Should i let my children be looked after this person?

Please don't, better be careful than ruining one of your children's life for not wanting to disappoint your family member, they can come and visit your children with your supervision (not the member with the charges of doing indecency) life can change in a second and you will feel super bad for not putting boundaries.

Your post is vague. If this person cannot be around children, the answer is no, absolutely not. Do not send your children to a place where this person could show up.

I think don't go but invite the person who wants to see the children to come to yours. That person, hosting the other family member will probably be distraught, bewildered, angry, sad, at what the other family member has done and for putting them in the situation of having them to live with them or presumably be homeless.

Tricky situation....just name it Stop downplaying it with euphemisms.

It's bad if they can't be around children.

Don't let your children go there, he might turn up with unexpected.

Ask the relatives (not the problem guy) to visit you or babysit in your home?

No, I wouldn't. There are no situations where I'd trust a person who allowed someone in this 'tricky situation' to have my children in their house.

Depends how much you trust your sitters.

Tbh i wouldnt take my children to the home of people i doubted would keep them from an unsafe person at any time.

Also, appreciate your need for discretion but people arent baned from all children for nice reasons. Im not sure id like that this relative was happy to house the unsafe person at all

Can you children be looked after in the home of a paedophile? Really?

If you really have to ask if it's ok to send your kids to be around some one who's prepared to support a nonce even if said nonce won't be there, you really need to take a long hard look at yourself and get yourself on a boundaries and safe guarding course or something because I can't believe you're even considering this.

Nope. You can't be sure they won't come home early from work.

As others have said, the mere fact that these people are housing someone unsafe to be around children, then no, you don't take them there. If it was me, I'd have nothing to do with any of them. And if you have to seek guidance on a forum, about whether yoy should be protecting your own children from a potential predator, then there is something quite wrong in that too!

NO

If the situation is as most people think it is (your brother or BIL) moving back to his parents or your in-laws after being accused of some form of child abuse, then no I would not send my kids there if it was me. Just not worth the risk. However, I would also understand that there’s a lot more nuance to the situation than simply “the parents are evil enablers who are clearly just as disgusting as him, don’t let your kids be around them either”! No. Anyone who has children SHOULD know that the love you have for your child is unconditional, and they must be in an extremely difficult position. It doesn’t mean they’re not disgusted by what he has ALLEGEDLY done. Still doesn’t mean they turn their backs on him allow him to become homeless. We also don’t have the full details. He has clearly not been convicted yet. Yes, protect your children at all costs but don’t judge parents for trying to do their best in what must be an impossible situation

I would say no. If anything changed, and anything happened, you’d never forgive yourself.
meet out instead, have lunch etc

No way at all should your kids be going there make alternative arrangements

I was about to ask if the family member's name was Andrew.

The family member in the "tricky" position would be absolutely against your children visiting if they were genuine.

They'd want to protect themselves from further allegations and protect your children from being questioned if they did end up crossing paths.

A man I knew through work was wrongly accused of something (genuinely wasn't him - child said X's dad had touched them and it was actually X's stepdad. Stepdad was convicted) and during the investigation time they were super cautious and super protective of making sure no child was around them because the children who had to be interviewed by the police went through a horrible ordeal.

You also don't want to normalise going to the house while they live there.

No. Non. Nein. Nyet
Trust your gut, this cannot end well.

Nope. Not worth the risk.

If you’re asking on here, you’re obviously not sure, so it’s a hard no. Even if it’s 1% risk, you shouldn’t take it no no no.

Hard no from me.

You sound like you're nervous about saying no too. I'd appreciate that it's tough. However, try not to make excuses or justifications or reasons as to why.
Just say "I'm afraid kids won't be able to come on X day". And change subject. I wouldn't give any reason or justification and I wouldn't be drawn on it.

If the person they're visiting is close to you and you usually trust them and your kids love them - then you could invite the person they're visiting to your home when you're around maybe.

This.

Would the other family members come to your house to spend time with your kids?
I wouldn't allow mine anywhere near their house whilst there was a risk of said person coming back whilst they are there .

And edited to say MN has removed the post I was replying to so this no longer makes sense 😳

Nope. I would question your continuing relationship with this person as well for allowing someone like that in their home.