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The most pernicious secret about Reform

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SeriousFaffing · 06/02/2026 12:05

The results from a YouGov poll in December show quite a large difference between men and women of those who would vote Reform at the beginning of 2026.

This has got me thinking about the split and women’s awareness of Reform.

Agree or not, I’m sure that everyone is aware of the links made between Reform and racism… However, I think that a just as big elephant in the room is what appears as pernicious and deep rooted misogyny… I think that the YouGov poll appears to show that women are subliminally - or very - aware of this fact.

When I think of Reform, I see images of white men chanting “we want our country back”. I think of Farage cosying up to the anti abortionists in the USA (many news articles on this) and I think of Reform’s policies to boost the birth rate.

I wonder about wanting ‘our country back’ being as much about harking back to a time when women were not out at work (taking up jobs) and expecting dinner to be on the table when he comes home. No answering back at home or in the work place. And, you know, ‘Protecting our women’ as though a commodity or object… But only when it suits.

What do you think? Am I unreasonable as a woman to worry about Reform getting into Government?

You are unreasonable - no, as a woman, I am not worried about Reform getting into Government.

You are not being unreasonable - I am worried too.

The most pernicious secret about Reform
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sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 21:58

snowbear22 · 06/02/2026 17:06

I don't think that you can call Reform 'far right'.

Attacks on human rights: Farage has called for the UK to withdraw from the ECHR rejecting key principles of liberal democracy.

-Withdrawing from the ECHR is also a policy from the Conservative Party as it has become an outdated loophole for mass migration.

Undermining democracy: Farage has repeatedly questioned election results in Peterborough (2019), Rochdale (2024) and Oldham (2015), where he said that the electoral process was “dead” due to “ethnic changes in the way people are voting”.

It is Starmer that has suspended local elections, set up digital ID in some dodgy deal with billionaire Larry Ellison.
Labour want to scrap jury trials
Shabina Mahmood wants to roll out facial recognition software across the country
LAbour have overseen the arrest of 1,200 people a year for 'hate crimes' on social media -more than Russia or China

Populism and elite conspiracy: Farage frames himself as a defender of “the people” against a sinister “elite,” fueling distrust in politicians and institutions.

See Epstein files.

This is so full of half truths its incredible

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 19:01

That was a bit longer than I had planned.

TLDR - the bbc were using the term in a purely descriptive sense initially. They then recognised that this was inappropriate because some people interpreted the description as a value judgement. So they apologised.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 18:58

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:15

Do you understand that it “fell short of editorial guidelines” because <we have no evidence to back our claim>

So as you repeatedly make that subjective and controversial claim that the BBC lawyers were worried enough about a libel suit that they advised the beeb to make an embarrassing apology (although they must be so used to that by now), you need to provide some evidence or I just have to assume you have none.

You can just say that this is your entirely subjective opinion but you have no actual evidence to back it up? I won’t hold it against you.

There is actually plenty of evidence to justify the use of the term "far right". The problem that the BBC encountered is that there is no precise, legally recognised definition of "far right", and the use of such a phrase therefore involves a degree of editorial judgement.

That in itself is nothing new. There is always a degree of editorial judgement, even in describing parties as "left" or "right", which also don't have precise legal definitions. Usually, such judgements are fairly uncontroversial, because the parties in question don't generally object to the characterisation - most Labour politicians would be happy to be described as left wing, and most Tories would be happy to be described as right wing. In this particular case, Reform did object because the term "far right" is perceived to be a pejorative one and not merely a descriptive one which describes where they fall on the political spectrum. This is obviously because of negative associations with far right parties through history.

BBC's editorial guidelines require them to present the news in an impartial manner. This means that they have to avoid the use of terms like "far right", which might be perceived as expressing judgement. Their apology does not mean that the description was wrong, but merely that it was inappropriate for a broadcaster which is supposed to avoid value judgements.

If you set aside the value judgements, it's quite hard to argue that Reform are not "far right". They are certainly quite a lot further to the right than the traditional "centre right". Perhaps you would prefer the term "hard right" if you don't like the historical associations?

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 18:52

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:03

You seem to be straying into libel territory as well.

The BBCs lawyers obviously realised that it was a problem to call them ‘far right’ and they clearly had nothing to back it, otherwise they would have refused to apologise and invited a libel suit if he didn’t like it.

Can you provide evidence of your accusations please.

Ah let him sue me then and we can have it out in court.😆😆😆

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:34

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 13:09

Actually believing this is incredible. Have you looked at their voting g records? On issues like employment upskirting online reform?
Never mind all the photos and allegiance with tate, trump, Russia etc. And individual, recent tweets...

I’m confused. The upskirting law was passed in 2019 but the first Reform MP wasn’t elected until 2024 so they couldn’t have voted against that law.

Which laws have they voted against and why?

Taking photos with Trump or anyone else doesn’t make a party ‘far right’ though. Otherwise you’d be including Starmer in that accusation as well.

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:15

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/02/2026 23:15

Right, so your claim that the lib dems had apologised was incorrect. It never happened. Thank you for confirming this.

As for the BBC, it didn't conclude that it was technically incorrect to describe Reform as far right. Rather, it concluded that use of the term was not in line with the BBC's editorial guidelines. Those guidelines include, for example, the avoidance of highly charged political labels which might be considered to be subjective or controversial.

As for Reform being far right? Just listen to their rhetoric. Look at what their candidates, councillors and MPs say, both in person and on social media. Watch their deliberate, calculated attempts to stir up hate. Look at the connections that they have with far right movements in other countries. Look at some of their policies, such as threatening to remove the right to stay in the UK for people who have already been given the right to permanently settle here and have built their lives here on that basis.

Do you understand that it “fell short of editorial guidelines” because <we have no evidence to back our claim>

So as you repeatedly make that subjective and controversial claim that the BBC lawyers were worried enough about a libel suit that they advised the beeb to make an embarrassing apology (although they must be so used to that by now), you need to provide some evidence or I just have to assume you have none.

You can just say that this is your entirely subjective opinion but you have no actual evidence to back it up? I won’t hold it against you.

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:06

SeriousFaffing · 06/02/2026 22:05

@JustSomeWaferThinHam Yeah, you got the names mixed up because you don’t know the area. If you knew the area, the slip wouldn’t have happened. And if you knew the area, you’d have a semblance of how distasteful it is for you to paste your agenda onto this harrowing event

See 1:25 in

Again, the locals - who were out rebuilding walls and sweeping up the debris caused by these thugs - know what happened. But crack on with your shameful agenda.

Edited

Do try reading my original question before you keep attacking me. It wasn’t me accusing the local protestors of being racist. 🤷‍♀️

Is it racist for local people to be upset about 3 of their young girls being brutally murdered by a young man that was not stopped because of his race and the authorities then lied to the public about his race and tried to conceal his motivations?

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 07/02/2026 18:03

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/02/2026 21:39

The owner of Reform UK is a racist, antisemitic traitor.

Is that far-right enough for you? If not, the statements and criminal convictions of his party members should do it.

You seem to be straying into libel territory as well.

The BBCs lawyers obviously realised that it was a problem to call them ‘far right’ and they clearly had nothing to back it, otherwise they would have refused to apologise and invited a libel suit if he didn’t like it.

Can you provide evidence of your accusations please.

sleepwouldbenice · 07/02/2026 17:32

EasternStandard · 06/02/2026 16:35

I think Starmer and Labour are closer and more implicated on that one.

Both can be true
Doesn't excuse Farage

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 17:17

So "done here" @moderate means that you're going to stop posting because yor've realised that your argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny, but you're still going to hang around posting passive aggressive emoji?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:47

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:39

The irony!

I’m done here. Arguing with you is starting to feel a bit like bullying a child.

More than anything, I pity you. Reform will come to power and you won’t have a clue why. You’ll think it’s because everyone is either racist or stupid enough to be taken in by racists.

Fare well.

Yes, you do come across as being a bit of a bully. Luckily enough, I have enough life experience to understand that it comes from a place of insecurity.

As for what happens if and when Reform is elected, you won't need to pity me, as I already have a Plan B lined up. I have no intention of staying and watching the shitshow unfold, but I will feel very sorry for those who are left behind. Not the racists, but definitely the ones stupid enough to be taken in by racists. It will be awful for them when it gradually dawns on them what they've done.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:42

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:40

No.

Anyone can simply read up the quote history to understand my point.

Then I am not making your point for you.🤷‍♀️

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:40

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

No.

Anyone can simply read up the quote history to understand my point.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:39

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:31

Old enough to recognise when someone is lashing out because they don't know what else to say. Wink

The irony!

I’m done here. Arguing with you is starting to feel a bit like bullying a child.

More than anything, I pity you. Reform will come to power and you won’t have a clue why. You’ll think it’s because everyone is either racist or stupid enough to be taken in by racists.

Fare well.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:35

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

Ah, perhaps that's it.

If that's the case, @moderate, then I stand corrected.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 16:33

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

Are you still trying to make my point for me?

Are you making the point that Farage is a misogynist who doesn't give a shit about the victims of VAWG unless it forwards his racist agenda?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:31

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:30

How old are you? I used to see the world in black and white as you do, but then I grew up.

Old enough to recognise when someone is lashing out because they don't know what else to say. Wink

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:30

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:23

You don't have a point. You just have prejudice and assumptions.

How old are you? I used to see the world in black and white as you do, but then I grew up.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:23

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:20

Obviously this is going to be how it looks to someone who fails to comprehend my point.

You don't have a point. You just have prejudice and assumptions.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:21

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:18

Well, if she is trying to make your point for you, it seems that she is failing miserably.😂

In your entirely predictable view.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:20

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:17

Writing "Are you trying to make my point for me" makes absolutely no sense in the context of what the pp had actually said though. It only makes any sense if you had failed to comprehend her post. Which you obviously did.

Obviously this is going to be how it looks to someone who fails to comprehend my point.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:18

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

Are you still trying to make my point for me?

Well, if she is trying to make your point for you, it seems that she is failing miserably.😂

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 16:17

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:13

No, you just misunderstood mine.

Entirely predictably.

Writing "Are you trying to make my point for me" makes absolutely no sense in the context of what the pp had actually said though. It only makes any sense if you had failed to comprehend her post. Which you obviously did.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:13

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/02/2026 15:27

No, you just misunderstood her point.

Unsurprisingly.

No, you just misunderstood mine.

Entirely predictably.

moderate · 07/02/2026 16:12

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/02/2026 12:37

Farage doesn't give a shit about the victims of grooming gangs. He uses them to further his racist agenda. So those supporting him because of grooming gangs are either thick, or racist themselves.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/oct/29/female-survivors-of-grooming-gangs-demand-apology-from-nigel-farage

Are you still trying to make my point for me?