Brother sold mum's wedding ring

Your brother has coerced your
mum into selling her stuff and giving him money. He’s an awful human being. I’d be tempted to think about what other keepsakes there might be that have meaning for you and ask to be allowed to put them somewhere out of his reach. A safety deposit box in your mother name for example. I’d be extremely upset if a sibling of mine sold family heirlooms. It’s not about money.

i agree with this. It’s financial abuse of an elder.

When I did safeguarding training we were told police take a pretty dim view of things like this.

Ask your brother to give you half of the money from the sale of the rings and see what he says. If he refuses, you know he’s a manipulative scumbag. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m sorry but am I the only one with concern for your mothers well being here and the fact that she is being financially abused and that by comparing being robbed by one set of unscrupulous individuals to being robbed by an unscrupulous family member is NO comparison because it’s robbery nonetheless!

Being “included” in the plans of a robbery isn’t the best way of viewing this!

FFS protect your mother from any more harm and exploitation and get some sensible advice to advocate for a vulnerable person.

Thats a financial abuse flag.

You cant do much about it if she is not willing to discuss it.

The best you will likely manage is asking her what her financial plans are for the future wrt using money to pay for special treats for herself

And bluntly if your DB is a financial abuser take it as a given that he will have pushed your mum to remove you from the will and/or he will end up with the bulk of any remaining assets.

And this 🥲

This 💯

Have you spoken to your brother about it?

my mum passed many many years ago when I was a teenager. She had a very unhappy marriage and actually gave her wedding ring to her own brother to “throw away”. Her brother (my uncle) didn’t and passed it to my brother when she passed. Tbh it’s his to do as he wishes with it. It wasn’t given to me, it’s none of my business, tbh I don’t think I’d want it, I think I kinda feel about it as my own mum did. I don’t even know if my brother still has it.

but yours is a different situation, everyone is here, in the here and now. Albeit your mum is here to do as she wishes with her stuff. I don’t like the idea that your mum was marched down the jewellers and ordered to sell but was that really the case?? Does have your mum have dementia? Is she of sound mind? To be honest if she is, I don’t think there’s much you can say or do?

now the ring is gone, do you think you should have some of the money?

MIL's jewellery was all stolen by carers, so I can understand your mum's reasoning. But it has actually been stolen by your brother and I wonder what else he is up to.

I could well imagine my brother doing this. A few years back he asked mum for his inheritance early. Now, my family are not a family who have inheritances, mum is a rare one in our family for owning her own home. We all know that home is likely to go towards her care costs. It was a greedy grab, but if mum had agreed to it then that would have been her business.

I don't understand why your brother kept the money?

However, your mother sounds very sensible - my own mother had all of her rings stolen by carers, so it definitely happens!

Did your mum really want to give all the money from the gold to your brother? I would be very concerned that he has pressurised her or just taken it from her. Is your brother normally like this?

Why didn't the money go in your mum's pocket?If she wanted to sell them?

Your brother sounds a greedy sod, do you have POAfor your mum why is she giving him money ?

Dont let him corner her again, manipulation and coercive control of your mum is shitty behaviour.

This cant be his first rodeo

Your brother is a scumbag.

Hmm tough one because like you say it is your mother’s ring and she can do as she wishes but then for him to keep the money means it wasn’t entirely her decision. Ask her why he kept the money and not her?