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I screamed at my friend

35 replies

DarthPaula · 06/02/2026 22:36

Going through a rough time and I confided in my friend. Talking about DH and she said “he’s a waste of space”. I agreed with her. She then followed up with “a massive waste of space”. I said “yep”. Then she carried on … over and over …

Honestly, he’s a waste of space. Just a waste of space, seriously a waste of space. Nothing more than a waste of space. Literally a waste of space …

I could feel myself getting angry (not at what she was saying but the repetition of it) and in the end I snapped and screamed “yes!!! I get it!!!”

She said “Jesus! I’m trying to help!” I was unreasonable wasn’t I?

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/02/2026 02:58

Did she actually say it like that or were you talking in between? If she just said it like that, she sounds annoying but you still overreacted. If you were talking in between, she was presumably trying to sound supportive and you overreacted.

YWBU

BauhausOfEliott · 07/02/2026 02:33

So basically you wanted her to just patiently listen to you moan on about your husband for ages (I suspect for the millionth time) while also refusing to change anything or listen to any advice?

What else do you want her to say? You’re telling her how awful your husband is and she’s agreeing with you.

Screaming is weird, childish and OTT and if I were your friend I’d be planning to avoid you from this point onwards.

Tablesandchairs23 · 07/02/2026 01:40

You owe your friend a apology.

HelenaWaiting · 07/02/2026 01:02

If I were her I'd be avoiding you like the plague for some considerable time. I have no time for people who expect me to know what they want me to say.

Pinkelephant66 · 06/02/2026 22:52

If you were offloading and saying multiple things that your husband does/ doesn’t do, and she was saying how awful it is, then i think YABU. She’s only agreeing with you. But of course, we need more context here…we have no idea about the actual conversation.

if you said bloody hell Bob didn’t take the bins out last night!! And she said what she said over and over again, it might be a bit much 🤷‍♀️

AnneLovesGilbert · 06/02/2026 22:44

Why not focus on your bad relationship instead of getting into spats with your mates? She sounds like she cares more about you than you do.

Either you’ve moaned about him before and she’s hit her limit. Or what he’s done is really awful and she reacted dramatically because he actually is a waste of space.

Honestly, this is a silly sideshow. Deal with your useless husband.

wandawaves · 06/02/2026 22:40

Screamed? Really?

Were you shaking and crying too?

Gosh there's a lot of hyperbole on MN.

SilenceInside · 06/02/2026 22:39

It sounds like you were both being unreasonable, tbh.

FetchezLaVache · 06/02/2026 22:39

I think you were both a bit unreasonable, tbh. She shouldn't have gone on and on like she did, but equally, I think she'd probably suspected for a while that your DH is a waste of space and was just quite pleased you had come to a similar conclusion.

ItsTimeToChang3 · 06/02/2026 22:38

I’d give you a wide berth for a few months