I'm too boring for DH

This would be my reply

What a horribly unpleasant and cruel man you have married.

This. I think he has met someone who, without the responsibilities of raising his children and doing the wife work, is able to be what he deems as exciting. If this is the case let her have him.

I also would be looking for an OW. Ex husband said that exact phrase to me regarding no hobbies despite having two young children, a full time job and a ‘DH’ who spent 7 hours and more in his hobby at the weekend. Whilst he was pulling me down, he was having an affair with another married woman. Sorry, OP. There is always a reason for cruel statements like this.

The pps have it.

My ex was like this, literally said the same things, did the same football playing, drinking stuff while I stayed with our then young sons.
I made the mistake of staying with him for 21 years. Don’t be me.

Additionally, I’m pretty sure he’s had his head turned by some exciting other woman. Even if he hasn’t done anything, he’s thinking it and regretting his choices. Time to regret yours and get out.

Get rid of this shithead ,,tell him you've took his advice and took a good look at yourself and decided your life would be less boring without a selfish gob shite like him .

Also. Kids and jobs don't stop you living. Come on!

Exactly.

Sod that, maybe he can stop going out with his mates so much and can stay home with kids so that the OP can have her own hobbies (running club, tennis, pole dancing or whatever)

Of course he's got another woman. Or at least one in mind.

Classic script.

(Even better, tell him it’s on a Saturday so he’ll have to do every other week for HIS hobby from now on??!)

Wow he sounds very mean! What’s he projecting on you though? 🤔

I agree with PP. tell him you’ve got a new hobby and you’re going out all day on whatever day works best for you. And do it!!!! Leave him to look after the kids.

Babes, its divorce time. And i don't say this lightly.
Sorry but he might already have someone less boring (aka childless) in the wings

As a woman who married someone ‘boring’ I have had the same realization as your husband…

I’d take it as a kick up the bum to find some hobbies and start planning fun things for you and your family now the kids are bigger and his shift pattern makes it easier. Book a regular babysitter and try to be a bit more spontaneous - only if he is reciprocating though.

Life is short and it’s really draining to be the only one in the relationship who wants to enjoy life.

What a fucking arsehole!!!

Wow, that’s savage. What a git. Hate to say this but is there any chance he cheated on you while away with work? Sounds like he’s setting a story to make an exit where you take the blame. What did you say back to him? Please fight back and get some time for yourself. You need to get rid of this man and live your own life without him dragging you down.

You might want to tell him, that the reason youre "boring" is because hes selfish and youve facilitated it. Youve been boring so he wasnt bored. And if he isnt grateful for that hes right, he should go.

He was away with work last week and said he sat in a hotel room just thinking how badly he'd messed up by marrying someone so boring

oh the script, so damn predictable.

He has been miserable for years and can't take it any more
youve never really made him happy
he needed to run headlong into the arms of a woman who can make him feel less bored because of you, poor lamb
etc, etc, ad nauseam.

honestly OP read the writing on the wall, get those ducks in a row and decide when it's the right time to get shot of him. He's delusional and needs a reality check.

Oh OP I’m absolutely raging for you!! He is a complete wanker. So basically since having kids his life hasn’t changed but what he can’t recognise is that yours has!! My husband said to me a couple of years ago - “why don’t you have any hobbies?” Like it was a choice. We have 3 kids dickhead and I’m fucking shattered. Huge argument, he apologised and never said it again. Now kids are bit older I definitely go out more but I reckon he still does more than me as he never stopped whereas I definitely had a period of not doing as much.

He’s definitely deflecting by saying you’re boring and I agree with possible affair scenarios as he’s basically laying the ground to make out it’s your fault. I’m so sorry - he’s a prick

sorry OP, he’s a dick. Of course you’re absolutely right and people with young kids socialise less than those who don’t! My guess is that he doesn’t realise this as his kids have never inconvenienced him or his lifestyle as you do all the heavy lifting! If I was you I would sit him down and say you’ve thought about what he said and you agree that you have been caring for everyone else at the expense of yourself and you’ve decided that Sundays (or any other day that suits) will be your day for a new hobby, so if he makes sure he doesn’t plan anything for then as he will be looking after the kids. Go out all day on Sunday every week for a few weeks. He’ll be missing his “boring” wife in no time. Who knows maybe you will find a hobby that interests you and this will be the start of you prioritising yourself a bit more!

He's a wanker. I'd tell him that I am very happy to be boring and if he doesn't like it he can bugger off.

It’s The Script.

Does he usually talk to you like this?

Mine tried this on when DS was 4. Apparently he never went out doing stuff because I didn't so he felt he couldn't.

I took up various activities and he still had to be crow-barred out the house.

Fast forward 10 years, I have loads of friends, out doing fun stuff most evenings, regularly out drinking and dancing till the small hours and away for weekends.

DH has a couple of quiet hobbies.

It wasn't me that was the boring one. He wanted to imagine he would be a more interesting man without me.