Annoying MIL

But they are not 'having it so much worse'!
You are grappling with high house prices. My generation grappled with sky-high interest rates, no childcare subsidies, no flexible working etc.
EVERY generation has it's struggles. I really have no idea where this rhetoric that this generation is unique in finding the child-rearing years hard financially has come from, but it is really gathering momentum on MN.

But, you’re a boomer telling a disgruntled other generation to fuck off because of your generation’s behaviour, rather than recognising said behaviour. Again, as I said up thread, if you have it hard, imagine how difficult it must be for the younger generations who have it so much worse.

Also, interesting that admin deleted my previous pretty innocuous comment yet 2 posters can tell me to fuck off. Double standards there!

But, you’re a boomer telling a disgruntled other generation to fuck off because of your generation’s behaviour, rather than recognising said behaviour. Again, as I said up thread, if you have it hard, imagine how difficult it must be for the younger generations who have it so much worse.

Also, interesting that admin deleted my previous pretty innocuous comment yet 2 posters can tell me to fuck off. Double standards there!

Hello sorry it’s another annoying MIL story… I don’t think she has any clue how frustrating it is for us but… we are struggling to afford the next rung on the ladder. Prices constantly going up despite us earning a little more and feeling we’re getting closer… MIL knows how miserable we are in current house due to issues with our neighbours and keeps commenting on how we could do with more space… Anyway out at dinner she dropped into conversation how she finds it difficult to spend money… she has told us how much she has and keeps telling us how lucky we’ll be… I take this with a pinch of salt as who knows what the future holds!!! But I don’t think she realises how irritating such comments are. She has never even hinted at providing us with any help, despite much of her own savings pot coming from inheritance! Two years ago our car broke down and again she knew we struggled to afford a new second hand model… at the same time she went and bought a brand new car for herself (wasn’t needed as her old car was perfectly fine - she just fancied an upgrade). She never even offered any help with ours. I know if my parents were alive they would have offered a small amount towards it ( I didn’t receive any inheritance from them as they had very little in comparison but always generous and helped where they could with small amounts). I know she is probably being careful with money - I.e thinking about the future but AIBU to think she could offer some help to us. I know we’ve no right to it but I know my parents would have done and they had much less money. It just seems so unthoughtful sometimes given she knows our situation. I also know she can spend her money - or not - how she likes!

Yeah I'm a "boomer" living in the cheapest rental I could find with my basic pension to live on and also totally supporting a relative who can't work. So fod to you as well.

My mum is often bemoaning the fact that she has too much money and her accountant has told her to spend some of it. She spent my childhood simultaneously penny pinching and having exotic holidays. I had to work from 13 and pay for my school uniform, school trips, clothes, shoes and even toiletries. I have to admit it’s very grating to watch her rolling in it, she will never spend the wealth she has acquired.
My aim with my children is to pay for things I can watch them enjoy. I have very little money but want to help with weddings, holidays, house deposits and the cost of grandchildren. I don’t expect anything back or even gratitude I just hope they don’t struggle the way I have.

Oops, looks like the boomers are annoyed at being confronted with their behaviour. Standard!

This was my parents years ago

They stopped spending anything on me from aged about 12/13-they refused to buy me food,san-pro,school uniform,school books,school trips,clothes etc-i had to work to survive

They would go out and spend £300 on a meal out,knowing I,as a skint single mother who was turning every penny into a pound and scraping pennies together to feed my kids

They bought expensive cars and motorbikes while knowing I was struggling to pay for the dcs shoes

They would go on 5* holidays (only the best of the best for my mother) while I was trying to figure out how to pull together a bus fare

They would splash out on hundreds of pounds woth of tat and clothes while I was panicking on how I was going to pay the nursery fees AND my electric bill

They also put my brothers through their driving lessons,tests and bought them a car each,while paying for them to live rent free with them/help them with holidays/rent/food/luxuries/weddings but couldn't afford to slip me a tenner occasionally

They knew how hard i struggled and didnt give a damn-in fact they would openly laugh in my face about 'benefit spongers who have kids just for the money' and 'how funny it is that your living hand to mouth' while they 'had too much money and couldn't spend it all'

Now dont get me wrong,its their money to spend how they wanted but there is no way I could spend like that knowing my child was making miracles every mealtime and going hungry so they could afford shoes and clothes for their grandchildren-the guilt would cripple me

It's selfish but they are now getting older and I won't be doing any of their care-im the selfish one apparently (im meant to fall over myself to do all their care and feel grateful for the privilege)

Fuck that-i went nc with them years ago and they cant see why-'after all we did for you...' (the square route of nothing)

They've reaped what they've sown and I know where your coming from

This was 20 years ago. She was young and had already travelled the world more than once. In that situation I’d 100% help my children. I actually do. I enjoy holidays with just DH but I still treat my adult DC regularly, I love to share the money we have with making their lives easier. It is my money and yet here I am sharing it and making their lives richer and happier. As a mum that’s where I get my pleasure, I guess not all mums get pleasure from that. I could never watch my kids struggle to afford a weekend away whilst spending 20k on my own holiday! Im not made like that. We also received inheritance ourselves and have already shared it with DC.

Exactly but unforunately no one wants to know as it does not fit the rhetoric that no generation has suffered more than today's young families.
High mortgage rates, no childcare subsidies, no UC, no flexible working etc are airily brushed aside because house prices.
Yes, houses are more expensive now but just about everything else - food, energy etc - are proportionally cheaper than they were in the past.
The average age for home ownership may have risen but so has the average age for starting work. The school leaving age used to be 16 when i was at school, so it's perfectly possible that someome my age (58) had already worked six years by the time today's graduates (and most are) join the workforce. That's a six-year head start to getting a mortgage. I got my first mortgage at 22 but i had already been working for four years at that point. Today's equivilent would be 26 i think?
I also wish we could lay to rest the nonsense that most families could live comfortably on one wage as i am sure the lifestyle of families im the 70s and 80s would be regarded as boardering on poverty these days. Lifestyle creep has a lot to answer for.
I had a sahm but if her expectations included driving her own relatively-new car, entertaining us with days out, activities, soft-play, regular holidays, new toys and clothes, and enjoyed regular hairdressing, manicures, lunches and coffees out, clothing, gym membership etc our family could not live on one wage either.
So yes, houses undoubtably are more expensive but this fact carries a lot of heavy lifting in the endless whining about how no generation has ever had a worse deal than today's 30 somethings.
Some things ARE worse now but some things are better. Every generation has its struggles, they are just different.

Not sure about the evil , but the other 3 could be explained by having parents like that.

Of course they have

I told them to enjoy it now or leave it to the donkey home as I will not be blackmailed for anyone

Im 'evil,unreasonable and have a drinking problem & personality disorder' apparently