Is it rude to sell things that you’ve been given? In this scenario

No. You gave it away. That's the end of your involvement. If you want to put conditions on your gift, you tell them at the outset " I'd like these back when you're finished".

Why have you decided not to give things away anymore? That seems counterintuitive. I think once you get rid of something it’s not yours. It’s quite controlling to expect to have your say on how it is used/disposed of afterwards. Surely if you don’t need something and are happy to give it away just do it?

If you give stuff away, I don't think you can really attach conditions to it. If Jo found she didn't need some of it, it's fine for her to move it on as she sees fit.

Of course you wanted it out of the house, that's why you were going to sell it 🤦‍♀️

But then you decided to give it to Jo, so now it's out of the house - job done.

And that's twice you've mentioned the washing.

This is the least I would expect from anyone. No-one wants crusty baby clothes.

Off loading a tonne of used stuff is not always helpful I have found.
you have it away - it’s not an heirloom piece of jewellery, you didn’t say you wanted it back. Tough toenails.

YANBU - some people just don't have the same moral values at the rest of us!

If she was desperate for money and needed to sell stuff to buy bigger sizes etc then I would think that'd be OK. But if it was a 'too good to give away' as you've said - and she's making lots of cash from your generosity then I think she's a pretty shitty individual. I hate this sort of thing but some people are just like that - selfish and not willing to help others - I'm sure plenty families would have been very grateful for some free stuff. I certainly wouldn't give her anything in the future. I'd pass anything you have in future on to a local church or a baby bank if you have one locally.

Never give Jo anything again.

I used to beclike you …. But now I think if you gift someone, then it’s theirs to do with as they wish - throw it in the bin if they want.
I would have ‘hated’ what Jo did, thought she was an ungrateful, cf, but these days , everything goes down the charity shop. If they can make some money on it for a good cause - great.
I certainly don’t want to see ‘Jean’ of fb , flogging it at the car boot
it would be nice to feel warm and fuzzy for the kind thing you did , but Jo’s doesn’t really seem to have read the room - and u wouldn’t be helping her out again.
oh and Jo’s mum is a big stir, who I’d also be looking at differently

But your post doesn't say whether Jo actually used it first before deciding herself not to give away for free but instead to sell on. And how does the relative know if was all the stuff you gave?

It sounds like you are a bit jealous that Jo has done what you now realise you should have done.

You wanted that stuff out of your house and that's what happened.

After that I don't know why you'd give it another thought.

Did you give her it completely altruistically, or did you need to offload it somewhere anyway? Did you plan to sell it if you haven’t given it to her?

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. If I gave someone a bunch of baby clothes they were probably doing me as much of a favour by taking them as I was by giving them. Maybe they could really use the money, maybe a bunch of people have been as generous as you and they have way too much and no idea where it all came from, maybe their house is full of stuff and they don’t know anyone who needs it or where to donate loads of baby clothes.

Do all the gifts you give come with strings attached?

She did what you couldn’t be bothered to do. If you’d needed the money, you would have sold them yourself. If you give things away, the recipient can do what they like with them.

I’ve given away heaps of stuff. Whether people use it, or sell it to buy things they need, that’s up to them.

If you'd said 'we'll have anything you don't want back again afterwards' then? I'd understand why you were cross, but you didn't.

I presume they thought that you don't want any of it any more and that's why you gave it all away.

It's lowlife behaviour, frankly. You don't accept things for free and then sell them, unless the giver says that's ok.

Hmm it's a bit off to sell it all but would you really want it back? I'm not convinced passing stuff on is always completely selfless, people love to get stuff out of their house! Selling takes a degree of effort which not everyone wants to put in. I'd rather just give it to charity and be done with it. I'm careful what I pass on as it can just clutter up other people's houses.

I think that's rude of her in that scenario and I wouldn't be giving her anything again.

I've sold stuff passed on to me by relatives and have offered them the money or have bought drinks etc when we've been out together.

Lesson learned, don’t give expensive items away freely or lend them instead.
She should have asked if you wanted them back.

You gave it away presumably because you didn't want it any more. Had you wanted to sell it, you could have done. Presumably you couldn't be arsed, and giving it to someone else was easier than selling it or taking it down the charity shop or the tip.

It's not your stuff any more, it's Jo's. Presumably you also gave it to Jo to help her out. It's still helping her out, now she's selling it. She's getting money that presumably she could do with.

Edit: Fucking hell I loved my "presumably"s in that post!