More a WWYD? Purse handed in at supermarket where I left it behind.

If I'm Natalie, French or British Natalie, I am eating them and blessing kind OP 😂

Of course you’re overthinking. Just go and collect it.

It's too late now !

Natalie was given ' a Haribo bucket of mini packs of sweets.'
followed by the Op saying ' "It's for the children." '

If this had happened in the UK I guess the sweets would have been donated by Natalie to the trolly for the food bank donations.

A box of chocs would be much appreciated I am sure.

I'm a supermarket manager. We have only just recently been allowed to accept gifts from members of the public but not money. I would suggest reaching out to the companies social media team or if they have one of those anonymous review things leave a review on that and mention her. If you really want to get her something just something little some chocolates would be a kind gesture. If she was a member of my team and I heard about what she had done through social media or my own companies review app I would reward her with a company gift card. Also you must have your number in your wallet because the loyalty card scheme shouldn't be giving out your details that's a gdpr breach

I would give a small reward in a thank you card, and a bunch of flowers to whoever had handed my purse in and thank my lucky stars that there are still some honed people left.

So your mum sounds semi-abusive…which leads to you doubting yourself to the extent of needing advice on collecting your own lost property.

You sound genuinely lovely, and your mum sounds truly awful. Worth thinking about how she’s affected your self-esteem? That seems the real story here.

People who get a lot of over-the-top criticism from family, especially from their primary carer which the mother very likely was, often lack the confidence to make decisions. That is probably what we are seeing here. Mother's reaction was a lot of silly drama but OP has probably been exposed to it all her life.

One of the worst effects of this is that people often keep going back to try to get approval so they are constantly getting more doses of criticism and more kicks when they are down. Like having your own personal raincloud following you around.

Hope life gets better, OP

Why did you call your mum for moral
support? What did you need support for? You lost your wallet, someone found it and someone called to let you know you could pick it up. What on earth did you need moral
support for?
Maybe your mum had a point about you living alone.

I'm not surprised you second guess yourself so much with your mother acting like that. Try not to take her too seriously of course - I can see you are trying, but don't let it seep in. Glad you got your card back and nice to hear about the man who found it.

Write to her manager with praise for amazing customer service from her and the branch. I bet they have team meetings where compliments are read out and she/the team will get a round of applause and a nice email from a senior manager. That’s worth more than a gift.

I see you've sorted it now but when I worked in retail people left all kinds of stuff behind. If we had a way of contacting them (the shop had a loyalty type scheme) we would or otherwise wait for them to enquire

I can't imagine that it ever entered anyone's mind that they would need a gift for being a normal human

I'm glad you got your wallet back.
To be honest you didn't need to phone your mum for any moral support.
This happens every day in shops.
Someone finds a wallet and hands it in.
As long as you aren't carrying around £100s cash in it then wallets are easily replaceable. Cards can be cancelled and replaced.
It can be annoying but it isn't such the big deal you are making it to be.
Look after yourself.
💐

I don't think you need to do anything unless you really want to. The purse was handed to them, they looked in it, found your store ID card, put the number in the computer and called you - 5 minute job. Totally different from someone finding it in the street and having to use a phone book or the internet to track you down.

Are you worried about your bank card? You can usually put a temporary hold on them in your banking app.

This . An email naming her and expressing your gratitude will be a good boost for her.

There is no need for a card / flowers / chocolate, no need at all.
Chocolates for the staff room / staff canteen prob means Natalie will never see them as they will have been scoffed by the time she is in again for her shift.
Flowers will die as no one will put them in water.
A card ? did you not say ' thank you ' when she contacted you.

Every single day items get lost / found in a supermarket, and every single day there are enquiries ' has such and such ' been found / handed in / ' I found such and such left in a trolly '

The details will be entered into the lost property book and the item ( depending on what it is ) will be placed in a cupboard at Customer Services or in a safe ( as I said depends on what the item is )

' Natalie ' will have filled out the lost property book - date/time/item and sign it and whoever you see will also sign the lost property book - date, time etc. and depending on what the item is will depend if you are asked for id and the id provided will be noted in the lost property book.

There may indeed have been a time delay in Natalie contacting you, since receiving the item - she may have been stopped by a customer wanting / needing something, then she had to find your details etc.

Don't overthink it.
just collect the item asap / at your convenience.

Have you any idea how many mobile phones / purses / wallets / gloves / walking sticks / soft toys are ' lost ' / left behind in a supermarket every single day.

Just go into the store and get it. Take her some flowers if you must. But shed probably prefer you send a nice email to head office about her…