To feel the loss. Twinless twin

Chickencuddle · 2026-02-04T23:11:11+00:00

I was born an identical twin. My twin passed away a day after we were born. Im not sure if its because I dont really have many people in my life and no family really. But I always felt there was a nice of me missing and I wish she could have been hwre. When things are hard I think if her. I feel a bit guilty too that im the one who lived. Am I totally crazy? Is anyone else a twinless twin.

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Ella31 · 05/02/2026 00:12

I'm not a twin but I am a mom to identical twin baby boys who died two years ago. My little 1st twin was born sleeping and my second boy died three days later in the NICU.

What you are feeling is pure love and loss for your sister. Are you part of footprints twin loss group on facebook? It's private and They welcome all types of twin loss. You will meet like minded people there. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

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I’m very sorry darling

SorcererGaheris · 18/02/2026 10:50

You're not being unreasonable at all. This is supposed to be a fairly common thing with twins who lost their twin in childbirth.

Elvis had a twin who died at birth (Jesse Garon Presley) and it's said that Elvis felt like a part of him was missing throughout his life.

Hubertus · 18/02/2026 10:42

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jimcampbell2_the-rescuing-hugkyrie-and-brielle-jackson-share-7427100694228385792-qlRP?utm_source=social_share_send&utm_medium=android_app&rcm=ACoAABPsPAcBc4z7D7ZRNe8HJLVrZ4Vm7yByuwU&utm_campaign=copy_link
I think this says everything about why you and so many twinless twins feel a loss in their lives, @Chickencuddle .

The Rescuing Hug... Kyrie and Brielle Jackson were born on October 17th 1995 at the Massachusetts Memorial Hospital in Worcester, MA. Each of the twins weighed only two pounds at birth... Though… | Jim Campbell | 147 comments

The Rescuing Hug... Kyrie and Brielle Jackson were born on October 17th 1995 at the Massachusetts Memorial Hospital in Worcester, MA. Each of the twins weighed only two pounds at birth... Though Kyrie was putting on a bit of weight in the days follow...

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jimcampbell2_the-rescuing-hugkyrie-and-brielle-jackson-share-7427100694228385792-qlRP?rcm=ACoAABPsPAcBc4z7D7ZRNe8HJLVrZ4Vm7yByuwU

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AnOddOne · 09/02/2026 23:59

I took my traumas to a therapist some years ago

@feelingsarentfacts Might be worth revisiting?

feelingsarentfacts · 09/02/2026 23:50

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andthat · 09/02/2026 23:37

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Oh have a day off @feelingsarentfacts.

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:25

Thats interesting. My husband often says I have adhd. Not sure if I do or not. Thank you for your reply and hope you find some resolution in your diagnosis if you decide to pursue one.

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Thank you. Just reading up about ADHD and getting some good advice on working with it has been a game changer for me, so I'm not pushing for a formal diagnosis.

Wishing you all the best.

feelingsarentfacts · 09/02/2026 23:29

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:25

missymousey · 09/02/2026 23:22

You have shown such grace in your responses to this person OP. They're not worth further engagement.

Growing up I often wondered if I had been meant to be a twin (there were several sets of twins in the family and it was before scans were a thing so my mum might never have known if she'd been pregnant with twins). I always felt like there was something missing, someone who might understand me. However, a few years ago I realised I may have ADHD, so I also wonder if some types of neurodiversity can lead to similar feelings.

Anyway, thank you for starting this thread. So many beautiful and sad stories in these posts and YANBU at all for feeling the way you do. I'm sorry for all the losses here.

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Thats interesting. My husband often says I have adhd. Not sure if I do or not. Thank you for your reply and hope you find some resolution in your diagnosis if you decide to pursue one.

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:24

Ill let you have your peace and stop responding. Maybe think about why you got so angry about this and perhaps there's other things too. Hurt people hurt people. Just love ❤️

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:04

Ok ill leave you to your own thoughts and feelings and I will have mine as you ointed out we are all entitled to them 😃

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You have shown such grace in your responses to this person OP. They're not worth further engagement.

Growing up I often wondered if I had been meant to be a twin (there were several sets of twins in the family and it was before scans were a thing so my mum might never have known if she'd been pregnant with twins). I always felt like there was something missing, someone who might understand me. However, a few years ago I realised I may have ADHD, so I also wonder if some types of neurodiversity can lead to similar feelings.

Anyway, thank you for starting this thread. So many beautiful and sad stories in these posts and YANBU at all for feeling the way you do. I'm sorry for all the losses here.

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:22

You love the word projecting dont you. Sorry its not very entertaining for you 😅 you are welcome to leave the thread whenever you please of course.

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:13

You had already asked me are you attention seeking and that was my reply. But sure go off. Its actually quite entertaining.

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Chickencuddle · 09/02/2026 23:08

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I didnt ask that but ok. Bye.

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Pretty much, yes.

Gahr · 09/02/2026 23:05

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I am not going to be 'compassionate and empathetic'. I think you are a nasty so and so who enjoys getting a rise out of people. Also, if you are so against 'empathy' why are you so sure of what the OP's mother felt and that she was so devastated by losing OP's twin? You can't even keep your unpleasantness consistent.

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Ok ill leave you to your own thoughts and feelings and I will have mine as you ointed out we are all entitled to them 😃

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I mean, if the race to the bottom is what you want, you’re certainly winning 🥇