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AIBU for asking if you pluck your pubic hair?

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PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 02:52

Shaving leaves bumps and there's long wait times between waxes so what's the downside to just pulling the hair out myself instead of paying someone to do it with wax strip? What am I missing here why doesn't everyone (who wants to remove hair) just pull it out themselves?

Not sure if we're even still removing hair in 2026 but I'm annoyed with it so it's gotta go

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Smoothandsilky · 07/02/2026 09:16

Jesus, my boobs are droopy enough, do I really have to worry about a droopy vulva, 🤣

Also hairs inside the labia, yep it’s a thing, as you get older, - although not all that common apparently - as I found out to my embarrassment when it came up on a drunken night out. So don’t start panicking yet!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/02/2026 09:16

Plasticdreams · 07/02/2026 09:11

could explain the biology behind the ‘droopy vulva’ comment please 😂

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Basing that on my own experience. 😆 maybe it’s just my own that is droopy.

Plasticdreams · 07/02/2026 09:11

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/02/2026 09:04

No, that would be an eye watering experience. I’m an 80’s child. I keep my hair, just trim and shave the sides.
All this shaving, plucking, waxing, pulling will give you a droopy vulva.

could explain the biology behind the ‘droopy vulva’ comment please 😂

Plasticdreams · 07/02/2026 09:09

I just shave it off every 3-4 days and that does the trick, no itching, no bumps. I’ve been doing that for 25 years

Bikergran · 07/02/2026 09:05

Apparently the Japanese do.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/02/2026 09:04

No, that would be an eye watering experience. I’m an 80’s child. I keep my hair, just trim and shave the sides.
All this shaving, plucking, waxing, pulling will give you a droopy vulva.

LindorDoubleChoc · 07/02/2026 09:02

YABU

Rainbowdottie · 07/02/2026 09:01

I’ve had waxing for about 30 years. Tbh I wouldn’t pluck and I think if I couldn’t get a wax regularly or she was continuing to be booked up too much (which I think is what the reason is as to why you just don’t and get waxed?) I would just find another waxer

now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say that lightly, a good waxer is hard to come by. I’d be loathed to leave my lady…and believe me in 30 years I’ve met some amazing waxers and some truly awful ones…but if needs must, I’d be looking elsewhere.

but I’m intrigued, let us know how the plucking goes!!

Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 07/02/2026 09:01

gillefc82 · 07/02/2026 04:05

I get a Hollywood wax (everything off), but as I’ve been waxing for years, the regrowth is really sparse. To make an appointment worthwhile, I have to push it out 2-3 months vs the typical 4-6 weeks.

I had my last wax 2nd December and 2 months on and I’ve got some sparse regrowth along the bikini line/groin area on both the sides and a few hairs on my actual flaps, but the entire pubic bone area above genuinely only has 2 hairs.

If I had the time and the patience, I absolutely could maintain my wax by plucking the hairs as they come through. But frankly, I couldn’t be arsed to spend time doing it, plus some of the hairs with the thicker roots bloody sting when you pull them and at least with waxing each strip removes multiple hairs in one go, so the pain is at least efficient!

I have been considering trying out home waxing (hot wax) starting with upper lip or underarms which have leeway if you go wrong and then graduating to legs, brows, and possibly fanny. That’s the only one I suspect I’ll need to drag my DH into helping me pull off the wax, especially the strips in the inside of your labia and on my bumhole. He strongly suspect he will struggle to stay on task, so I’m leaning towards just booking a normal appointment with my beauty therapist! 😂

INSIDE YOUR LABIA????

stickydough · 07/02/2026 08:57

Smoothandsilky · 07/02/2026 08:46

Sorry, my comment wasn’t meant as a dig, someone up thread was a bit huffy about us bothering….

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Oh I didn’t take it that way don’t worry, I meant just from chatting to my pals some of us are really affected by them and others not so much!

Smoothandsilky · 07/02/2026 08:46

stickydough · 07/02/2026 08:37

FFS. More than one weirdo is turned on by this? Bleugh. I hope youve reported them.

I support your scientific research but I am pro letting the bush be wild and free so I will not be replicating your results. On the rare times I shave the ingrowing hairs are horrific. Sounds like some are more prone to them than others.

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Sorry, my comment wasn’t meant as a dig, someone up thread was a bit huffy about us bothering….

Smoothandsilky · 07/02/2026 08:39

Can’t recommend lasering enough! Had that done 30 years ago although now wish I’d gone further with it! That has kept bikini line free of bumps and rashes.

I also epilate where it’s safe! I used to pluck - but like a previous poster has said with age comes lack of flexibility and eyesight which make that trickier now!! I’m not 90 btw.

For the more delicate bits I wouldn’t put the epilator near, I’ve a little rotary electric razor which does the business brilliantly and doesn’t give me rashes.

For those preferring things au natural, brilliant, you do you! I am quite happy to go through the faff of personal grooming to keep the benefits it brings me.

Not tried creams, they scare me, peppermint shower gel killed me enough!!

stickydough · 07/02/2026 08:37

PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 03:47

To the weirdos in my messages

This is not a sexy thread.

This is a woman in a cost of living crisis, sick of the bush and fed up of trying to get booked for a wax.

I just wanted to know if it could be done 😭😂

(Starting to think a key differential here may be the people saying it would hurt?!)

FFS. More than one weirdo is turned on by this? Bleugh. I hope youve reported them.

I support your scientific research but I am pro letting the bush be wild and free so I will not be replicating your results. On the rare times I shave the ingrowing hairs are horrific. Sounds like some are more prone to them than others.

Lemondrizzle4A · 07/02/2026 08:27

ArtificialStupidity · 07/02/2026 08:26

I just plait mine

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/02/2026 08:26

I used to use a Wilkinson Sword trimmer thing. That was good. Then I got waxes. I got an ingrown hair and spot one time though and that hurt. Now I just trim with nail scissors or shave the sides. Boyfriend would love me to get a Hollywood but I’d hate the regrowth.

Lemondrizzle4A · 07/02/2026 08:26

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ArtificialStupidity · 07/02/2026 08:26

I just plait mine

JayJayj · 07/02/2026 08:21

Sweetiedarling7 · 07/02/2026 07:50

Oh dear god.
It is an area which gets warm and can sweat. Warm and moist is a happy place for infection.
I am not saying anybody is dirty.
I will say that you are obtuse and rude though.

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Because I asked a question? I never said you accused any one of being dirty. I asked you.
I will say you are ignorant and rude though. (See we can both throw insults 🙄)

Colourscolours · 07/02/2026 08:20

It sounds like a form of torture to me.

What on earth is wrong with women that they can't accept that having pubic hair is natural and normal?

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PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 08:14

Chestnutmarenutjob · 07/02/2026 07:42

Isn’t that what an epilator does, plucks the hair?

I shave but only when I can be bothered (never)

Do you know what, this is a valid point, I'm pretty sure that IS what an epilator does

So that means there's loads of us on the pluck!! 😂vindicated

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Lemondrizzle4A · 07/02/2026 08:11

PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 08:08

Honestly this thread has turned into such a cracker with some of these stories 😂nice to read a few other PP have driven themselves to manual hair removal, which is what I was curious about in the first place, but then there's pumice mother and the wax strip husband upthread that really have made me laugh

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I agree. In these awful times we do need light relief and I have been chuckling my way through this thread. Some images that come to mind are hilarious.
well done to the poster for giving us all a laugh even if unintentional.

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PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 08:08

Lemondrizzle4A · 07/02/2026 08:06

This reminded me that my dm never needed to shave her legs because she had used a pumice stone on them and the hairs never grew back. No idea how painful it was but maybe worth trying. 🤣🤣

Honestly this thread has turned into such a cracker with some of these stories 😂nice to read a few other PP have driven themselves to manual hair removal, which is what I was curious about in the first place, but then there's pumice mother and the wax strip husband upthread that really have made me laugh

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PluckedUp · 07/02/2026 08:06

Cricketashes · 07/02/2026 07:58

You'd be there hours surely? Who has time or patience for that?

I will say I'm not sure why people think it would take hours? Bit like eyebrows if you're doing a full reshape you don't meticulously remove hair one by one if you've a larger area to get rid of, you just crack on and only do small pieces where it counts. I would only do a one-hair-pluck to pick up any stragglers (like after a wax)

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Lemondrizzle4A · 07/02/2026 08:06

This reminded me that my dm never needed to shave her legs because she had used a pumice stone on them and the hairs never grew back. No idea how painful it was but maybe worth trying. 🤣🤣

BlackCat14 · 07/02/2026 08:02

Hair removal cream followed by OYO pubic skincare works a dream for me. The thought of sitting there plucking each individual pube sounds pretty grim.