins comment to mean her photos are generic holiday snaps that could have been taken anywhere.

Every trip you take or place you visit will have loads of other kids with their parents. If your DD was bored you'd know about it.

She was rude. So were you.

Unless I’ve missed it, you don’t say ages of the kids but as a teen I went on ‘your’ sort of holiday and was absolutely bored out of my mind, as were my siblings. My parents loved it until they realised what a miserable time we all had. The following year we went to Butlins - and it was fantastic, so much for us to do and so much age appropriate independence.

As an adult, your sisters holiday sounds like my idea of Hell on earth but as a kid, great I’m afraid. You did sound like a bit of a snob.

You've run into tall poppy syndrome.

Fwiw, you both enjoyed different holidays. You're both entitled to have your own taste in holidays.

Her comment was worse than yours though, imo. I hate self limiting narratives, and comments that seek to equate interest in anything different from their idea of fun with 'snobbery'.

When I was a kid I would have loved your holiday. I was so interested in Rome, history, Pompeii, the classical world even then. I would have loved every single minute of it. I wouldn't have been so keen on the swimming pool and kids' club holiday.

I do not think you are snobby at all. It seems it was fine for your sister to diss your holiday and say it looks boring for children based on your photos. But, when you voiced your opinion of her holiday looking like Butlins that was considered out of order and snobby. Sorry, the only people who sound jealous is your family. To me, her holiday sounds like something I would hate.Your child will grow up informed and cultured through your type of holiday. Hers will like Ibiza and Magaluf. Which is fine. None are wrong as people have different objectives and ideas of enjoyment.

To quote your Mother," I'm not being funny, but it does seem boring".

Well Mother you are ignorant. she is taking sides, do not apologise for your holiday, your sister started this, got a taste of her own medicine, then bought everyone else into the argument. What you said in this situation was perfectly acceptable. Maybe your siser will keep her mouth shut next time and stop her silly inverted snobbery.

Perhaps for you and if you had read OP comments, her daughter enjoyed it especially seeing Mt.Vesuvius because the daughter is into volcanoes.

Oh how I laughed when I read your op.
Sisters and their toxic jealousy. I think she is jealous of you by the way, not the other way around.
I would decline to show her photos in future and make a lot more noise "oh that looks fantastic!" etc

think of her as a partial moron who only needs feeding positive things about herself

Mine is the same.

Buttons comment turned the heat up but the, “God these are boring. Were you not bored?” didn’t at all turn up any heat?

Op, your sister was massively rude. Good for you for shutting her down.

We never did the kids clubs and burgers holidays when growing up. We went to museums and down slate mines, sheep shows and up mountains, pyramids (I loved seeing the pyramids) and camel rides. We had a good time and some fantastic holidays.

I would have hated being stuck in a kids club eating burgers when there's so much else out there and local cuisine to try (maybe growing up abroad has something to do with it as well).