I was snobby, apparently

I agree - but then I enjoy Blackpool as well as Venice. But OP's SiL was very judgy about what constitutes an interesting holiday for DC and made comments suggesting that OP didn't care if her DD was bored and wouldn't accept that she was not. Beach holidays are ok (I hated them with DC, no way to relax at all, but children like them) but one wants something a bit more interesting some of the time. My DC enjoyed - at six and nine - the Ufizzi. They liked India, too, at about the same age, mosques, temples, markets, palaces, lakes. My DD has never quite forgiven me for taking them to a castle in Wales that consisted of a sign and some wavy bits of grass (retaliated later with a slightly more intersting castle - had a bit of wall) but they also remember running round the battlements of Harlech, climbing through the walls of Beaumaris, a shell keep. And they go on those sorts of holidays themselves.

Doesn't she have anything better to do,but to complain about your photos?Jesus Christ!We all love our holidays,as they are, people around us just take a look at them,say how beautiful they are😁and they carry on with their lives.It seems that your sister and your mom live on Mt Everest,they want everything to be perfect in pictures...The most important is how you felt on those holidays,how your kids felt.People will talk forever and forever,you're the one with the greatest gain:unforgettable memories!

But it was better than theirs.

Your family honestly sound unbearable.
Edited to clarify: Sister, Mum et al.

If you thought about what your child wanted, would they have picked a pool holiday or Italy?
Genuine question: have you not read the OP's posts, or are you not comprehending them?

Actually, I'll take that back to an extent - there were some people who complained about having to pay for Smirnoff and Scotch when the hotel had unlimited supplies of included local plum brandy and pear brandy.

They were the same folk who complained about the food not being exactly like UK cuisine... so not exactly the same as Butlin's, but similar in that there was included entertainment (mainly provided by English-speaking Bulgarian students for some reason) and some folk chose not to leave the complex.

The liveliest group at the hotel was a large party of Belgian bikers and their families. Lovely folk, but DH didn't really fancy the quiz nights and bingo nights that the Bulgarian "Animation Team" kept inviting us to.

I think that everyone at the complex had a good time in their own way.

Your holiday sounds so much better. Your response was spot on- indeed you were restrained! Her holiday sounds awful. Each to their own though.

@Youcancallmeirrelevant

it is better though 🤷‍♀️

Why do people think it's ok to make snarky comments, turn things into some kind of competition, then get upset when others bite back. She was out of order. I'd have said the same as you.

If she can't take it, don't dish it out. YANBU.

The sister was out of order repeatedly saying your holiday looked boring. Very rude. I’d have probably said the same as you did back. Let the family think what they like and carry on enjoying your holidays

Your holiday sounds fabulous. I took my DC to the Uffizzi when we went to Italy (also to see Giotto's frescoes in Padua). My DD was six and my DS 9 - they still remember seeing Fra Angelico's Annunciation and Boticellis' Primavera forty years later. They don't much remember the beach holiday we had in Spain. You have built memories for your DD which are wonderful.
Your SiL lacks imagination and what DC find interesting, too.

It is objectively better though.

I quickly read your comments.
In conclusion, your sister sounds like she was being a nobhead, your had her off and now she's doubled down. 🙄

YANBU in my opinion. She FAFO and didn't like it. 😬

I wouldn't say so.

I had a couple of lovely holidays in Butlin's Ayr when I was a kid in the 1960s. In the noughties, DH and I booked a last minute holiday in an all-inclusive hotel in Montenegro (Budva) and for those who stayed it in the hotel all the time it really was Butlin's with sunshine.

She's obviously just not into classy holidays and can't get why anyone would want to do anything cultural and off the beaten track or, even more shockingly, leave the hotel complex. Yours sounds so much nicer and I think she's the one being really funny about it. Hidden jealousy but she can't bear to say she's just jealous. Each to his own but she can't say anything. I think she's the one in the wrong not you.

Well you arent wrong! As far as cultural capital goes your holiday was much more worthwhile

Her constant comments about boring your trip looked make it sound like she was very jealous. It's not a nice thing to say even if you think it. She was trying to minimize what was obviously a lovely holiday.

Exactly this. I had a friend who used to take the piss out of the way I spoke and it was really quite wearing after awhile. And she used to laugh it off as ‘bants’ but if I had taken the piss out of the way she spoke, I would’ve been labelled a snob - and I would never take the piss out of the way somebody speaks, anyway.

it could be that your sister is projecting. Perhaps she feels as though a part of her thinks that your holiday is in a different ‘class’ to hers on some level? The fact is you both enjoy two completely different holiday styles and that’s okay; neither of you should be trying to outdo the other.

what’s your relationship Usually like? Does she often compare or criticise things that you do/Eat/Wear/listen to or Read for example?

I wouldn't be bothered what she said. As long as you enjoyed your holiday. 🤷 To be fair your holiday sounds great and me and my partner would do sightseeing holidays before we had children. We backpacked around the world. But now we have children (4 and 1) it wouldn't be a holiday that they would enjoy. Maybe some teenagers might be more interested but my children like kids clubs and swimming on holiday. My nephews (12+13) are more sporty than into history and would find museums boring too. They enjoyed a holiday in the summer full of watersports and waterparks.

For the moment (until the kids are 18) we will focus our holidays on what they like and do our sightseeing holidays once they are older.

I don’t think you were being snobby and going by photos alone I’d say you both prefer different things to take photos of.
Do they have days out or live by the pool everyday? Then if they stay in the hotel, all she can take photos of is the family eating, drinking, swimming ect.
Whereas you clearly like seeing where you are holidaying, and getting out. She may be a tad jealous of you and the fact you do go elsewhere and to top it, you then go on trips.
perhaps you could have worded it differently but when you’re constantly being got at, being nice goes out the window.
I get it from my family about where I go, but I don’t go out weekly on nights out, blowing £100 or more, that’s my holiday money, and difference in priorities.

I suspect there’s a correlation on here between people’s views on whether you were snobby and which holiday they would have preferred.

My 2p worth is that if you’d made your comment on seeing her photos the first time it would have sounded snobby. After she trashed your holiday? Fair game. She needs to pick a lane.

And yes, I’d have rather had your holiday than hers.

I think you would never have made the Butlins comment had your sister not provoked you and frankly it seems she has some sort of chip on her shoulder. Team OP

@GalaxyJam Exactly. I've just been accused of 'performative restraint' on another thread because I ate less chocolate than some other people. I wasn't competing - it was just a fact.

Of course she thinks it was superior as far as her own preferences are concerned, that's why she chose it over something her sister would prefer.

What do you expect her to say? "Mine is objectively a less good holiday but I chose it anyway"?