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To feel the loss. Twinless twin

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Chickencuddle · 04/02/2026 23:11

I was born an identical twin. My twin passed away a day after we were born. Im not sure if its because I dont really have many people in my life and no family really. But I always felt there was a nice of me missing and I wish she could have been hwre. When things are hard I think if her. I feel a bit guilty too that im the one who lived.
Am I totally crazy?
Is anyone else a twinless twin.

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Chickencuddle · 04/02/2026 23:31

I obviously didnt explain it well and my mum was embarrassed I think that she had to explain.

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Chickencuddle · 04/02/2026 23:30

She was never really spoken about I was told about her once when I was told about her. I remember being told and the next day in school being upset abd telling my teacher I was sad because my sister died.
The teacher spoke to my mum and I got in trouble because I shouldn't be upset it didnt even happen to me and I was just wanting attention as usual. So I never spoke about her again really. But As an adult I found the grave and visit and may flowers. I often wish she was here and feel the empty space next to me.

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incognitomummy · 04/02/2026 23:28

at school I knew identical twins who had been triplets. And I know they felt like this too. So no you are not crazy.

Tillow4ever · 04/02/2026 23:23

You’re not crazy. I’m so sorry you never got to grow up with your twin, I cannot imagine the guilt you’d feel over being the one that survived, despite it not being your fault.

I actually think it’s nice that you think of her, and what she would have been like.

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Chickencuddle · 04/02/2026 23:14

Meant to say *piece of me missing

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