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Go fund pot for a baby registry

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Love2read12 · 06/02/2026 20:19

I have just had an invite to attend my nephews baby shower. It’s a mother to be and father to be baby shower with all the family. They have stated they haven’t done a baby registry (is this even a thing?) and they would much prefer money donated so both parents can take time off work. (Self employed). Got to admit I am baffled at this.. wondering if others would be too?

Am I being unreasonable not to contribute? I will however give a gift /card with money when the baby is here. They can put this to whatever they wish. It’s been sent to 30 People. Realistically how much would each person have to contribute in order for them to be off. Usually at a baby shower (of the handful I have been to) I take a minding, then buy a gift when the baby is born. Is this the new normal?

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Love2read12 · 06/02/2026 20:36

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2026 20:35

Cheeky buggers! Personally I would find any excuse not to go. Take a gift if and when you visit them once the baby has arrived.
If they are both self employed then it’s on them to save up/plan finances for maternity/paternity leave.

We can’t make it as it stands. We have plans that weekend. The gift pot has been sent via a link though in advance.

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Duckingpondlake · 06/02/2026 20:36

Jeez have people no shame, that's so grabby it actually made my stomach turn.

TigerRag · 06/02/2026 20:35

I guess this would mean they wouldn't receive multiple items of the same thing. But yes I don't agree with it

Wolfiefan · 06/02/2026 20:35

Cheeky buggers! Personally I would find any excuse not to go. Take a gift if and when you visit them once the baby has arrived.
If they are both self employed then it’s on them to save up/plan finances for maternity/paternity leave.

Love2read12 · 06/02/2026 20:35

Nomoreink · 06/02/2026 20:33

Outrageous !

Yes, a gift after they are born to celebrate their safe arrival.

This is what I am thinking. Now wondering if everyone contributes are we the family weirdos. 🫣

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Nomoreink · 06/02/2026 20:33

Outrageous !

Yes, a gift after they are born to celebrate their safe arrival.

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