I was snobby, apparently

I mean yeah, it's a snobby comment but she wasn't exactly innocent herself, repeatedly calling your holiday boring and trying to find proof in your photos. She was very critical about your holiday and in return you were critical of hers.

I feel sorry for your child if you think that learning is a chore and not fun!
My daughter constantly asks to be taken to the library and museums. Her favourite book at the moment is A kid’s life in Ancient Greece. We do not ‘make’ her learn, she sees it as fun.
She also loves to splash around in a pool. People are multifaceted and it’s possible to like lots of different things.

Neither would I, and if that makes me a snob then so be it, I’ll own that!

I don’t think you were being snobby, you snapped because you were being pushed.
Your sister is clearly very insecure - if she was happy with her holiday she wouldn’t have felt the need to comment negatively on yours.
FWIW my young DC would have loved your holiday. Horses for courses and all that.

Good God, how some people live.
Like any of this nonsense should even be noticed or considered.
Who gives a toss about other people’s holidays anyway?

And if ‘being snobby’ (a stupid dated term) means the OP giving her child some educational and cultural experiences beyond getting pissed by the pool, then jolly good for her.

I don't see you as being snobby at all. You only said what you did because she was dragging your holiday down. She fafo and now is playing the victim. You only gave her what she gave you first, after she constantly continued to do so🤷

Also, how did you do that holiday cheaply? I'm jealous! 😍

OP I wouldn't go to Butlins if you paid me and I hate how every person who tries to do/have nice things is described as 'snobby'. It just means you have better standards. Good for you.

My DD loved Hadrians Wall, visiting no end of English Heritage sites and is looking forward to seeing the Mayan ruins next week. But also loved eating burger king most days in Orlando last year and loved the Fantasia all inclusive in Tenerife (excellent kids club). They can like both.

You have fallen foul of the 'you can punch up, but not down' rule that all comedians (except Ricky Gervais) have to abide by.
Your family are allowed to 'punch up' and tell you your holiday is boring because it is educational and you are being fancy, highbrow and middle class. You are not allowed to 'punch down' because their idea of a holiday is spending all day at a swim up bar, sitting in other peoples pee, or singing karaoke.

I think they probably called you a snob behind your back before this anyway and this has just given them an excuse to say it.

I don't think you are a snob - a snob would go to Italy and hate it, but tell everyone how wonderful it was. That is not you. I think you were just annoyed and wanted to hurt your sisters feelings at that moment in time. I do think those closest to us can bring out the worst in us. You're just going to have to be honest say that your sister really hurt your feelings as she implied you don't care about your daughters happiness and so you were rude about her holiday to hurt her back.

Either that or next year you will have to do a Wife Swap, so you can experience each others point of view! If you do that - please report back here 😁

Nobody said you were a liar though, did they.

Because you were right.

Pints, pizza, and burgers are generic, they could be from any country on any continent in the world. Why is pointing that out snobbish?

Nah she deserved it the rude cowpat

You're instinctively an aristocrat by comparison! 😂

Your family sound like basic arseholes.

Brace yourself, @ForeverTheOptomist!

I agree with you, btw.

Your holiday sounds lovely OP. Travel and culture is how chn learn. It doesn’t mean it’s not fun. They need to open their minds and realise that. They are probably just scared of your type of holiday- they want to stay safe by the pool with a burger and pint. She realised that what you had done was out of her reach mentally so put you down instead. Head up, ignore.

I think she was clearly jealous of your holiday. She was behaving in a way where she clearly felt that she could say everything was about her family, she put her family first etc. she needed putting in her place.she prob makes comments (prob behind your back) about your DD being an only child

I'd prefer to go somewhere cultural on holiday and to be snobby, rather than to be common.

Also - Im so looking forward to the comments regarding my post 😃

But op didnt comment apart from to say they were nice photos. It’s only after the criticism of her holiday that she made the Butlins comment.

Are people really this daft.

I don't think she would have made those comments about the pizza and the pints if her sister hadn't been so frightfully rude about her holiday.

She's come on here to mention it after her holidays already been criticised. Nothing to suggest she took oneLook at her sister's photos and felt any kind of snobbery. Only when her sister made nasty comments did she say anything back.

Sounds to me as though she saw your photos and was jealous and decided to try to out you down instead . Horrible behaviour. Would’ve been better if you’d not lashed out with your words and risen above it but I understand .

I'd prefer to be snobby than rude or common.

I’m with you OP. She was rude telling you that your DD was bored. How dare she!
I’d have made the Butlins comment too, and I’d have been proud of saying it, just to annoy her even more 😂

You’re each entitled to take your kids on whatever kind of holiday you like, and if your kid enjoyed it great. But, the stuff you’ve said here about her photos sounded pretty snobby -burgers and pizza and pints.. I think we can all read the judgment there. We’re all a lot more transparent than we think we are, so she probably felt that too, and wanted to get you back. And then you made the Butlins jab, and proved her absolutely right.

*Being, not been.

Typical sibling argument. I’d keep my distance from her. She’s a gobby, spiteful piece of work. Anyone would snap when rubbed the wrong way enough times, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re snobby.