To avoid all family gatherings

If politics is the main or only point of conversation, then even if they voted for someone else, YANBU to avoid them.

YANBU.
Oh the rows I would start at every family gathering 😂😭

I feel for you. I would not want to be around people like that either. The problem is, politics has shifted so far to the right that it's now really about a difference in values. People used to debate different views, but if you are faced with people that think misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, racism, bigotry and hatred of anyone who is 'different' (cos that's what the National Front oops I mean Reform espouse), then one cannot be tolerant of their intolerance.

Reforms propaganda machine is backed by billionaires who control these puppets like Farage to get the population riled up about 'illegal immigrants ' so angry tired fucked off skint people don't look to them to blame.

As far as exposing your teens to it, I would be having constructive conversations with them. Asking their opinions, giving them facts and steering them towards unbiased information.
Our son is now 21, we’ve never imposed any political views on him and he’s made his own decisions. He’s now very vocally (to us anyway) in the “omg, have you seen what uncle x has put on Facebook” and “uncle x is being racist again” camp.

it sounds like your MIL probably doesn’t agree so much & is just going along with what they say. The dr comment is a classic brainwashing propoganda comment from the far right.

agree with others that rather than shielding the teenagers its better to use it as teaching moment. There is so much of this being pushed on social media that your teens will unlikely be able to avoid it.

They sound horrific and I would also avoid them like the plague if left to my own devices but I agree with others that “shielding” your teenagers is not a good idea.

Partly because the kids have a right to make up their own minds, partly because these sorts of people are obsessed with the idea that everyone is “censoring” them. And also because exposure to their idiocy is probably the best way to inoculate your children against this sort of rhetoric.

The state of some peoples ideas are concerning regarding politics at the best of times. I couldn't be bothered with the knuckle draggers either so yanbu.
Was out earlier and a thick as shit bloke was following me along the pavement shouting into his phone swearing repeatedly about Reform and how good it is, and that his '"cunty family are scumbags 'cos they support labour and Reform is fucking brilliant and Farage is fucking brillant." Pause "She a real cunty fucker and scummy too cos she thinks labour is great"
Must admit I did laugh and think what a complete twat you sound, a scumbag indeed.
What I'm getting at OP is that it could be a lot worse with your family.🤔

@GainOfFunctionTories "if they need to learn about all political parties I’d rather do it in a controlled way in balanced conversations at home."

So why haven't you been doing that already? Surely there's nothing stopping you. Anyway, regardless of balanced conversation at home, they're still going to be exposed to all sorts of opinions outside the home as well as online and on the TV. It's the natural way of things and you can't (and shouldn't) stop it.

Whenever people say you shouldn't fall out over politics I find it a bit confusing. As politics is about life - how we live it and how we treat other people. It's central to who we are. If they can agree not to talk about it and you're fine looking past it, then maybe keep going to the events. But I think if they can't agree not to talk about it at events, then it's your right to protect yourself by not going. You've tried taking to them already. You're never going to change their mind. I wouldn't want my kids constantly hearing that from family members they respect either. Unless I was planning to offer the contrasting argument there and then which I can't imagine would make for a particularly nice dinner

I wouldn't go anywhere near them, much less exposed my kids to their cuntery..

If you think they're bad now, just wait until Reform get into power..You ain't seen nothing yet.

You need to respect their views, and if you’re up for a debate, they need to respect yours. Or bite your tongue. It’s a bit extreme to avoid family gatherings and not very fair your OH 🙂

I have noticed that many of the Union Flags flown by these people are upside-down. It doesn't say much for there patriotism that they don't know the right way to fly the flag that they claim to hold so dear!
(Yes there is a right an wrong way to fly them)!

I'd avoid them too.
I have very different political views to my brother, I'm left, he's right - not reform right though- he's not a racist, misogynistic cunt thankfully.
We have had ots of heated debates in our time but also both have the decency to drop it if needed.
It can't be a pleasurable experience spending time in that environment, its not like they respect your views so don't do it to yourself.
How old are the dc ?

How did you come up with your username @GainOfFunctionTories OP?

Not unreasonable at all. I learned the hard way that trying to have a reasonable discussion with a Reform ‘fan’ is pointless and stressful.

I think i would give them one last chance and be really blunt about it. "Have you really not got any other topics to talk about other than politics or accusing my husband of being under the thumb because we are seriously considering not coming round because of it. Do you really want to distance yourselves from everyone that disagrees with you ...even your own family ? And do you not realise that these views are polarising ? ! I don't wish to argue anymore, just because I don't agree. "
Seriously some of these people are like Jehovahs witnesses on speed pedalling and pushing their views onto others.

Id leave it to DP to handle. As long as your children are mature enough to not lap up what is being said I wouldn’t worry too much. It’s important to ensure that young people grow up as good critical thinkers so asking about policies etc seems like a sensible approach.
If they ask you, I’d just reiterate your views but these people thrive on being marginalised. It gives them an identity.
there’s no way I’d want to listen to all that racist shite. I’d have to say something so I’d end up distancing myself from them I think.

I might have one last attempt with them to rudely say ‘do you really have no other conversation topics other than politics?’ a few times
when next there. At least then if I do turn down future invitations I could legitimately say ‘it’s because you are unable to talk about anything other than politics and I’ve already heard it at the last x events. Let me know when you’d like to talk about family, holidays etc anything else and I’ll be there like a shot.’ They may be more willing to offer to switch topics. You are unreasonable not to let them air their views but if it is genuinely constant, what is the point? It’s boring.

Ask them if they saw Nige’s party political broadcast the other day. It showed him out for a dog walk on the coast, he looked at a pill box.
The whole thing seems vague…what exactly are their policies?

I have different political views than my family. We agree not to talk politics