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Should i let my children be looked after this person?

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YourDenimTraybake · 05/02/2026 11:12

This is a delicate matter…
just wanted to hear peoples views.

A distant family member has gotten themself into a tricky situation where they can’t be around kids at the moment.

They are currently staying at a family members house until this is sorted out. We haven’t been for a while because they are staying there and we have children. But we do visit often under normal circumstances.

My kids are supposed to going in a few weeks for the day. Under normal circumstances i would be happy for them to go. However i have been told the person in question won’t be there, they will be a work.

Do you think it’s ok for my kids to still go. I’ve been told that they won’t be there at all whilst my kids are there.

I am a little worried, but only because I don’t wanna get into trouble doing the wrong thing.

Sorry if I’ve been vague. 🤦🏼‍♀️ don’t really know how to approach the situation.

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MidWayThruJanuary · 05/02/2026 11:22

So it sounds like an uncle has been found to be grooming children online or similar. He has moved back home to his parents house. His parents are grandparents to your children. Is that it?

Stompythedinosaur · 05/02/2026 11:21

It depends if you can trust the person caring for them to prioritise their needs over the family member.

I'd tend toward not doing it.

MidnightPatrol · 05/02/2026 11:19

“A distant family member has gotten themself into a tricky situation where they can’t be around kids at the moment.“

What does this mean?

BauhausOfEliott · 05/02/2026 11:18

Even if the person who 'can't be around kids' isn't there, I don't think I'd want to send a child to the home of someone who was happy to have a suspected paedophile living with them.

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 05/02/2026 11:15

No, I wouldn't let them go unsupervised. If there was any chance that they would turn up or the family member didn't let you know that had came home, how would you find out? Do you trust that family member implicitly to tell the truth? Are they pushing for your children to visit? Could they visit you instead?

Fitzcarraldo353 · 05/02/2026 11:13

If you have to take to MN to ask then the answer is no. You're not comfortable so don't do it.