Is it rude to sell things that you’ve been given? In this scenario

I think Yabu. I have just not too long ago given an expensive baby item away +500. If I wanted to sell it I would have. If I have given it away then that’s where it ends for me. She chose to sell it, I guess she can do whatever she wants with it

I always sell on baby clothes and honestly couldn't remember if things were gifted/hand me downs or bought brand new!

So it's okay to sell on stuff people have bought for you from a shop but not second hand things that they once owned? Not being difficult but where is the line?!

If you don't want it, don't accept it.

Unless people really are forcing it on you, then it's probably less pain to accept it and move it on later - but I would give it at least 6 months.

yeah 'scumbag move'.

That's what i meant- said more succinctly.

Technically it's her stuff but i think it's a scumbag move.

I got so much free stuff from my friends; bath bath, monitor, pump, chair, lots and lots of clothes. As we no longer needed things I packed them up and gifted them forward again. Anything that wore out, I replaced and gave it forward. Things which I bought I gave it forward. After receiving so much it wouldn't occur to me to not gift on.

The only way I would justify this; she sold all of her own stuff too and basically hasn't kept track of where she got stuff (which is easily done imo).

Hmmm. I can understand how much this irritates you, 100%.I think at the least she should offer you half of the funds raised. But technically if something is given as a gift then it noi longer has anything to do with you and she can do what she likes. But it bites and does not seem quite morally right, I know.

I'd think differently about her though.

@Cornonthecob17 there was a woman on our local facebook group who was selling things that she'd got hold of through 'free to collector' ads on the same group. A lot of those giving stuff away had done it on a 'if anyone is struggling at the moment and needs a fridge/bed' basis. On a couple of occasions she'd even asked the person giving the thing away to drop it at her house as she said she didn't have a car - they'd helped her out. She got a very bad rap locally.

This exact thing happened to me except it was a stranger. Gave a HUGE amount of baby stuff away to a local woman via Facebook. Some of it was never used. I was too tired with a newborn to sell it. She turned round and tried to sell the new stuff on the same Facebook page! It’s absolutely shocking. If somebody gave me stuff, while yes it’s technically now mine to do with as I please, I would first ask the original person if I wanted it back and if not I would pass it on for free!

Are you planning more children? If not, once you have given them to someone they are free to do whatever they like with them.

What she did was rude. If she couldn't use them it would have been in the spirit of things to tell you that or to pass the goodwill on to someone who could use the clothes.

You are obviously a kinder and more generous person than her. I'm sorry she's abused your good nature.

Unless you specifically said you wanted them back (for another child for example and you were just lending them to her) then I think it's fine. Most people sell on their baby items once outgrown. It was your choice to pass them on for free.

If you gave them away it's no longer up to you what happens to them unless you specify at the time.

I think it’s a bit cheeky of her, if she’s not using it then I personally think it should have been offered to you - or given away for free to someone who needed it.