Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

No plus ones to friends wedding

129 replies

VelmaKe11y · 05/02/2026 12:35

We live in leeds and she is getting married in Edinburgh in December. She has just told us in our friends group chat that our partners aren’t invited, and will just be ourselves.

We can all travel over there together and stay over somewhere so it’s not as if I’ll be going on my own. But I have never heard of this before. I have recently got engaged myself and it never occurred to me to invite people but not their partners?? Is this a common thing?

OP posts:
VelmaKe11y · 05/02/2026 12:39

MatildaTheCat · 05/02/2026 12:39

Maybe you haven’t spent much time on mn? There are people questioning their wedding invitations or lack thereof every day.

in a nutshell it’s very common and nobody is demanding your attendance.

Oops! No I haven’t seen it 🙈

OP posts:
ShetlandishMum · 05/02/2026 12:39

Reduces cost. Quite common tbh.

MatildaTheCat · 05/02/2026 12:39

Maybe you haven’t spent much time on mn? There are people questioning their wedding invitations or lack thereof every day.

in a nutshell it’s very common and nobody is demanding your attendance.

Buscobel · 05/02/2026 12:38

I think it’s becoming a common thing, when people are trying to reduce costs. I imagine it would be tricky to leave out spouses, but not partners. Or maybe it wouldn’t!

She’s told you well in advance, so you can discuss it with your partner and your friends and make a decision.