Tiny bit of me wants to point out Karma (disability related)

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this about sums it up!!

nut no 'the poor menz' are out in force.

Its not about defending him. He's indefensible. It's seeing disability as a punishment that's in poor taste. No one 'deserves' disability and no one becomes disabled because they deserve it. There is no link whatsoever with having a horrible personality and becoming disabled and the thread is making that link.

Exactly this!

I wonder how many people saying nasty/negative things about the OP are disabled themselves

I wouldn't be holding my breath!

the bastards rarely see their hypocrisy

My cousin was a Navy pilot, super fit, young, handsome, everything looking good. Passenger in a car crash. Paralysed from the chest down. He made a good life for himself, but it really can happen in an instant.

Exactly

But he absolutely has, I can’t see how it’s in any sort of bad taste.

In the classic children’s story “The Waterbabies” the main character meets Mrs Bedonebyasyoudid, who taught him that if you treat others with contempt you will reap what you sow. All the OP is feeling is the entirely justified acknowledgement that this person has learned his lesson in the most complete and effective way possible.

...and?

why are you defending the nasty bastard?

If you don't want to help him because he is a horrible person, that's understandable.
But I'm not loving the idea that disability is some sort of cosmic comeuppance for being a horrible person. Following that through to its logical conclusion isn't great for disabled people, is it?

Have you filled any of these firms in or tried to Google for help? Given your post I'd say not.

Today has been a bad day for MN.

it must be the weather, or the vile behaviour in the big wild world is infecting people. I've never known it to be so spiteful and malevolent.

Anyone else the OP works for that goes to them for help obviously.🙄

No it doesn't help. But it does show you up.

Exactly NOT

Yep

I agree.

there are some proper Pollyanna's on this thread.

i became disabled overnight & it doesn't upset me, she hasn't says ALL disabled people deserve it. Just that this twat this bloke is now wanting help. Not to be out in a home and she's 🙄🙄🙄🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

Not happy with some of the extremely judgemental messages on here after reading a very honest and heartfelt post. It think that OP is v v brave to have admitted having the (limited) feelings following her/his friend becoming disabled. I also think that OP has been incredibly generous to have continued her friendship with this man when he was so damning towards the disabled, and should be very proud for standing beside him.

Controversial here, but do you re-consider your attitude towards someone because they become disabled? Does it make them immune to feelings of negativity? Are they not still a total ?

Perspective. Quick idea here and forgive me for being perhaps slightly extreme but it's a good example. Epstein. Hmm, he wasn't very nice, and he committed some terrible crimes. He also did some dreadful things to women. However, had he fallen in front of a tram, and been debilitated, would you then have felt sorry for him?

I'm off now. This is just making me cross.

Dyou know, it can be very hard to put yourself in someone else's position particularly with disability and understanding the wide range of disadvantages disability brings with it. Also benefits, people see it as something for nothing I til their circumstances change and they need to claim.

I think part of being a good person, someone who cares about people suffering disability having a safety net, also involves acknowledging that arseoles exist among both the able bodied and disabled populations and even arseoles like him deserve help claiming the necessary disability benefits to keep them ticking over. Hopefully he'll build some character form it but if not don't lower yourself thinking of karma

I have no problem even if the OP does feel like that The guy was an utter gobshite, absolutely awful.

I wouldn't say 'he deserved it' but I would say better him than someone who wasn't suck a nasty bastard about disabled oeopke

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Why are we never supposed to point this stuff out to right wing types? They spend their lives looking down on other people whether because they're poor or disabled or gay or whatever and only ever see the error of their ways when they themselves are directly affected..

I know someone ( a relative I sometimes couldn't avoid, or I'd have had nothing to do with her) who claims to be a pious Christian who used to say the most awful things about gay people. Her golden boy came out age 23 when he'd finished uni and moved away and oh my god, did she ever have a Damascene conversion. All those horrible, narrow minded, bigoted things she'd said about other people's kids over the years - we were supposed to pretend she'd never said them.

There had been quite a few nasty threads lately where disabled people have been told they shouldn’t be allowed to vote, shouldn’t be permitted to take part in society, should be put in homes, should be forced to travel around in clearly marked cars so everyone knows those who opt for a Motability car, should not receive any benefits at all etc.

It’s awful to be on the receiving end of such uncivilised coments, so I can understand why the OP feels the way she does. And I very much admire her for being the bigger person and assisting this man to get the help he is entitled to as a disabled person.

I wouldn’t help this man at all. Ask him go seek advice front CAB.

Ive got two incurable cancers( on chemo until it stops working!) I’m sick of people slating people on benefits.
My own neighbour refers to those on benefit, as leeches! I’ve worked or been on training all my life. I didn’t ask for cancer. Guess that makes me a “ leech “ then?

Unlike those that glory in the idea of removing support from the disabled.

Then someone speaks about being disabled on those threads and people say "not you of course, you'll be ok" ...Knowing full well it will affect every disabled person.

Frightening a whole group of vulnerable people is ok? Commenting on how oblivious one able bodied person was is NOT ok?? 🤔

I think he has got what he deserves! Why is it OK for people like him to spout his vile shit to others who are suffering, and then expect those same people to feel sorry for him and help him when he finds himself in the same situation? The OP is a better person than me, as I don't think I'd be able to restrain myself in this circumstance.

I guess that this response is pretty revolting too, or in the very least judgemental.

Glee? I don't see any glee?