I'm too boring for DH

And you know what later today in the pub he will be holding court with the other football bores, and they will all agree with him that they are the interesting ones and he was just “telling you as it is”.

A fair few of them would be genuinely disgusted at his talking to the mother of his children like this, actually

I hope you are not so much upset as FURIOUS op and resolved to leave the house every night as he walks in the door and at the crack of dawn both days on the weekend, saying sweetly it’s been over 6 years where I’ve 100% enabled your social life and hobbies and job and the thanks you give me is to say I’m boring because I’ve parented our dc while you’re not here. I now expect 6 years of you being available to parent every night and weekend, if you make plans be prepared to cancel them, as our kids need a parent and you’re it. In 6 years if you do it really well I’ll say thanks instead of what a boring unlikeable arse you are, because unlike you I both know that’s a lot of work and I’m not into being a nasty fucking jerk to my partner. And if this sudden nastiness is because you’re having an affair you’re now available exactly never to fuck someone else since you are repaying the endless love and time you’ve been given in this marriage. I’ll be back late, don’t forget you get to come home to a tidy house and dinner cleaned up, try not to be an inadequate parent.

draw a list of all of the household chores, the invisible labour jobs, and childcare when and adult is needed to be present in the house.
ask him to pic his preferred 50% and you can try and be flexible and accommodate your 50% around that . that 50% of the time you’ll be starting new hobbies/ going to the gym etc

@Wowserbowser88 are you happy with your lifestyle? That’s the most important question. If you are, there may be a point of tweaking family socials if you want to take on board his feedback, but he sounds not a kind person honestly. I hope you’re ok, that kind of personal
attack is hurtful

This. I'm sorry but it's classic behaviour. He's checking out and trying to blame you. What a horrible man. I really don't know why you want to be with him.

Exactly - not really in the Bloomsbury Set is he?

I would add that he also sounds like a bit of a cunt.

He thinks going out all day Saturday around “football” isn’t boring? That he leads such an interesting social life?

Where is he on a Saturday helping to facilitate your kids seeing their friends?

He’s got his little stroppy dictator boots on hasn’t he.

“your boring and you are making the kids boring because you don’t live like this”.

And you know what later today in the pub he will be holding court with the other football bores, and they will all agree with him that they are the interesting ones and he was just “telling you as it is”.

Why does he stay?
Did you ask him?
I guess you do all his laundry, shopping, house cleaning, you know the boring jobs, you are probably ok enough to do that. Plus give him easy sex and pay towards the house.

Has he figured it out yet that your boringness is what enables him, a father of two impressionable aged children, spend the whole of Saturday with others getting drunk?

You are not the boring one @Wowserbowser88

What do you want to do?
Do you want to stay with him?

Wow. What a prince amongst men. You must be counting your lucky stars to have married such a wonderfully not boring catch who spends his time at football and the pub. He sounds an absolute loser. I’m so sorry he thinks he can talk to you like this and I hope you have the strength to tell him to get to fuck X

Hearing about some of these spouses do think 💭 if ar*eholes could fly MumsNet would be a bleeping airport ✈️

All you have is children and work!? He’s an absolute lost cause OP. Looking after both those roles alone would mean I’d be wanting quiet snatched me time at every opportunity…
What does he mean by boring!? Not going clubbing every other night?
Nothing boring about being a great Mum and keeping your head above water at work.
Tell him you’ve thought about what he said and you want a fresh start. It’s over.

He's had his head turned OP. You need to take steps to protect yourself for when be pulls the rug.

He sounds soooo exciting himself, football and pub, so predictable.

I would tell him he's fucking disgusting and if his parents were together when he was growing up I'd ask him what would he have thought of his father if he said that to his mother, would he think that was ok? I'd tell him whatever the fuck was going on with him I didn't deserve to be his punching bag and then I'd take back my power and tell him to get the fuck out.
Of course you can't make him leave, and he may well be cheating but absolutely no way would I tolerate that disgusting behaviour. I wouldn't defend myself against his words, I wouldn't try to be more exciting. I would make sure he knew his awful words did not have the desired effect and all they did was show what a pig he was.

So sorry OP, that’s so hurtful. Obviously not true, but horrible to hear anyway.

He either cheating already or has met someone else and wants to be, this is his way of rewriting history, of making out you had an unhappy marriage so when it ultimately blows up, he’s not the bad guy. Except, of course, he is. Silly prick. I wouldn’t tolerate being spoken to with such blatant contempt op, and nor should you. Sitting around his hotel room stewing about you not messaging the football wags (because he sounds sooo thrilling! Pub and football, revolutionary!) is such bullshit.

Wow your DH sounds like the height of fun and entertainment…goes to football, goes to the pub, rude to his wife, does not look after his kids. What a cliche he is. Leave the bastard.

Honestly op, you need to buy some red underwear and learn to belly dance . . .

Alternatively tell him to fuck off with his mid life crisis.

He has a massive crush on someone much younger and (to him) much more exciting.

Sorry

Can we see some of this poetry? 🤭

You’re so smart 👌

This 100%. Be very watchful OP, something is up and it’s not what he’s saying it is.

100% cheating or trying to cheat.

why does he think it's only up to you to organise events with the children?
Let him organise something and you will help out.

This idiot is deflecting, he is the bore, why is he asking you to contact the wives of his football mates, I will tell you what I think, he wants to go out with them but they all put him off because they see him as a PITA. If they refuse you he has someone to blame.
The above could be wrong of course, and he could have another woman, heaven help her with him.
I would keep an eye on this, and make sure all documentation=passports are safe in case he decides he is so bored he needs to leave.
He sounds tedious.

He's a mess, treating his wife and mother of his children like crap. What a prick.

Good job you do have your work, hopefully that will give you the independence to leave this piece of shit.