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To be concerned that a Mum from another class is still in our class WhatsApp group?

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ImageNet · 06/02/2026 08:07

DC's in reception and at the start of the year I noticed a number in the class WhatsApp group whose name I didn't recognise. I assumed it was possibly a grandparent of one of DC's classmates, Anyway, I also felt it was a bit busybody-like to look into it especially as I'm not even a class rep so left it. Fast forward five months and after I posted in the group offering some items for a school activity, the mysterious number messaged me asking if I could pass them one. I joked that I hadn't met them yet and they said that their child is in one of the other Reception classes. I'm not sure what to make of it as although our class WhatsApp isn't very active, some parents do post photos of their children after a party and to me it just feels weird (with privacy concerns) that this mum is still in a class WhatsApp group when her DC isn't in it. My question is: is it something I should mention to a class rep as she's been in the group for almost half a year already. WWYD? AIBU to mention it to a class rep?

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Ablondiebutagoody · 06/02/2026 08:40

I have never been in a class whatsapp group, but can imagine the dreary messages. Just leave.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 06/02/2026 08:39

Honestly, this wouldn't even have been on my radar. They probably see your child at pick-up every day and school events anyway, what possible 'safety concerns' would the odd party picture pose?

AutumnLover1989 · 06/02/2026 08:37

Very odd. A few years ago a mum who set up a class WhatsApp group didn't tell anyone that her son was no longer at the school (she'd taken him out as apparently he was getting bullied but turned out he was the bully). She was still the moderator. I called her out on it and all hell broke loose. She'd never allow another mum to co moderate as she likes the power too much. She also had to approve posts before they went up,so how on earth would she know what was happening within the school? Strange woman.

Changingplace · 06/02/2026 08:35

If her child is just in a different class it sounds more like she’s just been added to the wrong WhatsApp rather than ‘still’ being in it, I don’t understand why you think she’s ’still’ in it or really why it’s any issue?

TiredofLDN · 06/02/2026 08:35

If you’re sure her kid is in the other class I wouldn’t worry.

If you’re not sure there’s a kid at all, and it’s someone with nefarious intentions, I’d tell the group admin

Rollercoaster1920 · 06/02/2026 08:33

If a 2 form school is she the class rep for the other class? I've seen that before so the class reps can see / cover for each other.

Changingplace · 06/02/2026 08:33

DysmalRadius · 06/02/2026 08:15

It's weird that the mum isn't taking herself out of the group. Presumably she's in her child's class WhatsApp group as well?

If it’s not that active she probably doesn’t care enough to bother.

mindutopia · 06/02/2026 08:33

I mean I wouldn’t be sending photos of my child around on a class WhatsApp group. Speaking from experience, you can know who someone is and they can be the person you intend to contact, but they can still turn out to be a paedophile. 🥴

Is it simply that there is no other active group, or maybe the other group is completely bonkers and she has silenced it, because she finds it better to get class announcements from this much better group?

freudenschaude · 06/02/2026 08:29

Why are you concerned? What is it you’re concerned about? Surely if 30 people you don’t know that well have your number that’s already a privacy concern if you’re bothered about stuff like that?

MushMonster · 06/02/2026 08:25

I find weird that you have class groups, instead of year groups. They will do so many things together, like assembly, Nativity plays, trips. They are likely to play together and have friends across different classes.

sittingonabeach · 06/02/2026 08:24

I assume if anyone has privacy concerns they wouldn’t be on a class WhatsApp group. And class groups are really just meant to be about school not like friends’ chat, and so there shouldn’t be that much different info between one reception class one and another one

UnusualOtter · 06/02/2026 08:18

I don't understand why you say she is "still" in the group but her child is in another class in the same year. So it isn't that she has an older child, or her child has left the school, so she was in the group but should have left? I don't get what the privacy concerns are either, why is it more concerning to have a mum of a child in another class on there than the mum of a child in your class? They will probably be in the same class at some point.

DysmalRadius · 06/02/2026 08:15

It's weird that the mum isn't taking herself out of the group. Presumably she's in her child's class WhatsApp group as well?