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I screamed at my friend

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DarthPaula · 06/02/2026 22:36

Going through a rough time and I confided in my friend. Talking about DH and she said “he’s a waste of space”. I agreed with her. She then followed up with “a massive waste of space”. I said “yep”. Then she carried on … over and over …

Honestly, he’s a waste of space. Just a waste of space, seriously a waste of space. Nothing more than a waste of space. Literally a waste of space …

I could feel myself getting angry (not at what she was saying but the repetition of it) and in the end I snapped and screamed “yes!!! I get it!!!”

She said “Jesus! I’m trying to help!” I was unreasonable wasn’t I?

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Loveing · 07/02/2026 14:29

She carried on saying it over and over for you to get the hint, she sick of you moaning over and over about the same thing.

Taste of your own medicine.

Sugarfish · 07/02/2026 14:22

I have a friend who will repeat stuff, usually a comment someone has made or jokes. The jokes annoy me the most to be honest, she will repeat those till their death! I do have to grit my teeth sometimes to not tell her to give it rest. But I love her and she’s not a bad person so most of the time I just smile and nod. She’s very socially anxious, constantly thinks she’s being judged by everyone for everything so I don’t know if this this some kind of fitting in thing, like if someone else has made a comment or joke and they got a good reaction she sees them as “safe”.

Pinkissmart · 07/02/2026 14:21

Just apologise and move on

Bubblebather89 · 07/02/2026 14:10

Screamed really? You need to get a grip. Personally I’d have just stared at her open mouthed and waited till she had finished.

pinkyredrose · 07/02/2026 14:07

She's probably sick of you whinging about him. Why are you with him if he's so awful?

Hiptothisjive · 07/02/2026 14:02

wandawaves · 06/02/2026 22:40

Screamed? Really?

Were you shaking and crying too?

Gosh there's a lot of hyperbole on MN.

Could not agree more. Hard to wade through the hyperbolic language at times to understand the seriousness of a post. Why do people feel it necessary to completely over exaggerate to make a point?

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DarthPaula · 07/02/2026 14:00

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/02/2026 02:58

Did she actually say it like that or were you talking in between? If she just said it like that, she sounds annoying but you still overreacted. If you were talking in between, she was presumably trying to sound supportive and you overreacted.

YWBU

She actually said if like that - repeating the same phrase over and over again. After initially agreeing with her I stopped talking and she still carried on doing it.

it was a frustrated scream

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 07/02/2026 08:45

I hope you weren't near a large chapel, the screaming that goes on in those places is bonkers

WhatNoRaisins · 07/02/2026 08:38

Taking the repetition at face value it would really freak me out if someone sat there and literally repeated themself and weren't responsive to me. I like to think I'd stay calm and walk away.

Auroraloves · 07/02/2026 08:30

That repeated over and over again would have got on my nerves, she sounds like a toddler

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/02/2026 08:28

Screaming is never a good look. I’d apologise to your friend.

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/02/2026 08:27

Screamed? God this place is so dramatic with all the screaming, shaking and sobbing that goes on.

Personally, I’d have snapped and farted.

beAsensible1 · 07/02/2026 07:57

maybe you often have the same complaint and she has the same response so she was preempting how the conversation would go

Translatethedog · 07/02/2026 07:56

You screamed?

NotAnotherScarf · 07/02/2026 07:54

So you are slagging your dh off to a mate...nice! Then when she agrees and tried to reassure you that he is what you wanted to hear you shouted at her.

Firstly, you were out of order slagging your partner. That's shit.
Secondly. She clearly thinks he's a loser so you have to consider who's in the right there
Thirdly, you don't shout at a mate who is reflecting back what you want to hear. That's shit too

LionKing88 · 07/02/2026 07:50

You owe her an apology. You're a grown woman and you dont need to shout. Its up to her if she then says "sorry, i did go on a bit too - i should have left it".

Unless you were my very best friend - I would leave the friendship in the dust. Or at least downgrade you in my head to a friendly accquantance rather than an actual friend.

BlackCat14 · 07/02/2026 07:44

This all sounds very bizarre. Her saying it over and over and over is very weird. Sounds like something an 8 year old would do. But then you suddenly screaming is also very weird. What was the aftermath? After you screamed, what happened?

LaMarschallin · 07/02/2026 07:41

I was unreasonable wasn’t I?

Obviously.
I can see why you were irritated but so many people on MN seem to go from 0-60 emotionally, like here: straight from agreeing to screaming.
It's quite immature.
Your friend isn't a mind-reader and probably thought she was being helpful and validating your feelings if you'd agreed then said nothing much until the sudden childish "screaming" (which surely was actually shouting?).
She must have been very shocked and upset.

Menopausio · 07/02/2026 07:34

gillefc82 · 07/02/2026 03:26

I’m early 40’s and in my adult life, the only time I’ve ever screamed is when celebrating Everton scoring a goal/winning a match.

I don’t think there’s ever an acceptable reason (excuse) for one grown adult to scream at another. For me, once the volume is raised, you lose all credibility and, by extension, the argument.

You could have just adopted a light hearted but firm tone and said “Frigging hell Jenny give it a rest will you? Don’t worry mate, I think I’ve got the message, loud and clear!”, accompanied by a tinkly laugh and a smile.

You need to apologise to your friend without delay and hope she doesn’t hold a grudge.

COYB

MyCatLovesCardboard · 07/02/2026 07:28

Was this the very first time you’ve confided in her about him? If so, it was an odd response.
If this happens a lot I think she’s sick of hearing about it.

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 07/02/2026 07:19

Sounds like she was sick of you repeating yourself like a parrot so she did the same back to you.

Notsosweetcaroline · 07/02/2026 07:17

Do you mean you shouted?

WhatNoRaisins · 07/02/2026 07:15

You mean this person just kept saying the same thing again and again and wouldn't stop? How long for?

BMW6 · 07/02/2026 06:37

Perhaps she's sick of hearing you moaning on and on about him?

Time to shit or get off the pot?

gillefc82 · 07/02/2026 03:26

I’m early 40’s and in my adult life, the only time I’ve ever screamed is when celebrating Everton scoring a goal/winning a match.

I don’t think there’s ever an acceptable reason (excuse) for one grown adult to scream at another. For me, once the volume is raised, you lose all credibility and, by extension, the argument.

You could have just adopted a light hearted but firm tone and said “Frigging hell Jenny give it a rest will you? Don’t worry mate, I think I’ve got the message, loud and clear!”, accompanied by a tinkly laugh and a smile.

You need to apologise to your friend without delay and hope she doesn’t hold a grudge.