Tiny bit of me wants to point out Karma (disability related)

I agree with this!

I literally had 2 strokes overnight.

difference is I wasn't a cunt about disabled people before I became one.

but its certainly life changing. Eye opening & frankly fucking awful.

i just got a Social Care written assessment after doing the interview, talk about 'bringing it home' 🙇🏻‍♀️🥲

I don’t hear any glee in OP’s post. This man insulted OP, who is disabled, but she says, although tempted, I will help him for my friends sake and I won’t point out the irony of him being so against disabled people and now he is one himself.

Very restrained. Which is good, but not everyone would be!

I absolutely would take great joy in pointing it out to him. Cunts like him deserve their comeuppance.

His attitude and his willingness to spout it so vociferously tells me all I need to know about him.

Your friend isn’t much better, tbh. She has clearly accepted it as she is still married to him.

My DH would bitterly regret voicing an opinion like that ONCE, never mind multiple times.

It would serve him right to hear it. ( I am NOT saying that it serves him right to be in this situation)

And I would not be lifting a finger to help him, either.
I don’t care how that makes me look, tbh.

I’m sure he’s perfectly capable of using Google, CAB etc.
The information he needs will be out there, somewhere. He can find it for himself.

You're absolutely right. Of course people would want the support if they themselves became disabled.

Well he wasn’t nice, was he? Why does he deserve niceness in return when he’s obviously a massive horrible twat?

I agree. The OP is dressing it up as 'well now he knows what it's like!' but her posts have a whiff of schadenfreude. She has even said 'oh the irony!' And it feels a bit like 'KARMA gotcha!' I'm surprised so many posters are saying 'YANBU.' Not a nice thread at all.

It’s not glee. I had a similar reaction when my ex-SIL had a DS who was diagnosed with autism. I had faced years of nasty comments from her towards my own autistic DS. She’d tell me that he just needed a good hard smack, and that I “wasn’t cut out to be a mother” when I was struggling.

Glee suggests that I was happy that my DN has autism. I absolutely wasn’t happy that he was autistic. But I did feel relief that her bitchy comments would stop once the shoe was on the other foot.

It’s what the thread is about. HTH

I don't think you need to mention what he said, I'm sure it comes back to him regularly, probably at 3am when he can't sleep.

He'll probably get enough compensation and won't need benefits.

Exactly

Oh really?

That's exactly how disabled people feel when they read posts on SM suggesting they're an undeserving drain on the system. Or work shy.

And every time I read that detritus I think...karma. Some people truly believe they'll always live charmed lives.

Until they don't.

Nice. Really great thing to say about someone who has actually lost the use of their legs and is actually confined to a wheel chair.

when will your karma arrive.....

Many disabled people can and do work. Many that cant probably wish they could.
After the way this so called friend treated you I would be telling him to naff off and find advice elsewhere. Has he not heard of Google?

The rest of who ?

And trust me that entitlement and arrogance won’t last very long if he’s facing life in a wheelchair. There comes a time when every disabled person is reliant on the kindness and understanding of other people to some extent, and in my experience people are kind and understanding. He’s learning the lesson a very hard way, but he’ll have no choice but to learn it.

Fuck that no way would I help him. He will just have to get to the back of the queue with the rest of them. As you know him personally I don’t think it’s right you help him anyway.

So called Karma is crap. Some prople end up disabled, some don’t. If you love him, look after him. Disability isn't a spoilt scoring exercise.

And, yes, I’m disabled, as was my late DH. 😉

It just shows you never know the moment, I developed epilepsy in my late teens but not diagnosed until my 20s. I have always worked and always paid into the system but the one thing I an entitled to is free prescriptions. I always feel like I am being judged when I show my medical exemption certificate when collecting my meds especially if there are other people in the queue. I always say though I would swap my medical condition for their good health and would happily pay for the occasional prescription any day

Yep. I feel the same. No doubt the irony won’t be lost on him but there really is no need to point it out. Life has delivered a very harsh lesson on what understanding other peoples’ difficulties is all about, because now he needs someone to understand his. I understand how OP feels but the bigger thing is to rise above it and offer her help.

I have a disabled child speech delay education delay autistic etc didn't sleep for years my friend told me I should just be firmer with him tell him to eat the food force him to walk without holding my hand read to him MAKE HIM READ on and on like a perfect parent...then she had another child who wont sleep and might be autistic suddenly she is a disability advocate lots of #autism #special little one etc

I said nothing

This post is not in bad taste, it is an example of how people often talk shit about others when they don’t have the full facts, it is a reminder that we should never judge someone until we have walked a mile in their shoes.

as much as I would love to say “are you sure you want me to help with these forms, I thought that was adding to the problem” I would try and be the bigger person, keep my self respect, say nothing and help them, probably having an inward gloat about how much of an arse they were.

I don't blame you for feeling that way at all, though I wouldn't ever say it to him. I imagine he's probably been through enough coming to terms with it himself.

I just think it's sad that he had to go through it himself to even begin to understand. That's the case with a lot of people, I think.

Some people also have an approach to life that they and their families don’t count in their pronouncements. It’s “different for them”.

I agree.

And if this man’s disability is a moral
outcome, how do you explain your own, OP? Is that karma too? What about all the perfectly decent people who suffer with disabilities, is that the result of a karmic verdict?

Very distasteful, very unpleasant.