I was snobby, apparently

AI holidays at reasonably nice resorts are also nothing like Butlins, having been to Butlins many times. For a start, it's usually cold and wet at Butlins, and the food is pretty basic and often not nice at all. But I do find the entertainment at Butlins is usually pretty good and above most of the AI's I have been to overseas.

Your sister was rude. From your tone though it does come across that you think your holiday was classier and more superior.

Can you afford a self-catering villa either on a resort or with its own pool? Then you can have the best of both worlds.

I think from a kids perspective her kids would have enjoyed the holiday they went on more than a trip to Italy. If you thought about what your child wanted, would they have picked a pool holiday or Italy?

If I wasn't thinking about what I wanted from a holiday and picked based on my kids, they the pool /beach holiday would win. My kids love a pool holiday. We have been on cultural holidays also and while my son who is older enjoys them, my daughter does not find the history of places very interesting and wouldn't have picked that type of holiday.

So maybe from your sister's perspective, she would assume that your kids would enjoy the type of holiday that she was on rather than the type you were on which she pointed out. Maybe it was like Butlins, but kids love Butlins.

There are beaches near Rome! Quite nice ones. Ostia Lido. You can travel into the city from the coast, takes about 45 mins I think. Hotels are also cheaper.

Yeah snobby. But also right.
I admit to being towards the chill out end of the holiday spectrum but she was being rude and fucking parochial. Not surprised you lost it with her. Anyone who would comment on Vesuvius as too boring for a child is patently a bit thick.

It does, but we wanted a smaller, cosier vibe for the relaxing part of the holiday. We chose the perfect place.

She provoked you and obviously doesn't know or understand you and DD at all.

Some insecure people do treat other people making different choices as a judgement of them.

Try to feel sorry for her!

I went to Butlins and similar as a child. Often we didn't see anywhere local because my parents were satisfied with staying onsite. I was often bored shitless, and as an adult I gravitated towards holidays with plenty of walking and sightseeing. There's plenty of genuine snobbery around, but in this case you're sister is unreasonable for thinking everyone must like the same things ss her.

Think when you take into account OP’s daughter, OP’s sister comes off not only rude but ignorant of her own niece.

How does OP’s sister not know what her niece enjoys or not know that her niece struggles in certain environments?

How are you going to claim a family member didn’t like their holiday/thought it boring if you don’t know what the family member likes/doesn’t like?

Surely if she knew her niece, she would know that the holiday she takes her own children on would be difficult/ harder for OP’s daughter.

Our oldest is autistic and family knows what we can and can’t do in terms of environments.

Perfect. Barcelona itself has great beaches though.

Alternate years then!

We did 4 nights in Barcelona and then 4 nights in Sitges. Sitges is just a short train ride from Barcelona and is a gorgeous little seaside town.

The thing is, the burger and pool people probably won’t go near a museum, castle or anything of educational interest. Each to their own. However doing what pleases a child isn’t snobby. Since when is learning snobby? No wonder schools find teaching some dc so challenging.

But OP’s Daughter wasn’t miserable and OP’s Sister was rude first.
This isn’t on Op. she just retaliated when her sister was being rude.

Honest to God will people read properly.

You wanted a resort/OP's sister type holiday. Fine.
The OP says, though, her child would not enjoy that type of holiday and does enjoy the holidays they go on.

Yet other children love that sort of thing which OP’s daughter did and does.

OP did what her daughter enjoyed (read OP’s post about her daughter), your parents didn’t.

OP is a different type of parent to yours, doesn’t make her holiday bad or her snobby.

FFS the PPs saying you sound snobby must really enjoy an AI holiday abroad.

And that's ok if that's your thing. One PP even mentioned bingo and a pint. Which I've got to be honest I'd rather chew my own arm off than go on a holiday like that.

You said nothing wrong OP your DS pushed you into a reaction. Maybe because deep down she feels sitting by a pool all day getting pissed while her kids eat shit and go to kids club it's not as good as yours?

Who knows? Who cares?

Smile and wave OP. Smile and wave!

As i child i had many a misrable holiday having to look at things like castles etc ,walks, I truly hated them, I longed to go on fun holidays (the type your sister took her family on)
I used to see friends photos from holidays splashing about in pools,yet I'd been trudged around Scotland site seeing bored and misrable and wet. I actually at 7 asked my mum if we could go to butlins as it looked far more fun.
Iam team your sister here, and yes your comment about her holiday looking like butlins was snobby, do you think you're a cut above her,because your holidays are educational

You both sound judgemental and unpleasant.

If you don’t like being called snobby then don’t make snobby comments, problem solved.

@ThisIsAGlobalPlayerOriginalPodcast But you don’t want 14 days in Berlin or Rome do you? Go to them when it’s cooler. Do summer holidays that are more relaxed. Shame older dc misses out if he’s interested in history.

She was nasty saying your holiday was boring but then you were equally nasty basically calling her common.

Just agree to differ and smile. You’re the grown up sibling then.

To be honest, yes it was obviously a snobby thing to say, however if someone was badgering me about how boring my holiday was I’d snap and say something similar, regardless of whether or not I meant it so I do empathise with you OP!