I was snobby, apparently

It sounds like she was trying to look for problems by demanding to see all of your photos, that was incredibly rude of her.
You both sound very different, and after the digs from her, I would have probably snapped back a comment too. I hate people who make nasty comments, then if you react in any way you become the person who is the problem. She shouldn’t have dished it out if she couldn’t take it!

And if you don't mind a bit of driving, being about halfway between somewhere like Nimes and the sea is a good choice. Nimes and the Pont du Gard sparked a years long love of all things Roman in my eldest from when he was about six (another one of those pesky kids who quite like historical sites etc).

Pont du Gard would be especially good for you as it combined ancient stuff and a decent museum with being able to play in the river, etc.

Your sister is insecure and in order for her to feel superior she knocked your holiday and when you did not immediately bow down to her she proded and poked until you reacted and now you are the bad guy. I guess she does this a lot huh? The 'you are trying to be something that you are not' part had me sniggering cos that is exactly the retort a seriously insecure person would come out with. Ignore her. Shes ranting and raving to anyone with ears to cover the fact that she was bloody rude.

Your holiday sounds fab by the way.

It's not Berlin/Rome, but if you're happy with another city and want some history and scenic streets etc, how about Croatia or other Adriatic-coast countries? I've been a few times and love it because you can spend one day on the beach and the next exploring Roman ruins/Byzantine churches/streets lined with Habsburg-era buildings etc.

I would prefer your holiday OP, your sisters holiday isn’t my idea of a holiday but I wouldn’t have told her that, she was wrong to say your holiday looked boring. People like different things and that’s ok. They had a great time and you had a great time, you just did things differently.

The Butlins comment wasn't snobby, parts of the North Norfolk coast gets called Chelsea-sur-Mer, no different really. Both are accurate descriptors.

A little but not super snobby. Also not untrue.

I enjoy both types of holidays - we always do more of your kind, but plan on having a proper lazy resort-style ‘kid either in pool or at the ice cream bar’ one next.
The fact she was going on and on about mine looking boring would’ve made me retaliate too, and I’d prob have said much worse…

There's a lot of people being unfair to the OP. She didn't respond negatively until she was pushed. I'm sick of people who can mouth off about other' s situations but can't take it themselves if they're called out. Anyway, if someone could make it clear for me what's the difference between snobbery and having standards? I'll get the popcorn 😍

We did that sort of thing a lot too - 3 days in a city, 4 days somewhere with a beach or pool. And no moaning allowed because each kid was getting part of what they liked best so needed to be nice about the other kids' time.

@ThisIsAGlobalPlayerOriginalPodcast It's honestly not to hard in a lot of places to do a split holiday, and it makes everyone happier.

I take my little one on the types of holidays you seem to enjoy and he has a whale of a time. I too have comments from people who only do the all inclusive kid-centric holidays, concerned with how bored he must be etc. I just think some people find it hard to imagine that adults and children can enjoy all sorts of holidays. It sounds like you had to put up with lots of needling about your holiday before you passed the comment.

Go to eurocamp in Rome! We went 2 years ago and it was the best of both worlds - some days we stayed in the park and the kids went in the pool/did kids club and then we did a day trip to the beach (which both kids enjoyed), and a day trip to Rome/Vatican City which DS1 (then 8) loved but was a bit much/hot for DS2 (then 4) and poor DH just had to carry him everywhere.

I would prefer your holiday OP but my DC would enjoy both now that DS2 is a bit older.

We did 4 days in Istanbul and 4 days in a Turkish holiday resort. It was a brilliant mix.

I’m with you OP.
Sisters holiday sounds like a hell I’d pay to avoid… yours sounds lovely.
IDGAF if that makes me a snob too
Frankly- sounds like the sister can’t take what she dishes out.

This is a dilemma we have right now. My husband and youngest (9) want a beach/pool/entertainment holiday and my eldest (11) wants to go to Berlin/Rome (which to be fair I’d probably choose too). My youngest simply wouldn’t tolerate days and days of walking in the heat, my eldest will moan on day 3 of a package holiday about being bored.

Not sure what to do. We can’t really afford to do both.

😂

Ooh a bit defensive. I was literally talking about both sides 😂

Hang on, how is eating burgers and watching your parents drink pints NOT the boring holiday out of the two options? As a child I was taken on holidays like yours and your sisters and I know which ones I found most memorable.

It makes me laugh that people describing their own holidays/preferences is seen as trying to ‘one up’ someone else. It’s just facts. There’s a weird attitude on her sometimes that preferring to spend your holiday anywhere other than an AI resort is ‘pretentious’.

This thread is hilarious with everyone trying to one up everyone else 😂

lol

Well you were a bit bit she was
rude

I take my kids on holidays like you. We usually take the car and drive around various interesting places. The kids aren’t “learning” in a boring sense but they do learn far more about different countries and cultures than they would do on an AI holiday and they enjoy it.

i’m totally snobby about AI holidays. I admit it though.

But the OP said her child wouldn’t like ‘child-centric’ holidays (whatever they are) and did enjoy the holiday they went on. Why do you assume she doesn’t know what she’s talking about?

She goaded you into the comments about her holiday. It sounds like jealousy to me.

For the record, we did your holiday a couple of years ago with 11 & 18 year old boys. Naples, Pompeii, trekked to the top of Vesuvius in hammering down rain, Rome for a day and a ferry to Capri. For 5 days, staying in Naples it cost us less than £2000 for 4 people. So yours was probably the cheaper holiday.

Some kids are bored just going to a pool and beach (mine can do that here in a coastal town). When asked which bit they liked best on returning home, my then 18 year old said "definitely Capri and then Rome". My 11 year old said "running up Vesuvius in the pouring rain". My eldest looked at him like he was batshit but the youngest loves that sort of thing.

Saying children can't enjoy a more varied, interesting holiday and must be bored is utterly ridiculous.

Right.

Several posters choose to ignore the sister’s behaviour and comments which led to OP’s comment in the first place and that OP’s daughter wouldn’t have liked the kind of holiday that her aunt and cousins went on in the first place in part to her autism.

I doubt these posters would have sat there and allowed someone to ridicule their holiday and tell them how their children couldn’t have had a good time without getting annoyed and said something back.

I love both high end all inclusives and butlins