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Work trip to USA

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Wonderbug81 · 06/02/2026 07:54

I'm in a senior role and there's talk of a work trip to US this year. For context I've been to the US multiple times and even lived in NYC for a year a long time ago.

However I'm British Asian and I don't want to go - it's a very different place to the one I lived in.

At the moment it's not a firmed up plan but we'll be going to number of places (not just the more left wing cities) and I want to be ready to discuss it when the time comes.

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bevelino · 08/02/2026 09:20

I have just returned from a family trip to Georgia, no problem whatsoever. Border control were courteous and professional on entry and exit. I didn’t see anyone being harassed at all. OP, I doubt anything bad will happen if you go to the US.

Wonderbug81 · 08/02/2026 09:11

NoKidsSendDogs · 08/02/2026 01:03

I suspect most of the people here saying, what's the issue, you will be safe, you're with work colleagues, etc etc are not fully understanding your concerns. I am an American citizen currently living in the UK and I'm not white. I haven't lived there for about 13 years but I go back home regularly. My parents live in a blue state and my brother lives in a red one. My husband is white and English, for context. We were there a few months ago and I felt much more unsafe than he did and it's only gotten worse since. You are completely warranted to worry about what might happen. Ice are grabbing people off of the streets and attacking them, all people who they think can't fight back. As a non white woman it is totally valid to be worried. My mom is also an American citizen but she is a small, brown woman and I worry about her constantly. It is not crazy to see what is happening in America right now and to worry that it's not safe. I don't think it would be an issue to bring it up with your colleagues, as long as they are rational, thinking humans who aren't living under a rock.

It must be so stressful so for you and your family. And I imagine it also must feel quite surreal.

It's interesting that some people read my first post about solely being gunned down by ICE (which led to responses like 'if you don't go to a protest you'l be fine'). It's very hard for some people to understand that it's about far more than that.

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fucketyfucketyfuckerty · 08/02/2026 04:52

You’re less at risk in the southern states tbh. Trump called ICE into the cities who dislike him the most as revenge. Texas for example has some of the lowest ICE enforcement yet highest immigrant numbers. Also if they’re racially profiling (which they are) you will be fine. It’s the Latin Americans who are being targeted. The whole thing is sickening. But basically unless you’re a person of colour working a manual job (street food vendors, Home depot helpers (b&q type house stuff) or a nanny) or you’re running around waving a f*ck trump sign, you’ll be ok.

HopSpringsEternal · 08/02/2026 04:39

Ilovelifeverymuch · 07/02/2026 13:15

You're really over exaggerating and making things up now.

It's absolutely fine if you don't want to go but I live here and majority of Americans and visitors are going about their day to day business.

Going into a heavily Trump supporting state, and what are you expecting? That they setup roadblocks asking if you support Trump or not and shoot you if you say no????? Are you going to start political debates or do your work???

What southern state are you going because politics aside most southern states tend to be very friendly and respectful and it's actually purple haired mostly white liberals who are screaming like idiots, attacking people, wanting to know your political views so they can try to cancel you etc.

Go and do your business, treat everyone you meet with respect and avoid political and religious debates simple. And if you don't want to to go that's fine, speak to your boss and let them know.

As I've always said there's an unhealthy amount of news about the US being consumed in countries like the UK.

I don't know if it will help but this guy's recently visited the US from the UK and Ireland and had an amazing time in many statues including Louisiana in the south and I've seen a lot more recent videos from people who visited and have great times and enjoyed the hospitality of Americans irrespective if their political leanings. There's a lot of alarmist biased headlines and social media exaggerates things massively.

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This is like the videos of people going around Warsaw claiming their is no violence there. One person's experience is not a sensible way to assess risk.

suburberphobe · 08/02/2026 04:05

Just go and ignore the idiots.

Best I can offer.

USA is full of non Trump creeps.

PithyViewer · 08/02/2026 03:46

You'll be absolutely fine. ICE isn't interested in tourists who are only there for a few days. Exercise common sense like you would in any foreign destination. Meaning, in this case, just don't protest at a rally or get in ICE's way and you'll be fine. Enjoy all the great things the US has to offer outside its currently-crazy administration. You have the opportunity to travel with someone else paying - grab it!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/02/2026 02:54

"it's actually purple haired mostly white liberals who are screaming like idiots, attacking people, wanting to know your political views so they can try to cancel you etc."

Well, if that ain't a biased generalization, I know what is. Seriously.

gillefc82 · 08/02/2026 02:09

AnSolas · 06/02/2026 20:45

Why?

If your company is working overseas your travel security is something which it should take into account.

I have worked medium size companies which has one recommendion that staff always have ther luggage brought up by a staff to make sure the room was empty and only take taxis which were arranged by the hotel or company

An international one which had kidnapp insurance and a ransom rescue team and had strict travel rules about having the local staff arrange visitor movement in some parts of the world.

Another which had to try manage political unrest which left local workers trapped on site for days and their famalies trapped at home.

Most will not book senior managers on the same planes anymore.

And just getting the tube and buses in London is not a safe activity any more.

The US is not going to have any more danger than is had before for a documented non-national traveling on business. And if the local staff feel there could be a problem they will be able to notify you and the UK office.

Your main risk from State actors is that you dont know how to manage interactions with an armed police force. Or that you would panic if you think you may be detained/arrested. "Mainly peaceful protest" is not happening and other political activism is usually avoidable.

This is a good post. All large multinationals and many smaller companies with overseas operations will have Business Travel and Personal Accident Insurance. This cover often comes with an optional extension to cover ‘Special risks’, i.e. Kidnap and Ransom insurance. For companies who have large numbers of employees travelling every year, or to destinations that might be considered riskier than an EU country, they will tend to buy a standalone K&R policy.

My advice if you are concerned would be to read any internal business policies relating to international travel and request details of any relevant insurance policies in place, as well as what access/support is available to you should something happen during your trip (most insurers offer a 24/7 contact line for providing support and advice, including access to the services of security/crisis management specialists).

NoKidsSendDogs · 08/02/2026 01:07

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NoKidsSendDogs · 08/02/2026 01:03

I suspect most of the people here saying, what's the issue, you will be safe, you're with work colleagues, etc etc are not fully understanding your concerns. I am an American citizen currently living in the UK and I'm not white. I haven't lived there for about 13 years but I go back home regularly. My parents live in a blue state and my brother lives in a red one. My husband is white and English, for context. We were there a few months ago and I felt much more unsafe than he did and it's only gotten worse since. You are completely warranted to worry about what might happen. Ice are grabbing people off of the streets and attacking them, all people who they think can't fight back. As a non white woman it is totally valid to be worried. My mom is also an American citizen but she is a small, brown woman and I worry about her constantly. It is not crazy to see what is happening in America right now and to worry that it's not safe. I don't think it would be an issue to bring it up with your colleagues, as long as they are rational, thinking humans who aren't living under a rock.

Leopardspota · 07/02/2026 21:27

Swiftie1878 · 07/02/2026 20:32

It’s not a holiday. It’s a work trip.

Yes I know. But if it’s an option you can vote with your feet. My husband goes to America a lot less than he used to. He declines as many trips as possible.

Swiftie1878 · 07/02/2026 20:32

Leopardspota · 07/02/2026 18:58

I’d take my business (money/custom) elsewhere. Vote with my feet and stay away.

It’s not a holiday. It’s a work trip.

Wonderbug81 · 07/02/2026 20:24

Newnamehiwhodis · 07/02/2026 18:58

You are gaslighting.
it is truly dangerous here in the US right now, and suggesting someone should see their GP for anxiety when this is REAL is absolutely unhinged. You should maybe see your GP, but unfortunately there aren’t any medications that help a person gain empathy.

Thank you. Your response says it far better than I could have. The complete lack of understanding of what it could feel like for someone in this position (let alone people living in the US every day) is astounding.

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Newnamehiwhodis · 07/02/2026 18:58

Gloriia · 07/02/2026 18:49

I don't understand, surely if you're in a senior role you have the skills to put forward your concerns rationally to your boss and suggest zoom or similar instead?

Agree with pp unless you're going there illegally and intend to harass and obstruct law enforcement officers I don't think you've anything to worry about. Have you seen your gp about anxiety? It can often creep up on us particularly when heading towards or in peri/meno.

You are gaslighting.
it is truly dangerous here in the US right now, and suggesting someone should see their GP for anxiety when this is REAL is absolutely unhinged. You should maybe see your GP, but unfortunately there aren’t any medications that help a person gain empathy.

Leopardspota · 07/02/2026 18:58

Swiftie1878 · 06/02/2026 09:49

I’d go.
What you’re considering is exactly what Trump wants. Fuck ‘em. Walk in, head held high and don’t let these racist monsters curtail your activities.

I’d take my business (money/custom) elsewhere. Vote with my feet and stay away.

Newnamehiwhodis · 07/02/2026 18:55

YANBU. I live here (on the west coast, in a blue area) and I would not come here. And I won’t travel to any large U.S. city myself right now.
I know it might feel alarmist, but it truly isn’t safe right now… it maybe only feels like you’re being unreasonable (if you’re questioning this at all) because it just doesn’t seem like this could possibly be real - but it is.

it is INSANE what is going on right now.

i hope you can get out of coming here. I’m so sorry.

it’s true, the chances of you being safe are quite high, but why risk even the slightest chance of being dragged away and locked in one of their detainment places?

they’re not following any kind of due process. They are just bullies running around grabbing people. It’s truly horrific.

RampantIvy · 07/02/2026 18:52

Gloriia · 07/02/2026 18:49

I don't understand, surely if you're in a senior role you have the skills to put forward your concerns rationally to your boss and suggest zoom or similar instead?

Agree with pp unless you're going there illegally and intend to harass and obstruct law enforcement officers I don't think you've anything to worry about. Have you seen your gp about anxiety? It can often creep up on us particularly when heading towards or in peri/meno.

Could you be a little more patronising.

Gloriia · 07/02/2026 18:49

I don't understand, surely if you're in a senior role you have the skills to put forward your concerns rationally to your boss and suggest zoom or similar instead?

Agree with pp unless you're going there illegally and intend to harass and obstruct law enforcement officers I don't think you've anything to worry about. Have you seen your gp about anxiety? It can often creep up on us particularly when heading towards or in peri/meno.

RampantIvy · 07/02/2026 18:38

Wonderbug81 · 06/02/2026 18:05

Immigration at US airports always give me a hard time (I have a Muslim sounding surname). Hard to ignore the treatment of their own civillians, white or otherwise and I'll be a brown foreigner travelling to southern states.

I understand your concerns. When DD went to New York with school her white teacher from Manchester, but with a Spanish name was interrogated by immigration for 2 hours.

Simplestars · 07/02/2026 18:27

Forgotmyshades · 06/02/2026 19:20

I'm a British Asian with PR living in Virginia. As long as you're not lying on your visa, committing crime or putting yourself in the middle of police / law enforcement operations you'll be just fine.

There is a sinister atmosphere so I wouldn't blame a non white to think twice.

AnSolas · 07/02/2026 18:24

KeepPumping · 07/02/2026 15:22

And people were back on buses the next day?

Exactly my point.

KeepPumping · 07/02/2026 15:22

AnSolas · 06/02/2026 22:44

however it happened

And people were back on buses the next day?

OhDear111 · 07/02/2026 14:37

@Wonderbug81 And what % of those stats is against business visitors from the uk? I’d bet very little or none. It’s just over dramatic to think any of that will affect you. Your bosses might think you are just not wanting to do your job if the US matters to their business. If it’s just a jolly, don’t go.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 07/02/2026 14:21

Wonderbug81 · 07/02/2026 13:37

From The Guardian:

Reports from 2025 describe racial profiling, especially in areas under federal law-enforcement takeovers, where increased arrests and detentions disproportionately affected immigrants and people of colour. (e.g., Washington D.C. deployment)

In 2024, hate crimes in the U.S. were at their second-highest level on record, with more than half motivated by race or ethnicity.

For Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders specifically, a 2025 study found 53% experienced hate incidents in 2024, up from 2023, which respondents linked in part to the political climate and rhetoric.

I'm in the habit of reading well-balanced, well-reported news, not 'making things up' or taking one person's views as gospel.

And me on the ground have not experienced any of that but because the Guardian told you so therefore you spiral into despair and fear.

As I said the average American is going about their business as normal so it's up to you to keep getting yourself worked up over stats from the Guardian or not. Again there is an unhealthy amount of news about the US out where and it's very easy to just spiral on and on when majority of the news is exacerbated and biased.

Am I saying nothing is happening, of course not but when you read stuff like that or look on mumsnet or reddit it's like Armageddon in the USA which absolutely not true.

To avoid you continuing to spiral just tell your boss you don't want to go and move on with your life.

According to mumsnet I have to duck and hide and sprint every time I leave my house in Chicago because I'm a person of colour. FYI I don't and I have no fear or concern.

And yes immigration related arrests will affect people of colour way more because you have millions who have crossed the southern border, there is no way you will arrest equal number of whites and Hispanics for immigration related offences because guess what, there are way way way more hispanics who crossed the border illegally compared to eg white Brits. Guess what even under Obama and Biden most deportees will be southern and central Americans who crossed the border illegally so I don't get what you expect.

Also you do know that media can be biased as well right? You do know that mainstream media is dying and use sensational fear mongering to stay relevant right?

I've read some of those articles including the one by the Guardian story but they are NOT balanced views at all.

But as I said instead of spiraling on mumsnet, make the decision once and for all and inform you boss and move on with your life. You will always find what you look for, if you look for incidents of kindness and friendliness in the US you will also find it.

Also when they say 53% reported hate incidents is that 53% from 100 people or 53% from 10 million people???? There a reason they use those percentages not absolutes because it's more sensational.

Wonderbug81 · 07/02/2026 13:37

Ilovelifeverymuch · 07/02/2026 13:15

You're really over exaggerating and making things up now.

It's absolutely fine if you don't want to go but I live here and majority of Americans and visitors are going about their day to day business.

Going into a heavily Trump supporting state, and what are you expecting? That they setup roadblocks asking if you support Trump or not and shoot you if you say no????? Are you going to start political debates or do your work???

What southern state are you going because politics aside most southern states tend to be very friendly and respectful and it's actually purple haired mostly white liberals who are screaming like idiots, attacking people, wanting to know your political views so they can try to cancel you etc.

Go and do your business, treat everyone you meet with respect and avoid political and religious debates simple. And if you don't want to to go that's fine, speak to your boss and let them know.

As I've always said there's an unhealthy amount of news about the US being consumed in countries like the UK.

I don't know if it will help but this guy's recently visited the US from the UK and Ireland and had an amazing time in many statues including Louisiana in the south and I've seen a lot more recent videos from people who visited and have great times and enjoyed the hospitality of Americans irrespective if their political leanings. There's a lot of alarmist biased headlines and social media exaggerates things massively.

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From The Guardian:

Reports from 2025 describe racial profiling, especially in areas under federal law-enforcement takeovers, where increased arrests and detentions disproportionately affected immigrants and people of colour. (e.g., Washington D.C. deployment)

In 2024, hate crimes in the U.S. were at their second-highest level on record, with more than half motivated by race or ethnicity.

For Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders specifically, a 2025 study found 53% experienced hate incidents in 2024, up from 2023, which respondents linked in part to the political climate and rhetoric.

I'm in the habit of reading well-balanced, well-reported news, not 'making things up' or taking one person's views as gospel.

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